does anyone feel guilty after snacking?
trulyhealy
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i let myself get hungry bc my breakfast wasn’t as filling as normal which lead me to get a waffle and a cake thing at lunch i fel so guilty and i ruined everything even tho what i’ve had today and i already logged in a healthy snack my calories are at like 1,050 and i still have to have dinner. idk what’s wrong with me
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Why not just have a more filling breakfast the next time, one day is not the end of the world and it certainly hasn't ruined anything.
What rate of loss did you choose and how much do you have to lose? You may have chosen too aggressive a rate of loss.5 -
tinkerbellang83 wrote: »Why not just have a more filling breakfast the next time, one day is not the end of the world and it certainly hasn't ruined anything.
What rate of loss did you choose and how much do you have to lose? You may have chosen too aggressive a rate of loss.
yeah i plan to go back to oatmeal rather than just a small smoothie and 1 pound a week. mfp told me 1200 but i’m aiming for 1,3500 and 1,400 at most. i think i feel guilty bc it’s unhealthy idk it’s so annoying
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Believe me... we all go through this! I am trying the keto way to see what happens...I was doing so dang well and then "poof" I fell off... stupid sweet tooth. Don't beat yourself up... just get back on track. Here I go again at it, it must be my zillionth time to try and get this weight off. You hit 50 and then all of sudden you are carrying weight you never knew would appear... I feel like I am pregnant with twins again. Ugh...1
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I'm a perfectionist. If I don't stick 100% to my plan (whether it's food, exercise, work or something else), I feel guilty. It doesn't do me any good, but that's how I'm put together. I'm trying to improve on this area. While learning to accept that sometimes things don't have to be 100% to be good enough, I try to put some more slack in my plans... (but enough about me)
I think your plan on going back to oatmeal is great (I would starve on a smoothie
) And increasing to 1400 kcal/day sounds sustainable and healthy.
Be kind to yourself and do enjoy your guilt free dinner tonight
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trulyhealy wrote: »tinkerbellang83 wrote: »Why not just have a more filling breakfast the next time, one day is not the end of the world and it certainly hasn't ruined anything.
What rate of loss did you choose and how much do you have to lose? You may have chosen too aggressive a rate of loss.
yeah i plan to go back to oatmeal rather than just a small smoothie and 1 pound a week. mfp told me 1200 but i’m aiming for 1,3500 and 1,400 at most. i think i feel guilty bc it’s unhealthy idk it’s so annoying
It only tells you how many calories based on the info you put in.
A healthy balanced diet can include all kinds of food as long as it's in moderation, I think you need to try working on your relationship with food and stop thinking of them as good and bad. A smoothie and oatmeal isn't good and a piece of cake and a waffle aren't bad, it's just food, some is less nutritionally dense but both can form part of a good overall diet.
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tinkerbellang83 wrote: »
It only tells you how many calories based on the info you put in.
A healthy balanced diet can include all kinds of food as long as it's in moderation, I think you need to try working on your relationship with food and stop thinking of them as good and bad. A smoothie and oatmeal isn't good and a piece of cake and a waffle aren't bad, it's just food, some is less nutritionally dense but both can form part of a good overall diet.
^True! (I was mentioning oatmeal over a smoothie as a good idea, as it would be more filling for me than a smoothie)
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Weight loss is a learning event. No one starts out doing everything perfectly.
What did you learn from this? Apply that to your weight loss going forward.
There will be lots of times like this. If you allow these to throw you off track, you're never going to reach your goals.7 -
no because i plan for them in my daily goals. i eat at least two snacks and three meals. I also do NOT skimp out breakfast which must sustain me many hours. i learn some foods/breakfast don't keep me full enough so i avoid those.
what rate of loss did you put in MFP to get 1200? you mention wanting ot lose 1 stone so you should be at a rate of loss of .5lb/week and eating back exercise calories.3 -
The only time I feel guilty is when I'm tempted to not go to the trouble of logging it, which is ridiculous because logging it takes about 10 seconds.
I'm aiming for .5lb a week and I vary day to day how close I get to that 250cal. deficit, but it is working. Like quiksylver296 said, it's a learning event. One snack or a bad day does not negate the entire journey.1 -
I gave up guilt for lent.10
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garystrickland357 wrote: »
If I did this I would lose 50% of my emotional depth, the other being rage.6 -
trulyhealy wrote: »i let myself get hungry bc my breakfast wasn’t as filling as normal which lead me to get a waffle and a cake thing at lunch i fel so guilty and i ruined everything even tho what i’ve had today and i already logged in a healthy snack my calories are at like 1,050 and i still have to have dinner. idk what’s wrong with me
I think you really need to work on your mindset.3 -
MichelleSilverleaf wrote: »trulyhealy wrote: »i let myself get hungry bc my breakfast wasn’t as filling as normal which lead me to get a waffle and a cake thing at lunch i fel so guilty and i ruined everything even tho what i’ve had today and i already logged in a healthy snack my calories are at like 1,050 and i still have to have dinner. idk what’s wrong with me
I think you really need to work on your mindset.
