Haters
Hurricane722
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So someone on the street in Chicago today called me a “fat *kitten* ho.” I know it shouldn’t bother me but it really has been eating at me. I didn’t react. It made me feel like crap. I’m down 16 lbs and was in such a good place mentally. Don’t want this to ruin my vibe but it’s hard! Thank you all.
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Apparently another word for butt was changed to kitten lol4
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Just ignore it and focus on yourself6
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I have never understood the mentality of those who call others names and yes, it can be quite upsetting.
To get a buzz, which I suppose is their motivation, they need to try to make someone else feel bad about themselves - which is really weird.
So rather than focusing on their nasty words instead think about how dreadful their existence must be if this is what they need to do to make themselves feel good about it.9 -
You know what they say... "haters gonna hate". Don't let them have that power over you. Easier said than done, I know, but we always have to try, for our own sake. And congrats on your 16 lbs loss, that's something to celebrate and be proud of!3
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It's hard to let go when someone says something hurtful like that but just know it's not about you, that kind of hating is a cover for their own inadequacies and insecurities.
Move forward with your head held high.. you're doing a great job, well done on the 16lb 👏8 -
Someone has to be a very sad, hurt or angry inside to want to hurl mean comments at someone else just to hurt them. A person who is happy with themselves and filled with joy spread out around.
It doesn't stop it from hurting, but it does help to know it wasn't about you at all, just their need to be hateful to salve their own pain.4 -
My Canadian understanding of Chicago is that, depending on the inflection, phonics and context, it may have been a compliment 🤷🏿♀️
Kidding, of course.
Keep it moving. Hurt people hurt other people. But if the same person does it again and you're in a situation where you often intersect with them, it's harassment and I'd treat it accordingly.
Stay strong!2 -
Sorry that happened to you
Some people are jerks, some people love creating drama, some people just need to be punched in the throat. You've made great progress; don't let some random a-hole drag you down. 4 -
I’m sorry people are idiots! Use it to fuel whatever goals you have. I lost 130 lbs and I remember distinctly the day someone asked me when I was due (it was over 17 years ago now) and I WASNT PREGNANT!
You know what I lost 132 lbs naturally and I’m an endurance athlete so 🤬 them and their baby questions....
You got this mama4 -
What an *kitten*
Take comfort and pride in the fact that you’re taking steps to improve your health and well-being. I’m pretty sure this person could benefit from investing some time in him- or herself...2 -
Try to not let it get to you. I know it's hard though. It amazes me sometimes how ignorant people are. Feel free to add me.2
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Eugh. I know exactly how this feels!
I had like severe postnatal depression few years ago.
I didnt properly leave the house for about two years unless it was absolutely necessary (like food shopping)
So anyway, one day I felt a bit better than normal, so did my hair, did my makeup and man, I felt GOOD!
I looked good, i felt good, was ready to tackle a trip to the town centre.
Not even 500yards from my home someone shouted "fat prozzy"
And it just took everything away.
Now I'm at a place where I'm not bothered at all.
If they have to pick on me and say stuff to me, then I KNOW they're the ones insecure. Because I don't do that to others to make myself feel better3 -
That comment says more about the person who said it then it does about you. We're all on our own Journeys and you should be really proud that you've dropped 16 lb!!! Keep your head high hun
I love this pic. I have it on the background of my phone.4 -
A healthy mind does not speak ill of others or bully them.
Bullies not only try to control you with name-calling, they always try to control how others see you. They are totally toxed.4 -
Haters gonna hate. Ignore them. Obviously idiots0
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Diatonic12 wrote: ». They are totally toxed.
Maybe we should give them some of that other chick’s detoxing tea.
Maybe it’s a marketing opportunity. Next time some *kitten* calls a woman a fat prozzy (what an utter douche, and I never use that word but it fits), anyway maybe next time some someone does that, we produce a teabag and tell him or her to put it where the sun don’t shine for some detoxing benefits.
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You're beautiful and that person is an idiot and I guarantee you he or she is miserable.0
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Thank you all; your comments are all wonderful 🤗5
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Words are going to hurt regardless, but still think of where they come from.
Who is that person? Someone you don’t know that thinks it’s okay to say shtt like that to a stranger. And what drove them to say it? Because they don’t have better ways to feel good about themselves or feel it’s how they can have a little power?
You know you and the journey you’re on. They don’t. You’re improving yourself and they’re shouting insults at strangers. Like wtf, lol. Hopefully that brain is still developing because who does that?
Keep that head high. Carry on and remember that something like that says far more about them than it ever will about you.1 -
Hugs to you, lady. That kind of situation would hurt just about anyone. I try to remind myself that people often hurt others because they're hurting.1
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Don’t give their words power over your life. You determine your value not someone else. Know you’re beautiful and they are deflecting for their own insecurities. Hugs3
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What's wrong with being a fat a ho? 🤔
Jk, but seriously f them. The fact that ppl even resort to physical stuff as an insult is a huge weakness. Easy cheap shots. 16lb is awesome! Just keep doing you.1 -
They’re ugly on the inside. Hard to cure that.2
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I lost it when after I told a coworker I've lost 35 lbs in 6 weeks by dieting. She said your not working out thats being lazy. You need to ride a bike. It was hard for me to do much other than walking since I was morbidly obese at 350 lbs and only 5'10. That was 6 weeks ago and I have been doing long walks and body weight exercises along with not cheating on my diet and have lost another 33 lbs. People don't realize that when your morbidly obese you can get winded by walking to the end of the driveway. Im 317 lbs now and don't feel like I'm that heavy anymore even though the mirror says otherwise. Im trying to pull off the impossible and lose 157 lbs in a year to my goal weight of 225 lbs. I only have 92lbs now and 9 months to do it.13
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@brendog79 I know what I would say to her. You want me to come over there.
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Aw, I’m sure your kitten looks great. Kidding! But also seriously, you weren’t wrong when you thought you were looking good, nothing changed when that guy said a mean thing except some sound waves in the air. You looked great before and you still look great. Congrats on the 16 lbs!0
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I lost two more lbs today and my roommate said im going to the bathroom a lot and it must be a side effect of the bupropion im taking for anxiety and mood disorder i have and thats why im losing so much weight. I had just started taking it when I started my weight loss. I had been off of it for three months. But I had been taking it for the last 6 years. SO WHERE WAS THE WEIGHT LOSS THEN ? He's jealous because I started off about 80 lbs heavier than him and im about to reach his weight. IM WORKING MY *kitten* OFF AND SHOWING A LOT OF DISCIPLINE NOT EATING PIZZA AND A Lot of things I love.8
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@brendog79 I have an idea. Don't tell any of these people what you're doing. No one has to live in our body and not everyone has our best interests at heart. Want to stick to your program? Don't tell your cronies and coworkers. Those without our best interests at heart can actually undermine our hard work and efforts.
It's complicated but unbeknownst to some and secretly known to others they have all kinds of reasons for trying to throw you off your game. In the beginning, ain't nobody got time for all of that.
Don't start none. Won't be none.
Keep tooling along by keeping it to yourself but sharing on MFP and let the chips fall where they may. You need support right now.3 -
Thats a good idea. Im not going to bring it up to anyone. If they ask I might tell them that I'm still sticking to it. Im not going to tell anyone anymore my weight or how much I had lost this week or in total. Im just gonna keep grinding.8
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@brendog79 Good decision. Share your success and goals here. We're birds of the same feather flying together.3
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