Parenting advice needed......

Been there done that!

She sounds like a pre-pubescent girl who is unaware that there are other people on the planet. This is a little problem now, but will be really ugly when she is 16 or 18 and it's unchecked.

She needs more involvement in things which are not centered around her wants and desires. Martial Arts classes would be good. Volunteer work would be good. Household chores would be good.

While you say you don't spoil her. Apparently you don't insist on being treated with respect either. You need to say no often enough that she appreciates a yes. Her life and activites are not more important than yours and shouldn't be in her mind either.

The next time she wants to go to a friend's house tell her that she acted disrespectfully the last time and you're not going to repeat it. She'll act like you're killing her and being unreasonable. But just hang tough. She'll ask how long before I can go again. Tell her not until you feel that she'll treat you with respect and this tantrum isn't helping.

Thank you Lucky! I am a single mother!!!!!! I get up everyday at 6 am, I get a child out of bed and I'm out the door by 7. I work all day 5 day's a week. My child has swim practice 3 day's a week and swim meets on weekends. I go to school at a local community college and take 2 classes this semester. I do this without help from anyone except my parents who are available for some afterschool care otherwise she goes to an after school program that I pay for. Oh, and I almost forgot...NO CHILD SUPPORT from the dead beat father whom I once thought was better than that. I do the best I can and other than a few moment's my daughter is a great kid. This is not an all the time problem, just a once in a while thing, and I was looking for creative ways ( not just the typical you cant have this and that until you straighten out yout tude thing) to deal with her when she's having her moments...might I add...we all have out moments even as adults. She shows me respect every day.

and that's all I have to say about that...otherwise...thank you, very much, for your input.

I have 4 kids. My boys, very different and "easier" than the girls. My 16 yr old, thank God , matured and cut her attitude and is so fun now. Mind you, she went to a school this year 4 provinces away on a hockey scholarship, and I think being billetted and with a room mate, she's relized life and her siblings aren't that bad. I get that attitude at times with my 12 yr old. Very few, but more when she's tired. I have a No Tolerence Policy also. This is my house, you borrow a room until you're grown -clean it ,and do as I ask with my property or get out. You will respect us and others, especially adults, or you just don't get to go out for play dates or out with friends. To make a point, take her back or make her phone and thank them for the visit and apologize for her behavior. She'll think twice next time she acts like a 2 yr old. I call a spade a spade in my house. If you're gonna play games with me, lie, or be disrespectful, you will have to deal with the consequences. Taking stuff away from my kids never worked. Now that their older, they have to give me money. I have ALWAYS made the kids apologize for bad behavior to all people involved. But, now on the other side of the coin, all my kids know I will stand by them 100% and will fight tooth and nail for them to ANYONE. In fact, everyone of them has come to me for help and confided in me with a lot of their problems. The only other thing I do is make them do chores. Fold laundry, etc. Hang in there. I was a single Mom too. Just remember you are the boss, and even when you're mad, tell her you LOVE her:smooched: , and WHY you're punishing her. And always make her apologize for her bad actions. Maybe she's also acting out due to your divorce. I took my 1 son to a Psychologist at one point due to probs from our divorce and the rejection of his father. So, that's my words of wisdom for the month. Write me anytime you need to talk if you'd like. Take care.:flowerforyou:

hmmmmm...duct tape, comes to mind..lol, just kidding :laugh:

I have 7 girls and 1 son, and I do believe that she should lose priviledges. You need to follow through wih it, the most important thing in the world to her, is the item/event/friend that needs to kept from her. l YOU determine when she's learned her lesson. My 14 year old daughter as silly as it sounds her hair straightener is the ned all be all, mouth off, and you're going to school with curly hair, for her it's a nightmare, haha! I don't even get into the verbal matches any longer. There's no point they thrive on it. I give one warning, then I end that with if you start again then this....will be taken away, then I always give them a chance to start the conversation over and talk to me in an appropriate manner, heck with one of my daughters, I threw a fit right back. She thought I looked so silly and realized this is how she looked, she never did it again, I was lucky with that one....the others need punishment...hope I helped

just in case any one is wondering, I have twin 3 year old girls, quad girls now 14, a daughter who is 16 and son 17...plus right now, 5 foster children!!

BTW I think it's super cool that someone else has a ma mere puis un pa pere...c'est merveilleux!

hmmmmm...duct tape, comes to mind..lol, just kidding :laugh:

I have 7 girls and 1 son, and I do believe that she should lose priviledges. You need to follow through wih it, the most important thing in the world to her, is the item/event/friend that needs to kept from her. l YOU determine when she's learned her lesson. My 14 year old daughter as silly as it sounds her hair straightener is the ned all be all, mouth off, and you're going to school with curly hair, for her it's a nightmare, haha! I don't even get into the verbal matches any longer. There's no point they thrive on it. I give one warning, then I end that with if you start again then this....will be taken away, then I always give them a chance to start the conversation over and talk to me in an appropriate manner, heck with one of my daughters, I threw a fit right back. She thought I looked so silly and realized this is how she looked, she never did it again, I was lucky with that one....the others need punishment...hope I helped

just in case any one is wondering, I have twin 3 year old girls, quad girls now 14, a daughter who is 16 and son 17...plus right now, 5 foster children!!



BTW I think it's super cool that someone else has a ma mere puis un pa pere...c'est merveilleux!

Holy multiples!

Hey, I have God, and a wonderful in-vitro doctor to thank :laugh: