I’ve been at this for years. I’ve tried to lose weight so many times, feeling defeated every day

When your will power is lacking, you need to discover your WHY power.

I’ve been in exactly the same position as you, and only in the last week have I pulled finger. This whole year I’d start the week planning what I’d eat how I’d workout etc and then just not do it.

Recently, I locked myself away for two hours and asked my some questions:

1) Why do you want to lose weight?

And list them all, no matter how vain or trivial they may seem.

2) What’s stopping you?

And for me it was a few things. Despite all my planning I was still setting myself up to fail. I was planning meals I knew I wouldn’t really enjoy, I wasn’t leaving my alarm in another room to force me to get up, I wasn’t planning workouts that would actually be fun (I’m the type who gets bored of routine very quickly) but most of all, I was setting the bar sooooo high that the tiniest bit of failure stopped me from trying to do any better.

Be gentle with yourself and set very simple short term goals. Maybe this week can just be to eat three meals you plan in advance and find one new exercise you’d like to try just once this week. When you achieve smaller goals your confidence builds. Then start adding to them.

If you make this a sentence everything within you will rebel. Our brains are designed to keep stuffing our faces in case we run out of food and they certainly don’t like changes that don’t come from a place of determination. So plan meals you’d actually enjoy. Don’t try to follow any particular diet, just plan your calories and look for meals that bring you joy. It’s actually really fun tweaking your favs to be more healthy. Like black bean brownies sound gross, but they’re super fudgy and taste amazing! But are low calorie and full of fibre!!

I’ve also found checking in with myself each day helps. It’s too easy to forget to do things but if you set an alarm or find lost ten minutes to reflect on your progress, it often resparks your motivation. Motivation is like a shower, you need it everyday! So read over your why’s and make it fun. Everything you need to reach your goals, you already have. And try not get so caught up in losing weight that ignore the fact that you brought a baby into this world! That’s incredible!! Celebrate that. Know and honourtour strength and everyday channel it into achieving your goals.

Here anytime if you need to chat xx