Relationship help.
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Does she have a track meet this week? You could go to her meet (surprise her even?), cheer her on and then ask her out then?
She does have a track meet Saturday. I was going to go but I have to go to my cousin's birthday party which is an hour away..0 -
Although "face to face" is my preferred method, a "HAND WRITTEN letter in INK" also does the trick. It says that you put an honest effort to actually think about what you wanted to say, cause if you made a mistake there's no erasing pen. Plus, not to many people HAND WRITE a letter, so it makes you stand out as being unique.0
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Turn the computer off, go ask the girl out. What's the problem? If she says 'no', repeat the process with the next one that catches your eye. You can do this about 3.5 billion times before running out of possible dates...0
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OK, here is what you do. First girlfriend/you want to make this work. You know where her house is. Wrap yourself completely in Saran Wrap... Oops! Never mind, wrong advice.My schedule is clear it's her's that is conflicting. What would really be cool if I just went to her house pulled her outside and asked her out right then and there. But I'm too chicken for that lol.
Why don't you buy her flowers and either have them delivered with a note asking for a date, or ring the doorbell and be standing there with said flowers and note?
Is this her home? Would you be ringing the doorbell of her parent's house?
I had a similar situation many years ago at community college. I asked this girl to have lunch with me the following day at the school. It sounded casual - we would just eat at one of the tables in the large cafeteria area or one of the concrete tables outside. No big deal, right?
Well, I went home and cooked an entire meal, bought candles and candle holders and some kind of fancy water or something and a tablecloth. Brought all that crap up to school the next day - with plates, silverware, serving utensils and glasses - in a big cardboard box that I hid near the cafeteria.
At lunchtime, we met and I told her "I brought us lunch" - then took her to an outside table where I had just moved the box and proceeded to set the table, light the candles and serve her a home-cooked meal. I think the school paper ran a picture of it.
It was an awesome first date that I was proud of.
The relationship ended in gut-wrenching pain, but that's beside the point....
Take action. Do something. Leave a note with a single flower in her mailbox/locker/car windshield wiper.
If I were you, I'd go to her meet Saturday and sit in the stands with a giant cardboard sign that asks her out on a date. Just sit there holding it up until she says yes or security escorts you out, whichever comes first.
If you ask her out via text, every single person on MFP (even the ones that don't know anything about this thread) will be disappointed and sad and probably stuff those feelings by overeating. You don't want that, do you?0 -
Agreed!! If you can't do it in person shoot a text! Do not let to much time go by, trust me, I am a girl. She will start over analyzing about the fact that it has taken 3 days! A guy asked me out with a handwritten letter which was cool, if you know a way to get it to her it would be so cute!0
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OK, here is what you do. First girlfriend/you want to make this work. You know where her house is. Wrap yourself completely in Saran Wrap... Oops! Never mind, wrong advice.My schedule is clear it's her's that is conflicting. What would really be cool if I just went to her house pulled her outside and asked her out right then and there. But I'm too chicken for that lol.
Why don't you buy her flowers and either have them delivered with a note asking for a date, or ring the doorbell and be standing there with said flowers and note?
Is this her home? Would you be ringing the doorbell of her parent's house?
I had a similar situation many years ago at community college. I asked this girl to have lunch with me the following day at the school. It sounded casual - we would just eat at one of the tables in the large cafeteria area or one of the concrete tables outside. No big deal, right?
Well, I went home and cooked an entire meal, bought candles and candle holders and some kind of fancy water or something and a tablecloth. Brought all that crap up to school the next day - with plates, silverware, serving utensils and glasses - in a big cardboard box that I hid near the cafeteria.
At lunchtime, we met and I told her "I brought us lunch" - then took her to an outside table where I had just moved the box and proceeded to set the table, light the candles and serve her a home-cooked meal. I think the school paper ran a picture of it.
It was an awesome first date that I was proud of.
The relationship ended in gut-wrenching pain, but that's beside the point....
Take action. Do something. Leave a note with a single flower in her mailbox/locker/car windshield wiper.
If I were you, I'd go to her meet Saturday and sit in the stands with a giant cardboard sign that asks her out on a date. Just sit there holding it up until she says yes or security escorts you out, whichever comes first.
If you ask her out via text, every single person on MFP (even the ones that don't know anything about this thread) will be disappointed and sad and probably stuff those feelings by overeating. You don't want that, do you?
^^ this guy, second time today i've said it, I always agree with this guy^^0 -
Wow I absolutely love what you said! That's such beautiful story about what you did for that girl. I think holding up the sign at the track event would bring the humor to it lol and it'd be cute. I was also messages today saying that I should dress up like a giant present and attack a note asking her to go out with me lol. She is 16 I am 17 going on 18 in 23 days. So she lives with her parents yet. But the texting thing Is sounding worse as the night goes on loll0
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It doesn't have to be a huge ordeal, just a gesture
And I'm glad you're seeing that texting isn't the way to go! 0 -
It doesn't have to be a huge ordeal, just a gesture And I'm glad you're seeing that texting isn't the way to go!
Yeah I do see that. If I don't see her by a certain date, I may send her a hand written letter explaining "since we find trouble to meet up, this is how I'm asking you.". That sound ok? It's my first time ever doing this so cut me some slack lol.0 -
Oh no, I don't mean that you're making a huge ordeal out of it...I just meant you don't have to go all out and do something extravagant to ask her out. I think it's sweet, I think that if you don't see her by this weekend, send her the letter...or you could even ask her if you could swing by her house some night this week? Just say it's for a few minutes and then just ask her out then. But yeah, send the letter if you haven't seen her by the end of the weekend! Good luck!0
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Call her up and ask. Don't do via text.0
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Call her up and ask. Don't do via text.
