43 year old woman starting over...again...looking for motivation & support!

Motivation and willpower are limited resources. They will run out. You can learn to moderate yourself with food.
Saying that you can't will throw you right back into the All or Nothing Mindset = All or Nothing Dieting = Rebound weight gain with friends. You can learn to moderate. Master that. Master moderating your portions and you won't ever have to start over again.

@Michele7091 I remembered you today. How's it going.
Tiny steps for tiny feet. Small habits. Big results.

I've drawn my line in the sand with starting over and over and over and I'm speaking only in general here.

Hitting the pause button mentality only builds the skill-set of pausing. It creates a mindset of Life Happens and now I need to quit for awhile. So we think that starting afresh after losing our way will fix everything. It doesn't.

If we don't find a way to take care of ourselves under real life conditions it will never stick. Constant starts and stops actually lay down more tracks in your brain that lead to a lifetime of All or Nothing. We rarely get all and get mostly nothing from it.

Life has no pause button. There is no timeout for life. Life keeps going. We don't get to pause on our families or careers, jobs or taking care of the children and critters. We can't hit a reset, reboot on our jobs or we will get fired. Somehow, we muster up the guts to get out of bed every single day and show UP for the boss.

If you keep on going and tooling along, you will always get something. We don't need to press pause but simply adjust the dials. There's no such thing as a food reset. That's just trendy talk for more slick dieting marketing tricks.

Pain is the precursor to change. It could be back pain, knees, hips, joints, feet or emotional discomfort and pain.
Pain is there for a reason. It tells us that we have a problem. So let that pain take on some meaning.

Use it. Let that discomfort drive, drive, drive you to make some permanent and lasting changes. Long term weight stability will have some short term discomforts. The trade-off is long term overall quality of life.

There's only choices and consequences. Our choices shape our preferences for the rest of our lives. Learn how to separate feelings from your identity. Don't let those feelings drive your behaviors.

Even in the middle of something awful like we're all going through right now we will benefit from the knowledge we are gaining. Dig deep and uncover the pain that gives you a really big pinch. Uncover it. Expose it.

Turn it all around. Let it drive you and become your passion to find your pathway to overall health and well being.
When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than staying the same we change.
Stoke your fire, stoke your passion and let it drive you to do the hard things and get you where you want to go.


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The only difference with me is that I'm a year younger, but totally in the same boat. I fine myself doing fine then something will happen and I just eat bad. I definitely need motivation and someone to help keep me on track. It's the late evenings and weekends that get me.

Hi, feel free to add me 😁