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TamLam99
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Serial dieter here, just turned 50 years old and heavier than ever (about 60 lbs to lose). I know how to lose weight, I know how to track and use a food scale, I know how many calories to eat, I know which exercises I can stick with, I know which foods are my trigger and I know not to eliminate items I enjoy. I have done this before, I've had success.
I struggle with following through and sticking with it, I have a bad attitude about losing weight. It makes me mad that I have to work so hard just to drop a 1/2 pound, I start questioning if the sacrifice is worth it. I feel like I lose my freedom and I can't be spontaneous, I'm chained to my MFP app and my set calories. I know I will feel hungry and get cranky and I just give up. I know I'm being ridiculous, I know I can eat foods that I enjoy within my calorie range, I know MFP works.
I need a kick in the pants and I need to drop the attitude !! How do I overcome this negative thinking and just DO IT without whining ?
I struggle with following through and sticking with it, I have a bad attitude about losing weight. It makes me mad that I have to work so hard just to drop a 1/2 pound, I start questioning if the sacrifice is worth it. I feel like I lose my freedom and I can't be spontaneous, I'm chained to my MFP app and my set calories. I know I will feel hungry and get cranky and I just give up. I know I'm being ridiculous, I know I can eat foods that I enjoy within my calorie range, I know MFP works.
I need a kick in the pants and I need to drop the attitude !! How do I overcome this negative thinking and just DO IT without whining ?
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I don’t think you can force yourself to lose weight if you don’t want to. Is there anything that could help you stick to it as motivation? A health goal, an item you will allow yourself to buy if you keep the weight off for a certain amount of time, etc?0
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I do have motivators, health and personal ones, unfortunately they get tossed to the side and I revert back to old ways. Maybe I need to come up with something more fun and interesting to keep me going.1
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You have to be ready and willing to make your health a priority. You have a huge advantage in that you already know what you need to do. The fact that you created this thread speaks volumes.
C'mon, jump in, the water's fine. ❤6 -
I didn't until I found the right motivation. Are you able to put your things that motivate you on the fridge or cupboards to help stop you eating too much?2
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Have you ever tried playing around with your macros or meal timing? After logging for a few months, I found my protein and fiber were typically low, and once I brought them up to goal it really helped my appetite.
I also found that I did better limiting the calories I ate in the morning (at one point I skipped eating before noon entirely), as hunger wasn't nearly as annoying to me in the AM, and it helped me save more calories for meals where I might want to be a little more spontaneous.
What about planning diet breaks? Either a week every couple of months where you log but eat at maintenance, or a day every week or two where you log "casually", just guestimating portions?
There might also be some value in looking at what is the big difference between your "old ways" and your "diet". Perhaps there is some missing piece that you're not seeing that would make the diet more sustainable. Can you put your finger on "WHY" you end up rebelling?
I know all this is easier said than done, just trying to throw some ideas out there. Hang in there
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I do need to work on more specific goals and motivators, I know that about myself. And I have played around with meal timing and macros, I make notes on the days that I felt satisfied so I can recreate those but what works one day for me doesn't always work the next.
It's funny you used the word "rebelling", I have struggled with that my whole life, I guess I just don't like doing things that I have to do - LOL2 -
I do need to work on more specific goals and motivators, I know that about myself. And I have played around with meal timing and macros, I make notes on the days that I felt satisfied so I can recreate those but what works one day for me doesn't always work the next.
It's funny you used the word "rebelling", I have struggled with that my whole life, I guess I just don't like doing things that I have to do - LOL
I'm exactly like this. I don't like to be told what to do, even if it's ME who is doing the telling! I need therapy, but that aside, I've found that the fewer restrictions I put on my intake, the better success I have. The only thing I restrict is calories. I don't count carbs, fast, pay attention to macros, etc. I just eat whatever I want as long as it's within my calorie "budget." Restriction is an obstacle to my success!
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smoofinator wrote: »I do need to work on more specific goals and motivators, I know that about myself. And I have played around with meal timing and macros, I make notes on the days that I felt satisfied so I can recreate those but what works one day for me doesn't always work the next.
It's funny you used the word "rebelling", I have struggled with that my whole life, I guess I just don't like doing things that I have to do - LOL
I'm exactly like this. I don't like to be told what to do, even if it's ME who is doing the telling! I need therapy, but that aside, I've found that the fewer restrictions I put on my intake, the better success I have. The only thing I restrict is calories. I don't count carbs, fast, pay attention to macros, etc. I just eat whatever I want as long as it's within my calorie "budget." Restriction is an obstacle to my success!
I am absolutely that way! I tried to make everything as flexible as possible. I like having different calories from day to day and follow a weekly calorie goal. It allows me to go over unexpectedly and still know I haven't ruined my progress.4 -
You don't have to stop whining to be able to do it. Lots of people whine and moan and yet still, every day, get it done. The point isn't how you FEEL about it, it's about what you're doing about it.
