Be nice when you comment

Motivation is definitely key here, however, I have read posts actually stating the opposite of yours. Many people do not believe in sugarcoating things. While they should say so nicely, sometimes it is necessary to be blunt and honest. If you ask for advice then you have to accept that something you are doing may need improvement. Again, I do believe it should be done in a nonaggressive manner.

This is just my two cents...but aren't we suppose to be motivating each other on here and not beating each other up about what someone is eating and how much they are working out. A little kindness goes a long ways. Sorry I just got tired of seeing people rag on others for what they are eating..at least they are here..at least they are trying....

Enough said.

Yes, at least they're here & trying.. But at the same time, some people don't do well when always "sugar coated" - there should be no reason to sugar coat things. Everyone doesn't need to be babied throughout their life. Everyone is so worried about hurting other people's feelings.. sometimes you can't worry about that and that said person has to learn to either have thick skin, or take constructive criticism - or eventually they'll be able to justify "oh one more double whopper combo today" because everyone says something like "oh it's ok, don't worry about today, you'll do better tomorrow..."

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My $.02 on the subject.

♥ Agree with the OP.

This is just my two cents...but aren't we suppose to be motivating each other on here and not beating each other up about what someone is eating and how much they are working out. A little kindness goes a long ways. Sorry I just got tired of seeing people rag on others for what they are eating..at least they are here..at least they are trying....

Enough said.

Thank you for posting this. .. Much agreed. . We all are in this together and should be supporting each other in kind and constructive ways. . :flowerforyou:

Frankly, I am tired of people posting posts about other people needing to be nice to people, if you notice the people that get the not nice comments are those that fail to use a search feature or fail to have common sense.

If someone wants to start a post and say they only eat 800 calories a day and they are exercising, and gained a pound and that they don't care that it's muscle or not and that they are going to quit exercising and just eat less....I will want to smack them upside the head with a rolling pin. I will not be nice and tell them that that is a good idea. I will call people for their bull crap and I don't have to me nice when I say it. I won't come right out and call them an idiot....ok, maybe I will but only if they are one...The end.

Frankly, I am tired of people posting posts about other people needing to be nice to people, if you notice the people that get the not nice comments are those that fail to use a search feature or fail to have common sense.

If someone wants to start a post and say they only eat 800 calories a day and they are exercising, and gained a pound and that they don't care that it's muscle or not and that they are going to quit exercising and just eat less....I will want to smack them upside the head with a rolling pin. I will not be nice and tell them that that is a good idea. I will call people for their bull crap...The end.

I agree with this as well. Some one eats under 1200 Cals a day will not help you lose weight it will actually help you gain weight. But apparently say it a nice way of saying that they need to eat more!! I will not say good job on some one who eats under 1200 cals.

you motivate your way, let others motivate their way. i dish out tough love.

It's a public social networking site. While I agree, people are complete idiots on here, it is your choice to venture out into this world, to participate, to read the forums, and whether or not to respond. It is your choice whether or not to not have any MFP friends and just use the caloire counter or to join the community. And the MFP community exactly mirrors real life, nice people, idiots, trolls, educated, uneducated, ect. You can't escape the bad without the good.

I think the terms "sugar coating" and "be nice" are relative.

I always try to assume people are acting with my best interests in mind, and if it comes off mean or negative, then I ask them about it. That's how friends work... you be yourself, and you say what you mean and what you think. If someone gets their feelings hurt, that's not my fault or problem. Unless I'm really being an *kitten*, and then I would expect my friends to tell me to stop being an *kitten*.

stop being an *kitten*. ahahahaha - I KID! But, in all seriousness, if I ask for someone's opinion and they give it to me straight, I can't say I didn't ask for it. I often give fair warning when I know I am going to have a bad day or if I am not going to hit my macros. On those days, I probably don't want to hear anything, but wouldn't bite someone's head off if they mentioned that they saw a Frito Pie in my diary. Meh, its there. Comment if you feel you must. I'm ok with it.

Why did you have to bring up Frito Pie?!

because I really really really want one. maybe that would do the trick for me to finish some food today... *sigh*

And if someone wants to post something that is just down right ridiculous, they can just as easily post it to their wall and ask their "friends". Normally birds of a feather flock together....so then that way they will get the responses that they want. Not the responses that they get from strangers.....

While in general it's good to be nice, I also believe honesty is just as important. Speak your mind whether someone likes it or not. Everyone should realize that we are adults (most of us) and this is part of life.

Also, the more people complain about this crap, the more the mods are going to edit and remove things. I like my freedom so please don't make them take it away!

Also, the more people complain about this crap, the more the mods are going to edit and remove things. I like my freedom so please don't make them take it away!

Exactly. Is there really a need to school a group of adults (mostly) about being "nice on the internet"?

Also I'd like to add that I noticed people will ask for opinions but get upset if the opinions they get don't fit with what they *want* to hear....and then say "you're mean". Well...no...I'm not...I stated my opinion.. You can take it or leave it. Most people I've seen this happen to (being accused of being mean) did not state their opinion in a condescending or rude way. The fact that they didn't kiss the OP's behind is what gave them the "Rude" award...and that is ridiculous.

This is the internet. Get over it. Thanks! :drinker:

internets are serious business!!!

This is the internet. Get over it. Thanks! :drinker:

internets are serious business!!!

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