How to decide your fitness goals?

Pick one physical activity you would like to do or do better and allow that to be your primary focal point. Much of the core fundamentals you improve for the one activity should help with many others.

My primary focal point is multi-day hiking. While I am interested in building muscle and strength I am primarily interested in strength. Flexibility is important as is stamina so I am working on incorporating yoga. This allows me to have a training mindset instead of an exercising mindset. The things I do in my daily process are to allow me to do something I believe I will really love to do. I also want to do some epic bike rides and what I am doing will also help there but I am zeroed in on the hiking for the moment.

For a first goal I'd pick the one you want to do most. Why not start with something you've always wanted to do.

I'm guess if you did Jiu Jitsu it would help with flexibility, weight loss and general fitness

Good luck!

Sampling can also be a good thing, if there are multiple things that you want to try, and are about equally certain that you will find them achievable at your current fitness level at that point.

What I'd suggest, though, is that if you want to sample things, you commit to sticking with each long enough to get over the "newbie blues" phase. It's normal to feel that something is (near-)impossible right at first, to feel awkward or incompetent, etc. Give yourself patience, and the activity time (as long as it's not injuring you!) to get past that. It can start happening pretty fast, actually.

It varies by person, but for me, things that are easy from the beginning can get kind of boring vey soon. Things that are a little more of a challenge tend to hold my interest longer term. This next I'm sure is individual: The things that hold my interest long term are things that allow for technical and performance improvement over the long haul, and offer some mental/psychological challenge in addition to a bit of pure physical challenge. (These days, I row, boats when I can, machines when I must, as my core activity. I did Chinese martial arts for a long time, and found that satisfying in this way, too.)

One last thing. You wrote "So after getting rid of the extra pounds first off, what goal you recommend would go after." I'd say: Don't wait. Start now. Sure, if you want to priortize getting your eating in a good groove first, then add exercise, that's fine. But that won't take that long, probably. I'd encourage you to start adding some manageable exercise that you enjoy, as soon as you have the mindshare/time to start it. I say this from the perspective of having been very active (for a dozen years!) while still class 1 obese. Excess weight isn't necessarily compatible with every single exercise activity out there, but many things are much more achievable than many people imagine, and one's growing fitness has benefits in itself, and may contribute motivation to reaching a healthy body weight and getting good nutrition.

Just something to think about.

Best wishes!