Reality Therapy

happenstance82
happenstance82 Posts: 240
edited September 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
I thought I'd share a concept I use at work called Reality Therapy. It's simple and helpful, consisting of three very basic questions to ask yourself(or someone else)

1. What is it I want?
2. What am I doing to get it?
3. Is it working?

I use this as a form of behavior rehabilitation or as a de-escalation tactic, but we can totally apply this to our health goals!

Example: Mary wants to fit into her new size 6 jeans by summer, but wants to skip the gym today and grab a cheeseburger for lunch.

Mary asks herself:
"What is it I want?....to fit into those jeans."
"What am I doing to get that(reach that goal)?....um, skipping my workout and eating a burger."
"Is it working?(is this going to help me get to my goal)?"...probably not!"

Mary then makes a better choice that day, eating a healthy lunch and gets her *kitten* to the gym!

Go Mary!!!

Ok, it's not always that simple, but worth a try! :bigsmile:

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  • happenstance82
    happenstance82 Posts: 240
    I thought I'd share a concept I use at work called Reality Therapy. It's simple and helpful, consisting of three very basic questions to ask yourself(or someone else)

    1. What is it I want?
    2. What am I doing to get it?
    3. Is it working?

    I use this as a form of behavior rehabilitation or as a de-escalation tactic, but we can totally apply this to our health goals!

    Example: Mary wants to fit into her new size 6 jeans by summer, but wants to skip the gym today and grab a cheeseburger for lunch.

    Mary asks herself:
    "What is it I want?....to fit into those jeans."
    "What am I doing to get that(reach that goal)?....um, skipping my workout and eating a burger."
    "Is it working?(is this going to help me get to my goal)?"...probably not!"

    Mary then makes a better choice that day, eating a healthy lunch and gets her *kitten* to the gym!

    Go Mary!!!

    Ok, it's not always that simple, but worth a try! :bigsmile:
  • chellebelle315
    chellebelle315 Posts: 298
    this is great....the truth is it is always that simple, we just allow life and the hectic details of every day to cloud it. I'm writing that on a post it and sticking it on my mirror, on the fridge, and on my dashboard, so I'll think about it the next time I'm considering skipping the gym and getting a cheeseburger :happy: :drinker:

    thanks for the reminder!
  • angelinaz
    angelinaz Posts: 262
    This is perfect for me for this afternoon. I am approaching the time of day where I make crazy food choices and then tonight I tell myself I will do better tomorrow! If I choose healthy foods for a few days in a row, then my cravings stop and I start to lose weight. I have decided to stick close to this website during the hours where I find my choice making to be the most difficult. I, too, have written these questions down and will carry them with me! :smile: :heart:
  • wildkat318
    wildkat318 Posts: 326 Member
    I thought I'd share a concept I use at work called Reality Therapy. It's simple and helpful, consisting of three very basic questions to ask yourself(or someone else)

    1. What is it I want?
    2. What am I doing to get it?
    3. Is it working?

    I use this as a form of behavior rehabilitation or as a de-escalation tactic, but we can totally apply this to our health goals!

    Example: Mary wants to fit into her new size 6 jeans by summer, but wants to skip the gym today and grab a cheeseburger for lunch.

    Mary asks herself:
    "What is it I want?....to fit into those jeans."
    "What am I doing to get that(reach that goal)?....um, skipping my workout and eating a burger."
    "Is it working?(is this going to help me get to my goal)?"...probably not!"

    Mary then makes a better choice that day, eating a healthy lunch and gets her *kitten* to the gym!

    Go Mary!!!

    Ok, it's not always that simple, but worth a try! :bigsmile:

    Actually, sometimes it really is that simple! It's not always that EASY, but simple, yes! I like it! :drinker:
  • incorporeally
    incorporeally Posts: 27 Member
    Thank you for this!! I was having kind of a bad day and when I went shopping I had to force myself not to buy junk food. It was seriously a mental struggle and in the end, I left empty-handed. I think that usually, it is this simple...just telling yourself NO!! and making the wise choice.
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