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  • Jruzer
    Jruzer Posts: 3,501 Member
    Ours weren't ready for it until about 3. With our oldest, we tried all kinds of cajoling: potty charts with tiered rewards, special underwear, all the usual things. With our second, we didn't really push him as much and he more or less figured it out on his own. They were both about the same age. Numbers 3 and 4 were similar. They just figured it out by watching and learning.
  • Slowfaster
    Slowfaster Posts: 186 Member
    My boy trained fairly well with #1, but #2 just took up too much of his valuable play time.
    I think that's the main thing with little boys, they get really intent on whatever they're playing, and how they
    happen to look while they're playing just doesn't enter into it.
    Just relax, some day you'll be like me, looking back with tears in my eyes, thinking about that precious little guy, poopy pants and all.
  • Riffraft1960
    Riffraft1960 Posts: 1,984 Member
    As the father of 7 boys. None of them were potty trained before the age of 3. My three girls were potty trained right around 2 years old. Something about boys
  • kindalikevelma
    kindalikevelma Posts: 1,337 Member
    Honestly if you have the option, let them run around diaper free outside (backyard) now that it’s getting warmer. Teaching them to pee into bushes while standing is easier than teaching them to pee into a toilet. I potty trained my kid in the Caribbean and so the warm weather meant he got to be naked in the patio year round. Once he figured out peeing outside, peeing inside was easy as pie.
  • Sunshine_And_Sand
    Sunshine_And_Sand Posts: 1,320 Member
    Every kid is different and what works for girls may not work for boys. What worked for other boys may not work for yours.
    The running around naked worked for my daughter but my son thought it was funny. Both of my kids were much easier to bladder train than bowel train.
    If you have a yard that will allow for it, a lot of little boys like peeing outside and then that can be applied towards using the toilet because it may help them learn not to pee in a diaper. This could also backfire in that they may do this in public... The outside thing helped my son.
    Oh, and don't think that once they use the toilet once they will do that again every time or even more so than not. There will be accidents.
    You just have to find what works for your son, and he may just not be ready yet.
    Good luck!
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    HE PEED ON THE POTTY TWICE! So proud! 😀
  • CoffeeAndContour
    CoffeeAndContour Posts: 1,466 Member
    edited April 2019
    I'm probably going to not be much help my son was easy. Around 1 I bought a potty and had him sit on it when i was using the bathroom. At 18 months I brought the potty in the living areas, took off his diaper and told him every time he pees in the potty he gets a reward. This worked in a few days. Took about 6 months to have him going poo on the potty though. Same method but he was lazy because he couldn't play and poop anymore.
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
    I'm probably going to not be much help my son was easy. Around 1 I bought a potty and had him sit on it when i was using the bathroom. At 18 months I brought the potty in the living areas, took off his diaper and told him every time he pees in the potty he gets a reward. This worked in a few days. Took about 6 months to have him going poo on the potty though. Same method but he was lazy because he couldn't play and poop anymore.

    Did you put diapers or pull ups or underwear on him between the time he was trained to pee to the time he was trained to poop?
    I’ve been having him run around butt naked because as soon as I put undies or a pull up on him he pees himself.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    kindalikevelma wrote: »
    Honestly if you have the option, let them run around diaper free outside (backyard) now that it’s getting warmer. Teaching them to pee into bushes while standing is easier than teaching them to pee into a toilet. I potty trained my kid in the Caribbean and so the warm weather meant he got to be naked in the patio year round. Once he figured out peeing outside, peeing inside was easy as pie.

    Taking a wizz in the backyard. This is how I was trained as a young lad.

    Thing is, old habits die hard & I still think it's a great idea.


    My next door neighbor and our mailman, not so much.
  • mom23mangos
    mom23mangos Posts: 3,069 Member
    There is a book from the 70’s called Toilet Training in Less Than a Day. It really works. We used it on all three of our boys. There’s a checklist at the beginning to determine if they are ready. We made some modifications for the times and ignored sexist 70’s writing. I recommend it to everyone.
  • rickiimarieee
    rickiimarieee Posts: 2,212 Member
    mom23mangos wrote: »
    There is a book from the 70’s called Toilet Training in Less Than a Day. It really works. We used it on all three of our boys. There’s a checklist at the beginning to determine if they are ready. We made some modifications for the times and ignored sexist 70’s writing. I recommend it to everyone.

