Would you date someone you work with ?

_DevinCianna_
_DevinCianna_ Posts: 50 Member
edited December 20 in Chit-Chat
Why or why not
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  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I've dated a lot of women that I worked with over the years. My second and third wives were women I worked with. I don't recommend it.
  • _DevinCianna_
    _DevinCianna_ Posts: 50 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    I've dated a lot of women that I worked with over the years. My second and third wives were women I worked with. I don't recommend it.

    Why not
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  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    Date.. no.. went out and hang out.. yes..
  • mkbrockman
    mkbrockman Posts: 28 Member
    No
    Always leads to trouble. Imagine your co-worker, who’s also your ex talking about how you are in the bed at work
  • run2live75
    run2live75 Posts: 10 Member
    Married him... <3
  • _DevinCianna_
    _DevinCianna_ Posts: 50 Member
    run2live75 wrote: »
    Married him... <3

    You guys still work together?
  • Cutemesoon
    Cutemesoon Posts: 2,646 Member
    HECK NO! I don't mess around where I make my money. Also, I refrain from even talking to my co-workers as much as possible. :s
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    _DevinCianna_ wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    I've dated a lot of women that I worked with over the years. My second and third wives were women I worked with. I don't recommend it.

    Why not

    No issues with the women I dated but didn't marry. However, it was tense when my second wife left me and we still worked together.

    My third wife was a Chiropractor. I was a Licensed Massage Therapist. When she left me. I lost my job, my home and my income. Was a rough year.
  • run2live75
    run2live75 Posts: 10 Member
    _DevinCianna_ wrote: »
    run2live75 wrote: »
    Married him... <3


    You guys still work together?



    Not anymore. We decided financially if something would happen to the company we didn't both want to be out of a job so he ended up taking something else. But we did for 5 years.


  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    JustPassingTime wrote: »
    @TheRoadDog wrote: »
    I've dated a lot of women that I worked with over the years. My second and third wives were women I worked with. I don't recommend it.

    Would you be where you are now if it weren't for them?

    Of course not. Every choice you make, good or bad, takes you to where you are today. If my second wife hadn't left me, I never would have travelled to where I met my third wife. If my third wife hadn't left me, I never would have met my current wife. We've been married for 27 years. Raised three girls. Never been happier.

    None of my previous wives ever remarried.
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  • sheloves89
    sheloves89 Posts: 88 Member
    Nope. =]

    Mostly 'cus I'm dating my soulmate already, and we don't work together, haha. We work in related fields (I'm a veterinarian, he's a human doctor), and we have really fascinating conversations about medicine in the species we work with, but they're different enough fields that these conversations don't feel like an extension of work! :D

    I also can't imagine living with, commuting with, and then working with someone... Love, love, love my partner, but I really don't want him in my space all the time! I think that would probably drive me absolutely bonkers.

    My organization has taken on a new girl who will be working alongside me, and she's looking for a place to live, and I have a spare room but am hesitant to rent it to her for exactly this same reason - even though we wouldn't be involved romantically, I really don't want to spend that much time around one person! (Don't worry - my town has plenty of rental opportunities, it's not like I'm the only available option =] And if I was, I'd take her in...)
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    JustPassingTime wrote: »
    @TheRoadDog wrote: »
    JustPassingTime wrote: »
    @TheRoadDog wrote: »
    I've dated a lot of women that I worked with over the years. My second and third wives were women I worked with. I don't recommend it.

    Would you be where you are now if it weren't for them?

    Of course not. Every choice you make, good or bad, takes you to where you are today. If my second wife hadn't left me, I never would have travelled to where I met my third wife. If my third wife hadn't left me, I never would have met my current wife. We've been married for 27 years. Raised three girls. Never been happier.

    None of my previous wives ever remarried.

    So it's cool to recommend dating co workers then? Or just date who they like co-workers or not

    Yep. Gotta go with your heart. You can get hurt and fail or you can meet the love of your life. Sometimes, you have to put yourself out there.
  • Cassandraw3
    Cassandraw3 Posts: 1,214 Member
    Don't dip your pen in the company stink.

    I think it depends on the people and the situation. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Love all the sayings:

    Don't get your meat where you get your bread.
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  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    Been there done that. Do not recommend.
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    I would date the whole office, probably twice
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    edited March 2019
    No. Too much potential for drama. My co-workers are nosy and I don't want them in my business like that.
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    No.
    I had a boss once that had a thing for me. It was so awkward. I tried to ignore it. Maybe I just have a skewed opinion from that situation tho.

    If if was someone I "liked" I think it would be too much together time. I like lots and lots of space. I also like to keep my work and private life separate
  • shaf238
    shaf238 Posts: 4,022 Member
    edited March 2019
    Hell to the no. It's one of my rules. Too messy, too involved, and if things don't work it just makes things awkward af.
  • _DevinCianna_
    _DevinCianna_ Posts: 50 Member
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    No. Too much potential for drama. My co-workers are nosy and I don't want them in my business like that.

    This! It’s hard for people not to be in your business, what if you mutually liked someone and he got s new job?
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  • TravisJHunt
    TravisJHunt Posts: 533 Member
    Nope, just if something goes wrong, it can get really messy. And its always the people who seem like they'll never end up like that, that do. So I'll pass.
  • DBNGUY786
    DBNGUY786 Posts: 54 Member
    I married someone I worked with. We were both serving our Auditing Internship/Articles. Still going strong and happy after nearly 10 years
  • _DevinCianna_
    _DevinCianna_ Posts: 50 Member
    If you liked someone who worked at the same job but she eventually got another job would you try your hand then?
  • butdidyoudie911
    butdidyoudie911 Posts: 4 Member
    mkbrockman wrote: »
    No
    Always leads to trouble. Imagine your co-worker, who’s also your ex talking about how you are in the bed at work

    this happened to me lmao. I dated a guy when I was 21. We had intense sexual chemistry and all that goes with that. I ended up working where he does when I was 25 and when people in his department said I was "attractive", he thought that was a good time to tell people all of our sexual exploits with each other, which was then later relayed to me in the cafeteria when someone wanted to meet me because of "things he heard".....(which he told me, but I won't post here) AWKWARD.
  • amorfati601070
    amorfati601070 Posts: 2,890 Member
    Absolutely not.
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