Lost 13 lbs.....but feeling kinda discouraged

Honestly, I would say to try your best to drop this line of thinking. People will notice or not as they will and this depends largely on how often they see you. If special someone sees you even a few times a week, it will likely be a while before they notice, because the changes are gradual and they see you often enough they can adjust as you change. But being concerned with how others perceive your losses will gain you nothing but hurt and frustration. Try to focus on you, your changes and how you feel. Everything else will follow.

I've lost around 15 at least (I didn't start tracking til I had already lost some) and just now people are starting to notice...Literally, like, yesterday was the first time I got any comments! One thing to consider too---I am really embarrassed when people comment on my weight loss, because it makes me feel self conscious about how I was *before*...So a lot of times I don't comment on people's weight loss--I might just say "you look great!" or "that outfit makes your bod look awesome!" So maybe your friend just didn't know if you'd be sensitive if he said something about it!

My husband is like that too...he won't say anything because he knows it's real sensitive to me. Also, men typically don't notice things unless it's super dramatic.

Maybe he thought you look fabulous before you lost the weight and didn't want to seem shallow to compliment on your weight loss.

Congrats on losing weight, keep up the great work.

Girl, there is a song that says the following:
"You don't do it for the man; man, never notice! You just do it for yourself, cause you the coldest!"
If we rely on what others think and say, we will never get to that happy place for ourselves. I know that this was someone special (who may have sparked your interest to make a difference in your health), but do it for you. And if you're happy with the results you have seen thus far, keep it up Momma. I'm proud of you and just remember that is what MFP is all about....getting that extra encouragement you can't get else where!

Good Luck!

It seems that you're looking for validation from other people, instead of looking within yourself. YOU know that you've put in the work, so bask in your success, and stand proud, you deserve it!!

Personally, as a feminist, I try to never comment on someone's weight loss, because you never know how that person lost it, if they were trying to or not, etc, but most of all I don't want to reinforce the idea that they needed to lose weight to be pretty, that their weight is significant, or that they will get attention if they restrict what they're eating.

Seriously how many men do we all know that actually notice anything we change to our bodies?! Even if they notice I doubt they have the sensitivity to tell us we have done well and we actually look good!
Don't be discouraged by lack of comments, its about how you feel about yourself that matters! If someone pays you a compliment about you looking good and losing weight then take that and run with it, don't hold out waiting for everyone to tell you they have noticed something.
If this guy is really special to you then it might be that he loves you whether you are bigger or smaller so he might not feel the need to have to say anything to you at all!

My other half said to me yesterday "There's a photo of us at my mums and I noticed that you have lost a bit! You looked bigger in the photos" Now I know it was a compliment but he could have gone without saying that there is photo evidence of me being fatter.
What I took from it though was that he noticed! Even though he had to look at a picture from the past, he still noticed and I feel great that I no longer feel like I have to hide behind someone or wince at my own photos.

You are doing great and don't let anyone tell you different (or let anything people DON'T say as a negative)

Don't lose hope. It has been a little over a month and I have barely lost 6 pounds. Only one person, whom I haven't seen in six months has commented on how I have lost a little weight and that made me feel a little better. My mother-in-law told me, every 10 pounds lost is one dress size and it usually takes losing two dress sizes for people you see every week to notice.

I was feeling discouraged too, since I went from 180 to 173 just to go up to 176 and now I am 174. I have worked hard for over a month, but I have yet to lose more than 6 pounds. But that one person who commented on my weight gave me the confidence to continue to workout and I know I will lose more weight in the future.

So don't get discouraged. Keep up your workout and diet. Plus, some guys don't notice until there is a huge change and the ones who do, don't always feel it necessary to comment about it.

I'll definitely be keeping the clothes on in the future....cuz that just didn't feel good. It made me depressed..but I had to snap out of it...because I didn't want to ruin the weekend. I'm gonna keep at it...not for him...but for me.

that's the spirit!!!!!!!!!!!

Therein lies the problem.....I haven't seen him since BEFORE I started my fatloss journey...well over a month..and with the compliments I've gotten from others..I was hoping, anticipating that he would notice also. Even when I put my suit on..and tried to...in a not so obvious way...do a little twirl, to show off my "smaller" tummy...and when he didn't say anything..I immediately walked out and hid out in the pool. Thinking..maybe it's the suit?? Yeah right. I'm doin this for me, of course...but I was just hoping he..of all people..would " find waldo".

That a girl We're very proud of you .. loosing 10 lbs isn't easy ..we know ..so you just keep your chin up and keep up the good work you're doing ...