"I didn't want to offend you"

People are saying these things to you because they are unhappy with being overweight.
Practice saying these firmly in the mirror:

Awww, thanks for your concern. My doctor is happy with my healthy weight. Are you happy with your weight?

You know, underweight is BMI 18 and under. My BMI is 22. What's yours?

What a rude thing to say! If you knew me better you'd know I'm at a healthy weight.

Where's my knight in shining armor? You should be proud of me and how healthy I am.




Keep in mind I am an aggressive person with few social skills LOLOL!

You are taking care of yourself. Period. You are not taking care of all the other yahoos around you. Don't worry about what they have to say.

Interestingly enough, all the girls in my gym class in high school said I looked anorexic. Of course, it was the overweight girls that said that, but anyway... I look back at pictures of myself from that time, and yes, I was very bony. However, I ate whatever I wanted, and I was somewhat active. I was healthy, and that's what mattered. (And my boobs grew a lot more in college than they did in high school. Who cares?)

I have a friend who is 5'4" and 95lbs on a good day. She gets comments like that all the time. However, I've had many meals with her, and spent time hanging out with her, and I know good and well that she does not have an eating disorder. She does have a few issues with her intestines, but she is now gluten free and while she feels great, she still looks the same.

If people REALLY don't want to offend you, they will learn more about you than just the way you look.

Anyway, just tune them out the best you can, keep eating well and exercising.

It might be possible that whoever said these means things may be jealous of your success. If they are not a close friend or relative just blow it off. Life is too short to get worked up by insensitive people like that.

Be a Honey badger.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg

Seriously it sounds like you are doing things the correct way. Stop letting other peoples issues get to you.

ROFLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

Be a Honey badger.

+1!!!

I personally think people still expect to see the 'fat' you and it's not got through to their brains (i use that term lightly) yet that your body shape has changed.

If i were you i'd take your hubby down to the doctors with you for a check up. If it helps take a diary of a few days of what you eat generally. The doctor can do the necessary tests and give you the all clear. Your hubby will hear exactly all sorts of diseases obesity could have given you later on in life and he can put the haters in the picture in future when they say anything..

And as for 'boobs' comments, just tell em your saving for some new ones xxx

There may be no malice or jealousy involved...quick true story


A few years ago my sister lost a considerable amount of weight, shes 5ft 8 and got down to 160lbs and i thought she looked too skinny and voiced my concern so she pointed out that I was an inch shorter and 24lbs lighter than her....(at the time!)

i wasn't being malicious or jealous, it was purely because I had been so used to seeing her larger, took her pointing it out to make me realise tho.

Well done on reaching your goal!

What is wrong with being thin? I ask myself this quite often because I am starting to feel like it is a crime to be thin in today's society. Are we just so accustomed to obesity that we fail to see thin people as "normal" and think they are sickly?

I think you hit the nail on the head.

I'm thinking that it could be also because so much of the population is overweight that maybe people are seeing chubbier as normal/healthy. But if it's close friends then I'd say it's because they're too used to you being heavier that they haven't processed the change yet.

Great job on reaching your goal!

Next time you go in for your medical check-up, ask the doctor what she/he thinks. If your BMI is 22, you should be fine. But I'm no doctor and I don't have enough information for a full picture. Your blood pressure and cholesterol levels matter too.

Don't forget that 2/3rds of Americans are overweight. I think there is a distorted perception by some people that being a healthy weight is underweight. As others on the forum point out, there is conscious and unconscious sabotage, perceptions based on what you used to look like, and plain old confusion about what healthy looks like.

Just for a reality check I too am 5' 6" tall. I am small boned and pear shaped. I think that setting your goal to 140 was about right and for your age 136 is not too small unless you have larger frame. My goal weight is 150 but I wouldn't think I was too thin at 137. I didn't really start to develop up top until my early 20's. I think I looked really good at 137 after having my first child. I remember wearing size 5 pants when I was at my slimmest before having children. I did get too skinny Freshman year of College. People told me I was and I listened but I was at 99lbs. I was trying to stay away from junky dorm food and I guess I just couldn't find enough healthy food there. So as long as you are in the healthy range you should be good. You set realistic goals and have been somewhat conservative which is good considering your age. Do you have a small, medium or large frame? I was wearing size 6 or 61/2 shoes and had small hands and I knew I had a small frame. My weight ranged between 127 and 142 when I was younger. One thing to think about once you have decided what is your ideal weight is to try and maintain it closely for 2 months. That way you body will reset at that weight and see it as your normal weight and help you to maintain it. If you gain or lose it will mess up this process of resetting your weight. If you don't your body will try to take you to your last weight it saw as normal. So find that weight you want to be and maintain it without gaining or losing more than a pound or two for at least 2 months and don't listen to others if you are in the healthy range of weight. At your next physical ask your doctor. Congratulations on your hard work and success.

It's "nice" to hear that others have the same issue as myself. The thing that really gets to me is that the people who tell me I need to stop losing weight/I'm getting too skinny are the same people who told me to lose weight in the first place. Well, at least they're consistently saying there's something wrong with me... Meh, I've still got 30lbs to go!

One of the things I DID NOT expect from weight loss is the ****ty comments, and the broken relationships it would bring. Now is the time to surround yourself with like minded individuals, and get the negative ones out of your life.