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  • honeybee__12
    honeybee__12 Posts: 15,688 Member
    edited February 2020
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    maintaining my sense of humor
  • cdubks88
    cdubks88 Posts: 3,573 Member
    edited February 2020
    Stressing out over my daughter (12)... she's being harassed at school and we've been working to address the situation. For the longest time, she didn't want to name the kids who've been bothering her because she doesn't want to be a snitch, or make things worse, or be a "baby"... It's caused her to struggle with anxiety and depression and she was referred to a therapist because she was entertaining thoughts of self harm.

    She finally named two of the kids, and I took that to the principal and he dealt with it - not sure how - and those kids have been ignoring her... but this past week a third kid has really upped his game.

    Yesterday, when his teasing of her didn't get the response he wanted, he told her to "just kill herself already". She was so broken last night, and angry, and it kills my heart. I've already reached out to the school, but, seriously... words DO hurt. So many people say she has to grow a thicker skin... but do we really want more hard assh0les out there? Or maybe, just maybe, we should tell the assh0les to be a bit more empathetic for once?

    Sigh.

    So sorry you and your daughter are going through this. No way she should have to "just deal with it" or "grow a thicker skin".

    Telling someone what she was told to do is an atrocious thing to say. However, I think it's no less awful telling a kid in that scenario they have to grow a thicker skin.

    Makes me nuts when people say that like kids are just supposed to shrug statements like that off.

    Really does make you wonder if any of those same people ever seriously had anyone tell them something of that gravity as a kid or adult.

    Hope for you and your daughter something gets done soon.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Regretting my decision to eat all those Sour Patch Kids. Why must I have a kid who brings home candy???
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    cdubks88 wrote: »
    Stressing out over my daughter (12)... she's being harassed at school and we've been working to address the situation. For the longest time, she didn't want to name the kids who've been bothering her because she doesn't want to be a snitch, or make things worse, or be a "baby"... It's caused her to struggle with anxiety and depression and she was referred to a therapist because she was entertaining thoughts of self harm.

    She finally named two of the kids, and I took that to the principal and he dealt with it - not sure how - and those kids have been ignoring her... but this past week a third kid has really upped his game.

    Yesterday, when his teasing of her didn't get the response he wanted, he told her to "just kill herself already". She was so broken last night, and angry, and it kills my heart. I've already reached out to the school, but, seriously... words DO hurt. So many people say she has to grow a thicker skin... but do we really want more hard assh0les out there? Or maybe, just maybe, we should tell the assh0les to be a bit more empathetic for once?

    Sigh.

    So sorry you and your daughter are going through this. No way she should have to "just deal with it" or "grow a thicker skin".

    Telling someone what she was told to do is an atrocious thing to say. However, I think it's no less awful telling a kid in that scenario they have to grow a thicker skin.

    Makes me nuts when people say that like kids are just supposed to shrug statements like that off.

    Really does make you wonder if any of those same people ever seriously had anyone tell them something of that gravity as a kid or adult.

    Hope for you and your daughter something gets done soon.

    Thank you. She messaged again today near the end of the day. The boy was calling her a snitch, and getting his friends to do it to. The principal is going to talk to them, but hopefully in such a way that it's not a "she snitched on you again" moment.

    Sometimes I wish that I could go up to these kids and say... What would you do if the kid you just told to go kill themselves actually did? How would you feel? Could you go to that funeral and look their grieving parents in the eyes? What about their siblings and aunts and uncles?

    I know they are just kids, but I try to teach my kids to think about potential consequences, and I wish these would... because I think they're probably decent humans - they're just oblivious to the damage they are truly doing... and she's not close enough to them for them to be empathetic.

    Empathy is in such short supply. :(
  • mommabear4315
    mommabear4315 Posts: 3,424 Member
    Tigg_er wrote: »
    Hiding...

    Peek-a-Boo

    🤫 don’t tell them where I am pleaseee
  • mommabear4315
    mommabear4315 Posts: 3,424 Member
    Drinking a diet redbull to get some energy to jam out and clean my house. Waiting for it to kick in.
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    Just got home.. chillaxin
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    lx1x wrote: »
    Just got home.. chillaxin

    Was it a fun evening? :D
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    lx1x wrote: »
    Just got home.. chillaxin

    Was it a fun evening? :D

    Not really.. 😝
  • mommabear4315
    mommabear4315 Posts: 3,424 Member
    IslandGal3 wrote: »
    Watching the hockey game. Online shoe shopping.

