Can't get motivated

Start off simply, by logging all your food and exercise into MFP. Don’t try to change anything, just log for one week. Then look at your diary and see where you would like to make changes.

Plain cuts of lean meat and fish, and fresh steamed, roasted, or grilled vegetables, are easy to cook, don’t have to contain onions or garlic, and most people like them! No need to make this complicated.

You have my sympathy with the health issues. It’s very hard to stay active when you’re anemic and in pain. Better days ahead! Do a little today, then a little more tomorrow, and soon you will be doing more than you ever believed possible.

If you read your own post, you can see that you are in a vicious - self destructive cycle. You need to break that pattern. First, take a photo of yourself in your underwear and put it where you can only see it privately every day. That is what I did. Gosh..that motivated me. I didn't post it here or any other place. I just looked at it every day and it kept me on track. You deserve to be healthy, to feel good, to be whole. What you eat makes that happen. Be kind to yourself. Put yourself first for once. The human body is an amazing thing, if you feed it right, give it rest.. exercise (eventually) it responds.. and transforms. You are in total control on this one. You can do it! Best of luck to you.

You’ve gotten some very good advice on this thread. I hope you read the above responses several times and try to implement the steps they suggest.

I’d like to add a couple of things. Take heart. It’s doable. I can tell you for a fact because I’ve done it. Nothing special about me except maybe I’m more persistent than some folks. Or maybe that’s more stubborn.

Always think in terms of “your plan.” Weight loss is mostly about problem solving. It’s not you that’s the issue here, it’s your plan. There’s a lot more to you than just your weight loss plan, but we’re here to work on weight loss.

Don’t be distressed when you struggle with your plan. Especially at first. There’s a significant calorie counting learning curve. But calorie counting, supported with a food diary, works. Always log everything in you food diary no matter what, good, bad or ugly. If your plan doesn’t work at some point, make it better. Sometimes plans are effective for a while but wear out. Adjust and adapt when needed. It takes a lot of persistence.

Get a food scale. Calculate a modest calorie deficit and try to hit your number. Weight loss takes place in the kitchen. Start a walking program. Find some total body workouts on YouTube. Improving fitness is good for our brains.

Try to get the scale going down on a long term livable trend. A plan you can’t live with is not a good plan. Take a long term view. Lots of folks wreck themselves over the time issue. Don’t be one of them.

I have a soft spot for folks trying to change for the sake of their kids. But really it was about me, what kind of parent I was going to be. Good luck.