Looking for friends for motivation!

Hey my goal is also 80lbs to lose. One thing that I have done is write my why on my bathroom mirror so I can see it every morning. You can do this!

I started my journey back in 2017 and I weighed in at 238 pounds almost 2 years later I’m now down to 182 it’s been extremely hard work but I’ve stuck to it y’all can do it please feel free to add me

I've got about 130 i want to lose. I'll add you and we can motivate each other! All friend requests are welcome here

Back again !!! My new start weight is 206.4 lbs! I want to lose 20 lbs!
I started last December with 216 and lost 20 lbs until March/April! Gained 10 again!!!
Feel free to add me too!

You're not lacking or struggling with motivation. You're just misunderstanding it.

Motivation is what makes a change happen. It's impetus or the catalyst. Motivation is the difference between "I want to" and "I will". Motivation is what overcomes the inertia, it's a powerful short burst that gets things moving. But motivation is a finite resource, eventually after it's done it job of making the change happen it will run out.

One of the 'secrets' I attribute to my sustained success this time round (11 months and 40kg lost) is that I refused this time to do anything that required me to have 'motivation' and instead did things that came naturally.

Eating foods that I didn't love just because they were "health foods" required motivation so I just ate food I enjoyed in a calorie deficit - No motivation required
Going to the gym to exercise always required motivation so this time I found an activity I enjoy (cycling) to get exercise and since I love going for a ride I don't need motivation to do it.

Basically I tried something and if I enjoyed it I kept doing it. If it required 'motivation' I'd ditch it look for something else. So my approach to motivation was to avoid having to be motivated.

That said sometimes you need to make a change that you can't avoid. In those cases, when the motivation that got you started runs out you need something different to keep you going. You need decisiveness and determination. Once you've made a decision, a Real decision, that thing becomes non-negotiable and doesn't rely on motivation because there's no alternative.

One thing that has been the biggest struggle but also I am really thankful is that I am trying to figure out new ways to reward myself instead of food. During the past I would tell myself that oh I had a hard day at work so you deserve to this unhealthy food.