I don't plan on text lol don't worry0 -
Oh no, I don't mean that you're making a huge ordeal out of it...I just meant you don't have to go all out and do something extravagant to ask her out. I think it's sweet, I think that if you don't see her by this weekend, send her the letter...or you could even ask her if you could swing by her house some night this week? Just say it's for a few minutes and then just ask her out then. But yeah, send the letter if you haven't seen her by the end of the weekend! Good luck!
That's exactly what I'll do.. I always second guess myself. What if she texts me or calls me saying " why didn't u wait to ask me in person?". But also if she says yes, do I kiss her idk what the heck to do! Lol if she says yes which I think she will, idk when I should kiss her, is it too early, or no? I feel like I need to ask her if it's ok to kiss her lol0 -
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Oh no, I don't mean that you're making a huge ordeal out of it...I just meant you don't have to go all out and do something extravagant to ask her out. I think it's sweet, I think that if you don't see her by this weekend, send her the letter...or you could even ask her if you could swing by her house some night this week? Just say it's for a few minutes and then just ask her out then. But yeah, send the letter if you haven't seen her by the end of the weekend! Good luck!
That's exactly what I'll do.. I always second guess myself. What if she texts me or calls me saying " why didn't u wait to ask me in person?". But also if she says yes, do I kiss her idk what the heck to do! Lol if she says yes which I think she will, idk when I should kiss her, is it too early, or no? I feel like I need to ask her if it's ok to kiss her lol
You are putting too much thought into it. Just ask her out. And no you don't kiss her right away. No really a rule to it.. You will just know when it's time.0 -
As a woman I say MAN UP! Call her or go see her. We like it when guys are decisive and take charge, none of this namsy-pamsy texting *kitten*. Which brings me to a general question: what is up with texting? Does no one use phones anymore?0
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As a woman I say MAN UP! Call her or go see her. We like it when guys are decisive and take charge, none of this namsy-pamsy texting *kitten*. Which brings me to a general question: what is up with texting? Does no one use phones anymore?
Ok listen up, my first time ever asking a girl out and I'm almost 18. I may be psyching myself out and I'm really nervous cut me some slack. I understand what you are saying I'm not texting her for the 3rd time. And no one uses opines anymore lol technology is too high tech. Only reason I don't ask tell her I'm coming over for a few minutes is because I feel like I've bothered her enough the past few days with her being busy and I think she will think im getting annoying if I now call and ask again if we could meet up or if i can see her0 -
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As a woman I say MAN UP! Call her or go see her. We like it when guys are decisive and take charge, none of this namsy-pamsy texting *kitten*. Which brings me to a general question: what is up with texting? Does no one use phones anymore?
Ok listen up, my first time ever asking a girl out and I'm almost 18. I may be psyching myself out and I'm really nervous cut me some slack. I understand what you are saying I'm not texting her for the 3rd time. And no one uses opines anymore lol technology is too high tech. Only reason I don't ask tell her I'm coming over for a few minutes is because I feel like I've bothered her enough the past few days with her being busy and I think she will think im getting annoying if I now call and ask again if we could meet up or if i can see her
Oh, I was totally just teasing you. It was more of a general comment about finding confidence to assert yourself. It's to be expected that you're nervous. You seem like a really good guy so just be yourself and you'll be fine 0 -
As a woman I say MAN UP! Call her or go see her. We like it when guys are decisive and take charge, none of this namsy-pamsy texting *kitten*. Which brings me to a general question: what is up with texting? Does no one use phones anymore?
Ok listen up, my first time ever asking a girl out and I'm almost 18. I may be psyching myself out and I'm really nervous cut me some slack. I understand what you are saying I'm not texting her for the 3rd time. And no one uses opines anymore lol technology is too high tech. Only reason I don't ask tell her I'm coming over for a few minutes is because I feel like I've bothered her enough the past few days with her being busy and I think she will think im getting annoying if I now call and ask again if we could meet up or if i can see her
Oh, I was totally just teasing you. It was more of a general comment about finding confidence to assert yourself. It's to be expected that you're nervous. You seem like a really good guy so just be yourself and you'll be fine
Thanks it's just I usually have no confidence In myself and I never have. So having confidence in a girl saying yes to me is beyond hard lol. I already got her to say that if I were to ask her shed say yes, but i still wonder.. Lol0 -
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So... what's happened?0
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Text her:) 0 -
I like Redfie1d's advice, if it's a last resort. What about sending her a text along the lines of...
"Hey I haven't seen you in a few days There's something I'd like to ask you in person. can we meet sometime tomorrow?"
So you aren't really asking her out over text but you are setting up the meeting to ask her out.
This idea gets my vote0 -
I see you're 19. From what I've seen in your generation, asking via texting is not wrong. However, if I did it to my wife, I'd be sleeping on the couch for a couple of weeks.
In general, she is going to want to know you care. So my vote is *not* to text her, but instead, go out of your way to find her and ask her out!
If nothing else, how would it make you feel if she text'd you an invite, or went the extra mile to see you in person?
Leave the text'ing for later.
--PixarDad0
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