    I’ll look into it thank you!! 💜
  • k8eekins
    k8eekins Posts: 2,264 Member
    edited April 2019
    rickiimarieee wrote: »
    I NEED HELP, doesn’t matter if your boy(s) are 2 or 40. How do you potty train them?? I’m in a rat race trying to potty train my 2 year old. He’s exactly 28 months old. I put him in undies and he’s peeing in them, not even minding that he’s wet (read to leave him in it for a little bit so he gets uncomfortable with being wet) and I’ve been putting him on the toilet every 30 minutes and have a chart I put stickers on when he sits on the potty, asks to go, flushes, pees, poops, washes hands. I’ve been doing this for awhile and he has yet to go in the toilet. How do I encourage him to take that first pee in the toilet? Once he pees once he’ll know what to do.

    God-son (with me in my profile photo). Approached this as a "Going to school like a big boy" exercise after his 2nd birthday, only not months immediately after. Hung out with him camped near the bathroom, relocating our Mobile Library. Worked on this for an entire week. First with me, then with my sister because she'd cautioned me that much like reading exercises, we were to be especially careful that we not confuse him; To not swap the teaching between us throughout the day with his training. Whoever was going to start out with the training, was to stick to it until he got it, before the other sister could start and continue with him.

    What worked for him:

    Potty training nursery rhyme sing-alongs:  Eg  https://youtu.be/JoAMgjAmCdw
    • The self-standing potty simply didn't do it for him. The potty seat plus the step up and his choice for his floor mat made all the difference, most especially getting to flush the toilet himself. He was motivated. He also liked stacking his fresh and clean undies for the day, including removing his bagged pull-ups to the bin if and when his timing was off.
    • What roused enough curiosity for him - was the use of flushable wipes and the excuse to wash his hands with his favourite liquid soap, washing his hands singing any nursery rhyme.
    • Stickers for some reason didn't workout as a reward.  It quickly became his accountability report card, where he would gauge how he was doing with his training. He would choose his own stickers from the stores. For the board, he would pick from one bag of stickers strictly for peeing and would pick from the other bag of stickers, for #2.  By the end of the day, after dinner he'll count the no. of times he used the potty, which will then earn him his choice of restaurant for a meal outing, one snack bag from the supermarket and one activity book, game or toy for the following day's excursion.
    • His potty training attire always  was a combination of vests/tees, his pull-ups and his favourite undies. Once he started feeling the ease excited and confident with his timing to go potty, he preferred his pull-ups but only for a short while, before he switched it up for his undies.
  • Birdieeez
    Birdieeez Posts: 13 Member
    edited April 2019
    My two boys are now teenagers but I remember they had no problem sitting on the potty but getting them to stay there long enough to actually have something happen was a chore. I eventually resorted to singing their favorite Christmas carols to distract them from wanting to get off the potty too early. Mind you, it was mid-July and I was singing, "Rudolph, The Red-Nosed Reindeer". Whatever works, right? Good luck.
  • Jelaan
    Jelaan Posts: 815 Member
    edited April 2019
    I have twin boys. One decided one day at 3 that he didn't want to wear pull ups any more and that was that. His brother was bladder trained at 4, but bowel training took longer. One day I caught him and took him to the toilet as he was about to go. He said to me "oh, that's what that is!", and never had another accident. Daughter was 3 and pretty much did herself. They will become toilet trained when they are ready - don't stress about it.
  • shadow2soul
    shadow2soul Posts: 7,692 Member
    My oldest took forever to potty train. He did eventually get it down but it’s hard to say if that was a result of some development delays (he was a preemie) or if he just wanted to do it on his own terms. He also went through a painting with poop on the wall phase.
    His little brother on the other hand was quick. He hated wet diapers and pull-ups. Now he will change his underwear if he farts (he’s 4 now).

    I think every little boy is going to be a bit different.
  • yayamom3
    yayamom3 Posts: 939 Member
    We raised two boys. With both of them, we found out that they just weren't ready as early as the girls in our family. We gave up trying until they were at least 3 years old. Our goal was to have them fully potty trained by age 4. I think they both ended up trained by about 3 1/2. It really wasn't worth the stress of trying to force them before they were ready.
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