Drowning in a sea of failure! Help please!!!

Set yourself up to not fail....keep only healthy things in the house and try not to stress. Don't look at it like the whole big picture. One day at a time. If today was bad, it's all good and you will have a better day tomorrow. When you are hungry drink a full glass of water instead or go work out. Do things to take your mind off of food. I know it's tough, we have all been there but you WILL get past this and be stronger for it.

And if you love sweets, search these forums for healthy alternatives that you can make and eat the whole thing and not feel guilty.

We are here to help you and you CAN do this. Good luck.

Firts, you MUST commit in order to succeed---once you have made the committment, you must clean out your environment of any temptation, at least for the early stages, once this becomes more of a habit, this part will get easier. But I am telling you, if you are not ready to make the committment and the changs associated with it, then you will do nothing but fail.

Good luck!

Sounds like you're bashing your head against a wall there. Have you tried focussing your goal somewhere else for a week or two? Maybe not focus on limiting your cals, but go for increasing your fruit and veg intake, or making sure you get your water drunk.

You might also want to look at why you're eating. Overstressed? Overtired? It sounds like your body is trying to get your attention over something.

Go right now and get rid of all the garbage in your fridge and cupboards. Think of it like breaking up with a boyfriend. Go and break up with your chips and your ice cream!! Then get out and go for a walk to clear your head. Once you get your body moving you will automatically want to put better things into it. Good luck to you!!

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If you open your diary I can help you. If you binge eat, other than emotional reasons, there could be dietary reasons as well.
There could be something you are missing, like maybe iron, or calcium, or healthy fats, that your body is crying out for, and triggering the hunger signal to get it, but if you eat the wrong thing it won't go away because your body still wants it.

Also, make sure you eat enough throughout the day. If you get to the point where you are SOOOO hungry....then of course you will break down and binge.

It's hard to know for sure the problem without seeing your diary.

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My out-of-control eating is getting much better due to work that I'm doing with a therapist. We have discovered WHY I do that and are working through that issue. I have also started working with a dietician--not focusing on what I'm eating, but HOW. I'll always struggle with food, but for the first time I think that maybe it won't always be so awful. Good luck.

Look at the quote on your signature and change it to this:

When Thomas Edison was interviewed by a young reporter who boldly asked Mr. Edison if he felt like a failure and if he thought he should just give up by now. Perplexed, Edison replied, "Young man, why would I feel like a failure? And why would I ever give up? I now know definitively over 9,000 ways that an electric light bulb will not work. Success is almost in my grasp." And shortly after that, and over 10,000 attempts, Edison invented the light bulb.

You cannot succeed if you don't try and if you try you will fail and sometimes fail again. Keep pushing.

I post below a little blog entry I wrote about 6 months ago. I have changed my life in the last year and if I can so can you. Hope this helps:

March 2011

I have to date lost around 40 pounds. Have another 25 or so to go. This is no longer about vanity; we’re talking life and death now. My ticker is ticked off and will brook no more nonsense from the rest of the body politic.

Live fit or die, that’s my motto.

Some lessons learned long the way:

None dare call it diet. Diets are like most of my relationships before I met my bride: Short, usually painful and always destined to end badly. Need a label? Call it md-life crisis, a change of life (but don’t say style, people that use the term life-style usually have neither), a message from God or Gaia or your own brave and lonely stand against the International food conspiracy.-Brothers and Sisters, put down your forks- you have nothing to lose but your chins!

But call it a diet and you have already lost the battle. Now you’re just waiting for the proper authorities to accept your surrender.

Exercise. Like your life depended on it, cause it will eventually and already does in my case. The SEALS say the only easy day is yesterday. Words to live by. Mix weights and cardio and anything else you can think of to get your lazy butt off the couch. If you run out of everything else dig holes in the backyard then fill them up again. It will drive your dog nuts and give your neighbors something to think about.

Plateaus. Sooner or later, you will hit one. Count on it. Here’s my advice: GET FROSTY. Counting calories? Count em twice to make sure. Working out? Work out harder and differenter.

Weigh yourself weekly if you must or monthly if you can but not every day. Scales are wonderful for maintenance but the moral equivalent of thumb screws when you’re trying to shed weight. It will torture you with quarter pound losses followed immediately by two pound gains. Don’t give the damn thing the satisfaction. Just put down your progress chart and step away from the scale, nice and slow ,nobody needs to get hurt here...

Habit or Hunger? The great physicist Richard Feynman once said that the first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you're the easiest person to fool. If it goes into your mouth it's going to end up somewhere, probably just exactly where you are trying desperately to get those jeans to button. So ask yourself: Am I eating from habit or hunger? If you are really hungry, rate it from 1 to 10 with say 1 being five minutes from now I won't remember why I am in the kitchen and 10 being lost at sea for a month and a half. Putting things into perspective instead of your stomach is calorie free.

If you are a heavy drinker, stop and don't start again unless and until you think you can handle it. I went from Dean Martin to mostly teetotaler and do not miss the hangovers or liquor bills. Also I can now afford better cognac and scotch because it lasts damn near forever. A million reasons to avoid the stuff but mostly I shun the empty calories.

To all of you out there, remember the road may be long and strewn with obstacles and wrong turns, but you are not alone so if you feel yourself faltering or getting lost in the fog just grab ahold of the virtual arm of that person next to you. Then, when you can, pass it forward.

Start with small changes...this isn't a diet, it is a lifestyle change. Commit to drinking a certain amount of water every day for a week, then then next week add a new goal. I did an 8 week spin class that had you make changes slowly and it works. Those small changes become healthy habits.

When you feel hungry, think about if you are feeding your body or feeding your emotions.

I wish you luck on your journey.

Don't be hard on yourself,

i went through the same thing a while back of wanting to eat and it was at a time that i did,'t loose any weight for two weeks. i didn't give into the urge, i chewed on sugar free gum and there was a bedroom that needed decorating,so instead of eating i painted the bedroom (and very nice it looks to ),

I started to loose weight again and the urge to eat has gone. So keep yourself occupied.
good luck .