    Uuuuuu me too! My reward for cleaning the house by myself! What type of shoes are you looking at?
  • This_far
    This_far Posts: 536 Member
    Past week has thrown my life and workout routine out the window. So right now going for melatonin to try to sleep.
  • stanleyrod
    stanleyrod Posts: 3 Member
    In office.. In front of my computer wondering what to do
  • cdubks88
    cdubks88 Posts: 3,573 Member
    edited February 2020
    cdubks88 wrote: »
    Stressing out over my daughter (12)... she's being harassed at school and we've been working to address the situation. For the longest time, she didn't want to name the kids who've been bothering her because she doesn't want to be a snitch, or make things worse, or be a "baby"... It's caused her to struggle with anxiety and depression and she was referred to a therapist because she was entertaining thoughts of self harm.

    She finally named two of the kids, and I took that to the principal and he dealt with it - not sure how - and those kids have been ignoring her... but this past week a third kid has really upped his game.

    Yesterday, when his teasing of her didn't get the response he wanted, he told her to "just kill herself already". She was so broken last night, and angry, and it kills my heart. I've already reached out to the school, but, seriously... words DO hurt. So many people say she has to grow a thicker skin... but do we really want more hard assh0les out there? Or maybe, just maybe, we should tell the assh0les to be a bit more empathetic for once?

    Sigh.

    So sorry you and your daughter are going through this. No way she should have to "just deal with it" or "grow a thicker skin".

    Telling someone what she was told to do is an atrocious thing to say. However, I think it's no less awful telling a kid in that scenario they have to grow a thicker skin.

    Makes me nuts when people say that like kids are just supposed to shrug statements like that off.

    Really does make you wonder if any of those same people ever seriously had anyone tell them something of that gravity as a kid or adult.

    Hope for you and your daughter something gets done soon.

    Thank you. She messaged again today near the end of the day. The boy was calling her a snitch, and getting his friends to do it to. The principal is going to talk to them, but hopefully in such a way that it's not a "she snitched on you again" moment.

    Sometimes I wish that I could go up to these kids and say... What would you do if the kid you just told to go kill themselves actually did? How would you feel? Could you go to that funeral and look their grieving parents in the eyes? What about their siblings and aunts and uncles?

    I know they are just kids, but I try to teach my kids to think about potential consequences, and I wish these would... because I think they're probably decent humans - they're just oblivious to the damage they are truly doing... and she's not close enough to them for them to be empathetic.

    Empathy is in such short supply. :(

    It seems like stories like your daughter's are all to common nowadays (which is a terrible thing). The one thing I seem to miss or don't find is where the accountability of the parents is called to question.

    Going to the principal is a good move, but if the parents aren't getting notified for whatever reason (I know it happens to keep stuff quiet at times...I've seen it in the small town we live in) or they just don't care, pay attention, just don't want to deal with it or believe their kid is incapable of that kind of behavior, then the parents continue to enable it. That's an environment problem. It's got to start at home.

    The parental accountability is often something that doesn't happen in these situations and the kids are the ones who suffer (along with their families).

    So sorry this is happening. Hope you get some resolve to it soon.
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    Enjoying my cup of nectar of the gods ☕
  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member
    Thinking about nectar
  • _Miss_chievous_
    _Miss_chievous_ Posts: 2,765 Member
    Waiting for my daughter to finish her homework so we can snuggle and watch a movie.
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    edited February 2020
    Leaving work.. woot
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    Waiting for my parents to pick up their dog, so I can go work out.

    If I start before they get here, then I have to stop to chat and I don't want to interrupt my flow!

    Thing is... I have no idea when they'll be back.
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    Waiting for my daughter to finish her homework so we can snuggle and watch a movie.

    Love this! ❤️
  • TwitchyMacGee
    TwitchyMacGee Posts: 3,120 Member
    Sitting in the car in my driveway, working up the energy to go inside
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Sitting in the car in my driveway, working up the energy to go inside

    good lord, the amount of fuel I've burned by circling the block....
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    Telling myself to get off the treadmill and go do my lifts.

    The lifts are > the workweek hustle.
    :laugh:
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    it's killing me.....

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  • TwitchyMacGee
    TwitchyMacGee Posts: 3,120 Member
    I'm drinking my emotions away
    I have none left
  • jeff97266
    jeff97266 Posts: 93 Member
    riding the MAX
  • NotSoFat70
    NotSoFat70 Posts: 304 Member
    Wondering how people make it to 50+ while being dumber than dog 💩.. specifically referring to a certain colleague 🤬
  • This_far
    This_far Posts: 536 Member
    Binge watching Avenue 5
  • asthesoapturns
    asthesoapturns Posts: 313 Member
    Prostrating cleaning the dishes.