Neighbor Issues

JellyJaks
JellyJaks Posts: 589 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
At what point do you become involved in how someone is parenting their children?

My next door neighbor is out of control. Yesterday while I was in the tub I could hear her screaming at her kids (which range in age from 4 to about 11) Get your mother effen *kitten* into the shower right now. What the f is wrong with you dumbass...her 4 year old started crying at this point and it was why the f are you crying? Shut your mother effen mouth right now before I give you a god damn reason to cry. This went on for a good 10 minutes. My husband was outside cutting his hair and he heard every word she said as did the neighbors that live under me...

Then this morning I just heard her screaming again to get the f outta her room. I'm in my bedroom. She had to scream loud enough to get through her wall, the space where my stairs lead into my apartment, and my wall for me to be able to hear her. The worst part is, it's an every day occurrence with her. I can even hear her when she's down in the parking lot screaming at them and I'm on the third floor.

I'm seriously considering talking to the landlord (we're in low income housing and one of the things stated in our lease agreement is that they don't tolerate abuse of any kind and you can be kicked out of the program for it) or calling CPS

Thoughts?

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  • bethvandenberg
    bethvandenberg Posts: 1,496 Member
    I would say something to someone...
  • 19zerbrechen63
    19zerbrechen63 Posts: 22
    I think something should be done. That's definitely verbal abuse. Who knows if worse is going on? Those poor children.
  • Sagelit
    Sagelit Posts: 78
    We had a set of neighbours awhile ago that used to knock their kids across the house into walls, including the one joining our apartments, which is how we found out about it. You have to say something if you can. It may amount to nothing if she's a smooth talker, but at least you've tried.
  • candb
    candb Posts: 238
    Those poor children. I'm thinking CPS would be better than the landlord, because if the landlord says someone is complaining of the yelling then she may stop yelling at them, but start physically abusing them instead.
  • VenturaGurl
    VenturaGurl Posts: 413 Member
    I believe you can report to CPS annonymously. It sounds like awful verbal abuse...so sad!
  • lor007
    lor007 Posts: 884 Member
    By reporting it you wouldn't be getting involved, CPS would be getting involved. Just call one of them and don't feel guilty about doing so, that is what the agency is for.
  • mamathrash2
    mamathrash2 Posts: 80 Member
    I agree! You need to report her. If she has no problems yelling those terrible things at them, then I would bet she would have no problem doing worse to them. I hope it all works out all right!
  • mmstgr
    mmstgr Posts: 578 Member
    Those poor children :(
    I'd have to call CPS
  • vanessaclarkgbr
    vanessaclarkgbr Posts: 731 Member
    Definitely report it hun. If she'll do that knowing people can here, imagine what she's capable of when people think she can't. Good for you, and lucky for her kids that you care. Good luck x

    *hear, not here!*
  • lor007
    lor007 Posts: 884 Member
    Those poor children. I'm thinking CPS would be better than the landlord, because if the landlord says someone is complaining of the yelling then she may stop yelling at them, but start physically abusing them instead.

    If it is a public housing building, I would guess it is owned by the state. They probably have to report cases of child abuse to CPS anyways. But I agree, you might as well skip that step and go straight to CPS.
  • patiencez2
    patiencez2 Posts: 160 Member
    call social services not that they do alot.let them listen from your apartment.
    Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.
    some people don't deserve kids. Please don't sit and do nothing.
  • NotGoddess
    NotGoddess Posts: 1,198 Member
    Verbal abuse causes scars no one can see and years of dedicated effort to resolve. If you think it's hard to lose weight as a normal person think how hard it is when you have that voice from your childhood shouting that you are worthless and can't do anything right. The best thing you can do is call CPS and have them check it out. It might be just the wake-up call the mom needs to realize the harm she's doing to her kids so she can get the help she needs.
  • JellyJaks
    JellyJaks Posts: 589 Member
    Thanks so much for all the responses. I guess I just needed to hear confirmation that I'm not blowing things out of proportion and it definitely constitutes abuse. I'm looking up the phone number for CPS in our state and hopefully I can get someone to give this woman a reality check. I agree that some people just shouldn't have children.

    She's yelling at her daughter that she has ruined her whole effen life :noway: That poor baby didn't ask to be born and I'm sure she wouldn't have asked to be born to you either given how poorly you're treating her.
  • Caper88
    Caper88 Posts: 418 Member
    Talking to your landlord isn't going to fix the over all problem. They might get kicked out of there apartment but that just means they will move and abuse the kid some where else. My suggestion it to talk to someone who can professional determine if the child is in harm.
  • sweetsapphire85
    sweetsapphire85 Posts: 386
    I believe you can report to CPS annonymously. It sounds like awful verbal abuse...so sad!

    I'm going in to social work and you can do this, they may not check it out right away but if enough reports are made they will investigate.
  • Erindipitous
    Erindipitous Posts: 1,234 Member
    She's yelling at her daughter that she has ruined her whole effen life :noway: That poor baby didn't ask to be born and I'm sure she wouldn't have asked to be born to you either given how poorly you're treating her.

    Oh my gosh!! Yes, please contact CPS. These poor children need to be rescued from this abuse.
  • livnlite
    livnlite Posts: 520
    No question about it .. That is the very definition verbal abuse. Mind you, in MY day .. THAT was an everyday occurance in most households. Talking to children like that was very common.

    Now days, there are tools in place to help remedy a growing infestation of that kind of abuse. Call 'the powers that be' and simply ask about it. They are best ones to advise on what a person should do in your situation.
  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    Just watch your back after you report this. She probably has restraint with her kids, but it sounds like she could be violent, has alot of anger and you could become a target for that anger. She will probably suspect it was one of her nieghbors who reported her.

    I am a landlord and just the fact that she is a loudmouth *kitten* is enough to piss me off, one tenant like her can make all the good tenants move, who wants to listen to that? If she wasn't yelling at her kids she would probably be yelling at someone else....

    I would let the landlord know too in regards to her inconsiderate yelling, He could give her a warning, sure it won't solve the kids problem, but you don't want to have a neighbor like that. If he recieves multiple complaints from other tenants he would have grounds to evict her.
  • calibri
    calibri Posts: 439 Member
    Sounds like my neighbours downstairs. I've called security on them a few times since they like to scream at each other at 1AM. I've never heard her scream at her kids, just at her husband, but I have heard her kids cry on end. We're moving in a few weeks, I feel bad for whoever moves in up here or below them.
  • 42hockeymom
    42hockeymom Posts: 521 Member
    You actually don't even have to call CPS, you can call your local police department, and they will forward the information on to CPS. They can also just make a "visit". Thing is, is that if you wait until after the holiday to contact CPS, you're going to have to wait for two more days. Whereas if you alert the authorities, they have CPS people who are on call that they can contact.

    But I do agree that this is a slippery slope. By contacting the police they will come and say something to her about a neighbor complaint. Which will make her suspicious and could cause reprecussions. But, sitting by and doing nothing, is just as bad as abusing those children yourself IMHO. But then in the industry I worked in I was a mandated reporter, and that part of the job will never leave me.
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