what mindest do u think0 -
trulyhealy wrote: »MichelleSilverleaf wrote: »trulyhealy wrote: »i let myself get hungry bc my breakfast wasn’t as filling as normal which lead me to get a waffle and a cake thing at lunch i fel so guilty and i ruined everything even tho what i’ve had today and i already logged in a healthy snack my calories are at like 1,050 and i still have to have dinner. idk what’s wrong with me
I think you really need to work on your mindset.
what mindest do u think
Your current mindset. You've posted before about things like feeling a 4lb loss over a month wasn't quick enough, here feeling guilty about having a snack, at least once you expressed feeling like you want to give up. We're all here to help you and you've gotten a lot of good advice over all your threads. I really think you need to take a deep breath, relax and work on eliminating this guilt you have over food. Food is just food, it's not good nor bad (unless you have an allergy or illness naturally). When you blunder (and we all do, it's not that there's anything wrong with you), you examine how and why it happened and do better going forward. You can't undo it, so why stress over it?
You want long-term success? Learn how to incorporate the things you love. Waffle and cake aren't going to hurt long term if you're otherwise being consistent. Don't be afraid to have a day once in awhile at maintenance to squeeze something in. Balance is key. Otherwise you'll be doing this song and dance a long time and I know you don't want that.12 -
Not at all - I snarfed 5 donuts, tortilla chips and a truck-load of peanut butter Saturday night (after having eaten everything that I intended to eat for the day). No guilt and no remorse.2
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MichelleSilverleaf wrote: »trulyhealy wrote: »MichelleSilverleaf wrote: »trulyhealy wrote: »i let myself get hungry bc my breakfast wasn’t as filling as normal which lead me to get a waffle and a cake thing at lunch i fel so guilty and i ruined everything even tho what i’ve had today and i already logged in a healthy snack my calories are at like 1,050 and i still have to have dinner. idk what’s wrong with me
I think you really need to work on your mindset.
what mindest do u think
Your current mindset. You've posted before about things like feeling a 4lb loss over a month wasn't quick enough, here feeling guilty about having a snack, at least once you expressed feeling like you want to give up.
^^This. So I'll just quote myself from the "is my body is trying to sabotage me" thread:
OP, you've had several posts the last few days that would indicate you are being a bit obsessive. If this is part of a larger pattern, it would probably benefit you to get some professional help.4 -
I have to admit I'm quite baffled by this perfect or nothing attitude when it comes to managing calorie intake.
I mean, if you were driving somewhere and took a wrong turn would you say you've ruined your trip and go back home? If you were writing a letter and made a spelling mistake would you throw the letter out because you ruined it? If you were learning to play a musical instrument and hit a wrong note would you beat yourself up over it?
Of course not! You'd get back on track, you'd fix your error and you'd move on.9 -
I just avoid breakfast, fill up with water (or the occasional cup of tea). I found it amazing how rarely I actually feel hungry, and I certainly never get rumbling tummy or stomach cramps of any kind. Avoid thinking about food at all, focussing on other activities..
My suggestion is, go properly 'hungry', i.e. not just craving food, see what it feels like, it's not that bad, and I personally find I can go the whole day up to dinner on less than 300 calories quite easily, it's all a matter of not being afraid to feel a little hungry.
It's all about choices. You have choices to eat little and low calorie, or make excuses and go out and buy waffles and cakes (not really a surprise you're above 1000 calories is it?)
If you actively chose to fill up on rubbish then feel guilty about it, or bemoan the fact you are going over your limit, then that suggests you're not committed enough to the plan. It's a lifestyle thing, live it or don't, there's no successful middle ground here in my experience.
In summary:
a) It's ok to be hungry, it won't kill you. Drink some water.
b) Stop listening to your own excuses.
c) Instead of consuming high calorie food, find something else to do, e.g. exercise.
d) If you're really really hungry, a stalk of celery and a tiny bit of humous will fill the gap.
e) You're in control, you make the choices, all you have to do is to make the right choices.5 -
At the beginning of my new daily meal plan I did feel guilty when I snacked - usually when I ate / drank something late in the evening, after dinner time. Over time I learned to use the MFP system and I allocate myself the meals and calories into 3 meals and one snack time. The evening before I have a rough idea what's going to happen the next day, so when I prepare myself next day's meal plan I take that into consideration. Sometimes I do eat / drink more calories during the day than intended, which means that I adjust my meal plan / calories for the next day accordingly.1
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MurrayElliot wrote: »I just avoid breakfast, fill up with water (or the occasional cup of tea). I found it amazing how rarely I actually feel hungry, and I certainly never get rumbling tummy or stomach cramps of any kind. Avoid thinking about food at all, focussing on other activities..
My suggestion is, go properly 'hungry', i.e. not just craving food, see what it feels like, it's not that bad, and I personally find I can go the whole day up to dinner on less than 300 calories quite easily, it's all a matter of not being afraid to feel a little hungry.
It's all about choices. You have choices to eat little and low calorie, or make excuses and go out and buy waffles and cakes (not really a surprise you're above 1000 calories is it?)