I always find this to be super useful. https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/818701/the-myth-of-motivation-and-what-you-need-instead/p1
Motivational will flag. It will falter. Absolutely no one is 100% on fire for weight loss all day, every day. So you do things until they become a habit. THAT'S what carries you through the times when you want to rebel. (And seriously, if you need to whine, do so. Share on the board. Talk to a friend. Hell, do what I do and talk to your cats. Better to whine about it and then get to it than not at all.)7 -
You don’t “have” to lose weight. You do need to decide what’s most important to you. When I started feeling sorry for myself because I had 150 yo lose and it took a long time and was hard, I would go to the Success Stories forum and read threads from those who were losing even more. Then I was grateful I didn’t have 200-300 to lose. If someone else could do it for 3 years, then I surely could do 2 1/25
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TamLam99- I feel exactly the same way! In January I was able to make changes. A friend recommend the Prime by Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary to me. Her wisdom and insight in the first few chapters helped me very much. Dr Chaudhry made an observation that helped change my outlook; She said loosing weight is difficult, so difficult that powerful, educated and driven people who are successful in all parts of their life can’t seem to loose weight, or loose it effectively. At first this insight made me feel hopeless, but her words helped me gained perspective, and I no longer was feeling like such a failure. I listened to more of her readings and then I chose to slow things down, and begin to repair and prepare my body for the challenge. I have been living a low carb (Keto) based lifestyle since January 19th and have had no interest in stopping. My weight loss has been slow, but I am content, and don’t feel like a failure any longer. I hope you find your peace.
Mari2 -
so no restrictions, flexibility, and I can still whine
so much good info here, I love it.9 -
magnolialinen17 wrote: »TamLam99- I feel exactly the same way! In January I was able to make changes. A friend recommend the Prime by Dr. Kulreet Chaudhary to me. Her wisdom and insight in the first few chapters helped me very much. Dr Chaudhry made an observation that helped change my outlook; She said loosing weight is difficult, so difficult that powerful, educated and driven people who are successful in all parts of their life can’t seem to loose weight, or loose it effectively. At first this insight made me feel hopeless, but her words helped me gained perspective, and I no longer was feeling like such a failure. I listened to more of her readings and then I chose to slow things down, and begin to repair and prepare my body for the challenge. I have been living a low carb (Keto) based lifestyle since January 19th and have had no interest in stopping. My weight loss has been slow, but I am content, and don’t feel like a failure any longer. I hope you find your peace.
Mari
I'll have to get my hands on this book.
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@TamLam99 This is a bit of a long read, but maybe spend some time with these techniques for managing thought distortions in weight loss.
https://ucalgary.ca/cdm/files/cdm/changeyourthinkingtohelpmanageyourweight20130412.pdf
My own progress is very slow, but I’m using these techniques and starting to appreciate it as progress, which is helping to keep me motivated.0 -
@TamLam99 This is a bit of a long read, but maybe spend some time with these techniques for managing thought distortions in weight loss.
https://ucalgary.ca/cdm/files/cdm/changeyourthinkingtohelpmanageyourweight20130412.pdf
My own progress is very slow, but I’m using these techniques and starting to appreciate it as progress, which is helping to keep me motivated.
This is so simple yet so helpful0 -
Back in the day when weight loss blogs were common I would keep track of the weights people were posting, to see who was good at losing weight, and who was good at gaining. The number I followed was at least 50. With one exception, every single blogger had a rebound. "Losing for the gown" was her blog name. Her weight loss could only be described as "perfect". But she was the only one. Every blog with the exception of her had a rebound. Only about 15% made it to goal weight. Two thirds of those gained after reaching goal weight (my own included).0
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trying to start the day with positive thoughts - I can do this, right ?2
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Weight loss is liberation.
Consider this- maybe you don’t know so much. Or maybe you just know about the wrong things.
Weight loss is a matter of living within some reasonable limits. It’s not an injustice. Life has all kinds of limits. You may not get as much money as you want. Or the career or position you’d like to have. Few people seem to get as much love as they would like. How about time? Our time here is limited. Is this how you want the rest of your life to go? If not, you have to change it.
We live in a physical universe. If I let my favorite coffee cup slip from my hands, gravity will pull it to the floor and break it. I don’t think I’ve ever heard folks complaining about gravity. It’s just how it is.
Eat too many calories and our bodies store the excess. Just how it is. Our bodies are designed to survive hard times that have never arrived for most of us. It’s a good thing.
I thought weight loss would leave me on the outside looking in. I was wrong. Very wrong. Look at that little pic of me 3 years ago on that paddle board. I’m 66 years old in that pic. You should have seen me at 44 and 285 lbs. Never would have thought it possible.
You can do this. You can find a way. You can settle the argument in your head. Only real way out of you dilemma is to make it. Keep trying, you’ll see.8 -
Weight loss is liberation.
Consider this- maybe you don’t know so much. Or maybe you just know about the wrong things.
Weight loss is a matter of living within some reasonable limits. It’s not an injustice. Life has all kinds of limits. You may not get as much money as you want. Or the career or position you’d like to have. Few people seem to get as much love as they would like. How about time? Our time here is limited. Is this how you want the rest of your life to go? If not, you have to change it.
We live in a physical universe. If I let my favorite coffee cup slip from my hands, gravity will pull it to the floor and break it. I don’t think I’ve ever heard folks complaining about gravity. It’s just how it is.
Eat too many calories and our bodies store the excess. Just how it is. Our bodies are designed to survive hard times that have never arrived for most of us. It’s a good thing.
I thought weight loss would leave me on the outside looking in. I was wrong. Very wrong. Look at that little pic of me 3 years ago on that paddle board. I’m 66 years old in that pic. You should have seen me at 44 and 285 lbs. Never would have thought it possible.
You can do this. You can find a way. You can settle the argument in your head. Only real way out of you dilemma is to make it. Keep trying, you’ll see.
Very inspiring, thank you for the push 0
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