The Price for being born - Natural birth or C-Sections

I have 3 children. The 1st was born vaginally with some medical inetrventions in the hospital. The 2nd and 3rd were born at home with certified midwives and birth attendants. Each experience was unique and wonderful :flowerforyou:


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Well have 3 boys all delivered early with emergency c-sections (never learned:laugh: ) It was difficult cos you are sore and in my case all my babies were taken to baby care right away, so I never got to see them for a few hours, let alone hold them, that was weeks later. It certainly was hard, but I didn't feel any less of a mother, I think the bond happens before the baby is born anyway, so I was feeling the love for all mine whether I could touch them or not. That being said, the first moment I got to hold all of them was very precious

I can say, I was incredibly against the idea of a C-section. I wanted an all natural (med free birth) mainly because I am PETRIFIED of getting IVs. However when I was nearing the end of my pregnancy they found out my son was growth restricted and decided to induce me (IV - eek!) I tried and tried to have a natural birth but they kept upping my pitocin levels in attempts to get him out quickly. Eventually we were both in distress and they called for an emergency C-section. I fought and fought them but eventually was made to have one. It was such a horrible experience for me!

Both my children were born naturally. I didn't have any pain meds. My labor (the time I checked in to the hospital to the time I delivered) was 5 hours for my oldest and 7 for my youngest. But I was very VERY active and stayed in good shape while pregnant. I was always told unless I wanted a long drawn out labor I better stay active. My uncle's wife was pregnant while I was and went thru 18 hours of labor and the epidural wore off before she delivered via c-section. She didn't do anything but sleep while she was pregnant. That was enough evidence for me!

My wife chose to go the natural method, but everyone is different and here is what you need to know;

The drugs that make child birth more comfortable for a woman ALSO cause false positives for fetal stress and make Drs think that baby needs to be cut out. So the lesson here is that natural child birth means it is going to hurt.

Many young women are heavier now so the babies are bigger and may not fit out as easily.

See what your insurance will cover.
Every hospital is different about these issues. Shop around for Drs and hospitals and see what makes you comfortable.




Best of luck.

Sorry, I'm going to be honest. Yes, it's a really corrupt thing about how dangerous a c-section can be. However, I like my vagina where it's at. I ain't EVER had to push a baby out of it, and I pride myself in that. LOL.

In all seriousness though, 1st birth I was in labor for a DAY. I told the doctor to give me a c-section. I begged. I was sick of the contractions, and all I wanted to do was go to sleep. Second, repeat. Third I was planning a VBAC but my uterus ruptured and my son was born a month early. There was no other choice. I was one of those rare cases. So it was a life/death kind of thing. I don't regret them at all. I just regret the ridiculous skin flap.

First let me tell you that I'm not yet a Mother, I do very much look forward to being one in the near future . In my ignorance you will usually hear me say , " I'll just have a C-section and get it over with" How convenient right ...?

The absolute best option is c-section followed by an immediate tummy tuck. Now you only have to recover from 1 surgery and you come out with a flat tight tummy, win win! - yea I don't have kids either, can you tell

With my first daughter, I was planning on going all natural. I went 4 days past my due date and woke up bleeding. I was at a 3. I continued to bleed heavily and lose clots. I got to a 9.5. Her heart rate would rapidly accelerate to 190 and then decrease a second later to 20. Eventually she quit breathing and I started bleeding rapidly. If I had not had my emergency c-section I would not be here today nor would my daughter. Honestly, I think if you trust your doctor/midwife enough, no matter what you choose and what happens you will be happy in knowing they did everything they could to keep you and your baby safe.

I don't mean to scare you here bu:

I've worked in blood banks for probably 10 years now. About once every month we get a patient from the birth center in the hospital that goes into DIC (disseminated intravascular coagulopathy) because they have Placental abruption, pre-eclampsia or an embolism somewhere.

When DIC happens you're blood does not clot and you bleed profusely. While it is a problem in natural births, it is often fatal (to the mother) in C-section births. The mother will just bleed out from the c-section site. There is almost nothing they can do to stop it once it starts, hopefully the body corrects itself and it stops.

I know that we put over 40 units (body holds around 10)of blood through one patient with a case like this.

Since I've been working in blood bank we've had about 8 or so of these types of things happen that were fatal.

One of my wife's friends died because she went into DIC during an emergency c-section (the baby was in distress). They didn't know whe had a clot and when they did the c-section she went into DIC and bled out in about 15 minutes. The baby later died and her husband went from being excited about having a great wife and about becoming a father to being heartbroken and alone in 15 minutes.

I don't want to make it sound like it happens a lot, we deal with several hundred births a year at our hospital and it's not a common occurance but this happens a lot more to c-section patients than natural birth patients.

I wouldn't allow my wife to have a c-section unless it was absolutely necassary, if I had my way. Anytime you open up the body you open your self up for complications, some that can be fatal.