If you actively chose to fill up on rubbish then feel guilty about it, or bemoan the fact you are going over your limit, then that suggests you're not committed enough to the plan. It's a lifestyle thing, live it or don't, there's no successful middle ground here in my experience.
In summary:
a) It's ok to be hungry, it won't kill you. Drink some water.
b) Stop listening to your own excuses.
c) Instead of consuming high calorie food, find something else to do, e.g. exercise.
d) If you're really really hungry, a stalk of celery and a tiny bit of humous will fill the gap.
e) You're in control, you make the choices, all you have to do is to make the right choices.
It's hardly that binary. I generally choose to have a day like yesterday:
Plenty of snacks, loads of nutrients... no 'rubbish'. There is DEFINITE middle ground and no need for hunger at all.
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Thanks for posting that. I knew I was being sloppy with my diary, but after seeing yours...You have it right down to a science. That's an inspiration to put some more work into my WoE. Thank You
Every post of yours I see, you put such good info out there. 3 -
Awww shucks. Been at this for a couple of years and learned from those who've been here longer is all! Thanks! 3 -
I get that feeling as well. Today, I decided to treat myself to a portion of peanut M&Ms... I was drooling over them for a month. I am on a calorie deficit right now, so my total intake is 1200 calories and workout today too (legs). it was still within range, but I feel guilty because it is not a "healthy" option.1
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This is from last year.0
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LindsayAquilina wrote: »I get that feeling as well. Today, I decided to treat myself to a portion of peanut M&Ms... I was drooling over them for a month. I am on a calorie deficit right now, so my total intake is 1200 calories and workout today too (legs). it was still within range, but I feel guilty because it is not a "healthy" option.
@LindsayAquilina
What is not healthy is viewing some foods as off limits. It leads to feeling deprived and then rage-eating followed by rage-quitting. I have done that too many times.
I practice an 80/20 mindset now. I know my body only needs a certain amount of nutrients before most of the rest just ends up in my urine. I eat 80 percent nutrient dense food and the other 20 percent is anything I want. The 20 percent is healthy because it helps me to get healthier by keeping me from feeling deprived and wanting to quit. I do not measure it exactly. I just know that a small portion of my calories can be used for treats. I do not feel guilty and my health has done nothing but improve for the last 2 years. You would be surprised of all the treats I have had on my way to improved health.4 -
LindsayAquilina wrote: »I get that feeling as well. Today, I decided to treat myself to a portion of peanut M&Ms... I was drooling over them for a month. I am on a calorie deficit right now, so my total intake is 1200 calories and workout today too (legs). it was still within range, but I feel guilty because it is not a "healthy" option.
You had some nuts and some chocolate, perfectly reasonable foods to eat, in the context of a daily plan that is putting you at a deficit. Yeah, you wouldn't want to get all your calories from candy, but you wouldn't want to get all of them from broccoli either.6 -
LindsayAquilina wrote: »I get that feeling as well. Today, I decided to treat myself to a portion of peanut M&Ms... I was drooling over them for a month. I am on a calorie deficit right now, so my total intake is 1200 calories and workout today too (legs). it was still within range, but I feel guilty because it is not a "healthy" option.
Guilt is 100% optional. What does it help if we feel bad/negative? Nothing.
Food is just food. It isn't sin, so we don't have to feel guilty or make up for it.
It's a useful thing to get good overall, balanced nutrition. (Good nutrition is more about what we get into our eating - enough protein, healthy fats, plenty of varied/colorful fruits and veggies. It's not so much about getting things out of our eating. Further, nutrition is about the totality of our eating, not one individual food . . . at least as long as that food isn't poisonous, something we're individually allergic to, or something at odds with a medical condition we individually have.)
It's a useful thing to stick with a moderate, sensible calorie deficit in order to lose weight and achieve a healthy weight. There are lots of ways to get adequate macronutrients and micronutrients within such a calorie goal. Once that's pretty well in place, there's no reason not to have the occasional less nutrient-dense treat.
Peanuts are a nutritious food. (I eat peanuts or peanut butter most every day, and lost weight fine, and am healthy.) A little chocolate won't cause any problems, in the context of reasonable calories and overall good, balanced nutrition.
Repeat: Guilt is 100% optional. And it feels icky. Maybe you can talk yourself out of it?
Best wishes!1 -
Nope! Not one bit guilty! I’m human. Some days I’m hungrier than other days. Life happens.
But I’ve learned from it. I know those days will happen. I have snacks readily available. I used to keep individual small packs of jerky, nuts, peanut butter crackers in my desk at work. Things I like enough to eat, but only if I’m really hungry.
I also try to avoid hungry days as much as I can, knowing very well that I can NOT prevent them, only slow them down. For me personally, that means getting enough protein every single day, every single meal, every single snack. It will probably mean something different for you.
No need to feel guilty. It’s not a fail, it’s a life lesson. What can you do different next time?
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is it just me or are the people with the guilty feelings eating less than the recommended minimum 1500 cals per day?1
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