Adding New Friends ....

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debtfre12
debtfre12 Posts: 203
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One of my MFP's posed this question today: What do you take into consideration before adding friends, or do you add everyone?

My response: Yeah, very good question. I usually add everyone, but monitor the "relationship" afterwards. No 'relationship' is one-sided. It's take two to keep it going. Everyone wants to be CELEBRATED and not just TOLERATED. Right? :smile:

Just curious as to what is your response?

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  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
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    from now on, a picture and a message, after that I need to be enteracted with, at least once in a blue moon. I comment on others, and would like to see the same in return every now and again, especially since most of my friends requested me.
  • Michelle9939
    Michelle9939 Posts: 291
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    I just want people to introduce themselves in a message when sending a request. I don't think that is too much to ask.
  • Michelle9939
    Michelle9939 Posts: 291
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    And if I don't hear from them again in a while, they get the boot.
  • pittsblue99
    pittsblue99 Posts: 277 Member
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    I agree,but I also have a hard time deleating somebody that has not been active. I know there are lots of people that will deleat somebody if they have not been active for a month. I am yet to bring myself to do that.
  • kizzy67
    kizzy67 Posts: 19 Member
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    Seems to be the topic of the day. Ive just always added people when theres been a request. If after a while theres not communication, then I would delete them. Its not a competition to see how many friends we can get, its the quality of the friends that you want.
  • mea9
    mea9 Posts: 561 Member
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    It's hard to keep up with everybody because time schedules vary (also means you're missing the same people) and It's really hard to read every single post everyday. I really care when people aren't checking in. I want to encourage and I really try to but if somebody just isn't showing up (other than for life issues and computer problems) that person just isn't into it. I hate red. I hate it on my bank statements, I hate it on my calorie count and I hate it on my friends login info. Please everybody, I do care. A lot. And I take attendance every morning;-)
  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
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    Must have a photograph. After that, the person must interact/be active, have a sense of humor, not be a prude, and show me lots of attention. j/k on the last part....no, not really. Hahaha
  • debtfre12
    debtfre12 Posts: 203
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    from now on, a picture and a message, after that I need to be enteracted with, at least once in a blue moon. I comment on others, and would like to see the same in return every now and again, especially since most of my friends requested me.

    I agree!! That's why I use the phrase "CELEBRATED" and not just "TOLERATED".:bigsmile: :bigsmile:
  • computerwizsheri
    computerwizsheri Posts: 26
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    I add everyone. A message is not required. The key for me is keeping friends (those that log in consistently, at least once or twice a week) because they are actively pursuing the same goal as me (weight loss).
  • debtfre12
    debtfre12 Posts: 203
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    I just want people to introduce themselves in a message when sending a request. I don't think that is too much to ask.

    It is nice when you receive a note, even if it's two or three words.:smile:
  • debtfre12
    debtfre12 Posts: 203
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    I agree,but I also have a hard time deleating somebody that has not been active. I know there are lots of people that will deleat somebody if they have not been active for a month. I am yet to bring myself to do that.

    Do what is comfortable for you. You can only me yourself, right?:happy:
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
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    Must have a photograph. After that, the person must interact/be active, have a sense of humor, not be a prude, and show me lots of attention. j/k on the last part....no, not really. Hahaha


    hahaha, me too! I feel the need to be showered with entertainment and attention.
  • debtfre12
    debtfre12 Posts: 203
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    :bigsmile:
    Seems to be the topic of the day. Ive just always added people when theres been a request. If after a while theres not communication, then I would delete them. Its not a competition to see how many friends we can get, its the quality of the friends that you want.

    Well said and touchѐ!
  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
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    Must have a photograph. After that, the person must interact/be active, have a sense of humor, not be a prude, and show me lots of attention. j/k on the last part....no, not really. Hahaha


    hahaha, me too! I feel the need to be showered with entertainment and attention.

    I would totally give you attention ~ just sayin'
  • debtfre12
    debtfre12 Posts: 203
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    It's hard to keep up with everybody because time schedules vary (also means you're missing the same people) and It's really hard to read every single post everyday. I really care when people aren't checking in. I want to encourage and I really try to but if somebody just isn't showing up (other than for life issues and computer problems) that person just isn't into it. I hate red. I hate it on my bank statements, I hate it on my calorie count and I hate it on my friends login info. Please everybody, I do care. A lot. And I take attendance every morning;-)

    :bigsmile: Bravo Sis!!! I agree with you as well. We do care! Also, I desperately need the support in return.:bigsmile:
  • debtfre12
    debtfre12 Posts: 203
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    Must have a photograph. After that, the person must interact/be active, have a sense of humor, not be a prude, and show me lots of attention. j/k on the last part....no, not really. Hahaha

    Yeah, I hear ya.:laugh: I don't have to be the center of attraction, but at least a response or two sometimes .....
  • debtfre12
    debtfre12 Posts: 203
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    I add everyone. A message is not required. The key for me is keeping friends (those that log in consistently, at least once or twice a week) because they are actively pursuing the same goal as me (weight loss).

    Yes! How can two walk together except they agree.:happy:
  • dibdobw
    dibdobw Posts: 89 Member
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    I like to have some interaction with my MFP friends. I find the encouragement very motovating. If people cant support me as I support them then they are gone x
  • debtfre12
    debtfre12 Posts: 203
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    I like to have some interaction with my MFP friends. I find the encouragement very motovating. If people cant support me as I support them then they are gone x

    The support pendulum does swing both ways!:laugh:
  • OfficialPR
    OfficialPR Posts: 1,610 Member
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    Here is my criteria for Adding New Friends

    a) Picture
    b) Message with Request
    c) Interaction - Once a Week
    d) Need Motivation or Provide Motivation

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