My Boyfriend's A Trash Panda | Coping with partners who eat without consequence

So what I would say is communication is key to this. Explain to your partner what it is your trying to accomplish. Show them the math. That’s what I did with my boyfriend. I explained to him I can eat whatever I just have to make sure I have the credits available. We’re gaming people so I call my calories different things to make use giggle. The other thing is to ask for them to be supportive. Maybe talking to them about not eatting those things in front of you for a little while. I hope this helps.

I have a husband who needs to eat significantly more than me. And he weighs less than me. He has a very physically demanding job.

We have talked about my goals and he is very supportive. He will clean the kitchen after I cook, pick up the slack if I need to go to the gym, etc. etc.

What he eats, doesn't affect me. My goals are mine and I don't expect him to eat less or different because I have to.

That being said, he gets double portions of what I cook and I get less. I sometimes fill it out with steamed veggies or salad.

As far as snacks go, I cannot relate since I'm not much of a snacker. He has a ton of ice cream and such and I'm not really interested.

I don't let the people in my household ruin it for me. I ignore what they are eating because it's not going in my mouth!

be responsible for your weight loss and don't worry about what he is or is not doing. your bf is doing the work he needs to do by being active already. that's why he gets to be a trash panda. on weekends, i'm often a trash panda to match the need of calories i am supposed to eat.

my husband and i ate the same thing while i was at the height of my weight loss. i ate less. or maybe more of one thing and less of another. we ate cake and ice cream, fries and pizza. i just ate less

My BF is tall and relatively thin and doesn’t concern himself with diet. He works a very active job and spends much of the summer dining on pints of Ben & Jerry’s after a meal of pizza and snack of Reese’s peanut butter cups.

My son is 6’4” and weighs 145 pounds. I remember one day he was making himself a snack of 6 peanut butter and butter sandwiches (bleh-and 6? As a snack?) while I weighed the lettuce for my salad. I almost stabbed him with my salad fork.

Not really.

They are both tall, and very active. I am short and work a desk job at home. They can (and do) eat substantially more than I can to maintain their weight.

Luckily-what they eat has no impact on me. I know what my calories need to be and I focus on making that happen.

I have learned that getting upset about other people’s calorie allowances (as compared to mine) is a little like getting upset that my bank account isn’t the same as Bill Gates’. It really doesn’t matter what someone else has-I have to work with what I have.

He can eat what he can eat without having to involve you. But if sharing these kinds of foods has been a big part of how you have spent time together, then expect it to be a bit of a learning curve as that’s part of how he interacts with you and shares life with you.

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