Sensitivity and eating disorders. PLEASE READ.

that's bull that you were treated like this =/ I'm sorry and I wish I could take some of the hurt away...you are VERY strong to overcome an eating disorder on your own.

Thank you for having the courage to say what I couldn't

sorry this happens to u. i happen to have comments such as u just want attention too. But i am overweight majorly. i think its just as bad wen some1 has an E.D. but being over weight is alot easier to come by i think but ive never been thin or had an E.D. so i guess all i can say is sorry u were treated like that bc with an E.D u need just as much support.

I'm sorry for your experience. I have never had that eating disorder, I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. Yes, I think it is silly you think you are fat if your not medically but that's my opinion. I suggest starting a group with people who identify with you versus trying to have people from a different walk to life understand you. I personally would not bully you, I would instead suggest seeing a therapist or so, so you can deal with any underlying issues you may have, or a trauma that caused you to look @ yourself diff. Idk I'm no doctor. Hang in there and keep strong. You can do it

Sorry to hear you have had a bad experience here in the past. I really hope it's different this time. Well done for staying strong & good luck with your quest to get healthy

I think a lot of people don't really and truly believe that eating disorders are mental illnesses. Telling someone that they're being vain when they are disordered and think that they are fat is so very ignorant. I think it can be partly because of jealousy and that kind of person has no idea that there's nothing to be jealous of.

Hi. I am sorry people were mean to you. I have been laughed at myself for different reasons throughout my life... "Hey 4 eyes" or "you are so lame you can't hit the ball out of the infield." Yeah, I was the 4 eyed un-athletic nerd. Like you I had to over come on my own. Now I am not saying that my appearance and lack of athleticism is equivalent to your struggles, just that I experienced enough of people to know a little of how you feel.

I really don't like mean people, but I have come to learn that it is usually a mask they wear to cover their own insecurities and draw attention away from themselves. So I ignore them... as best I can.

As for MFP, I have found people here to be very warm and helpful and I hope you do too. I lost 35lbs a few years ago and gained 20+ back before finding MFP. My take is now NOT to "diet" or "loose weight" but rather to learn to live a healthier lifestyle by learning to eat PROPERLY and exercise regularly and effectively.

I recently watched an interview with the famous Olympic gymnast, Mary Lou Rettin who said that she did not permit scales in her home. I kinda like that and am working towards having that attitude myself.

How we FEEL is more important than the way we look... being healthy helps us to FEEL and look better.

Best wishes to you!!

i totally understand, i got a lot of similar inconsiderate comments too from people on this site, because i had alluded to my ED in my "about me" section. you're right it is really annoying to hear the dismissive "oh stop it you're not fat" as if that'll make you see yourself any differently. i guess since the majority of people here haven't struggled with anorexia you might not get a ton of support, but as you can see there are still people here who understand :flowerforyou: good luck getting healthy and don't let the haters get to you!

Well said. However, I think most of the problems comes with people who aren't ready to admit their problem. It puts everyone else on the forum between a rock and a hard place because you don't want to support starving yourself or a binge/purge cycle (or just binging) however what are you supposed to do when they post a thread about it? Just let the pro-ana people reply?

I am so beyond sick of reading ignorant comments on these boards about 'super skinny girls' or 'anorexics'. I am sick of people sympathizing with the obese, and looking down upon girls with ED's.

When I was 14 I was convinced I was fat. I was 5'6 and 109 lbs but for some reason everytime I looked in the mirror, all I could think of was how absolutely disgusting I looked. And as if that wasn't bad enough, I had NO ONE to talk to about it because as soon as I even mentioned the fact that I thought I was fat people would jump down my throat.

It was all "Oh Jacolyn, shut up you're not fat"
"Oh Jacolyn stop being so stupid"
and the worst one of all
"Stop being such an attention *kitten*."

So while my tiny 14 year old self was struggling with an eating disorder, and killing myself in the process, everyone else was busy talking about how stupid I was. How vain I had become, and how I'm just looking for attention.

Luckily I am a strong girl and I had to recover all on my own, with absolutely no help from those who were supposedly my 'friends'.

But now when I'm trying to lose weight the healthy way, I come on to these boards expecting to be greeted with open arms and love and instead I run into the same comments.

As SOON as someone finds out I'm not overweight, or that I used to have an ED I get HORRIBLE and HURTFUL comments, and I have to make a new account.


So for the record, being anorexic is JUST as painful as being overweight. GET. OFF. YOUR. HIGH. HORSE.

I am not overweight, and I used to have an eating disorder. I have never been treated poorly on this website based on those circumstances. Although, I went through in-patient and out-patient treatment and had the help and guidance from a nutritionist and psychologist in order to resolve the underlying issues and allow me to live a normal life.

I completely recovered (it was a little rocky at times, but I have never relapsed and it has been seven years). I am focusing on getting myself into the best shape of my life now and working toward reaching goals I never thought I'd be able to do like completing a mud race, completing P90X, running a 5k &10k, completing Tough Mudder.. All of these things I must work toward, and I'd never be able to complete them if I fell into unhealthy patterns.

Through my past treatment and the knowledge I gained in nursing school, I will not let myself enter that Hell again. Ever. I know my warning signs, I know my health is on the line.

Perhaps some people have the idea that all previous eating disorder MFPers are always being unhealthy, and while that's not the case all of the time, more often than not those who have past issues never sought medical/mental help and still cannot grasp a healthy relationship between food and exercise. Recovery without relapse in patients who seek professional guidance accounts about 50% of all eating disorder cases, so think about the relapse statistics for those who "self-treat". It was advised to me that if I ever needed to legitimately lose weight, I should do so under the supervision of a nutritionist and therapist in order to avoid relapse.


** I had about 2034876240 thoughts going through my mind, so forgive me if this was jumbled.