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charityateet
charityateet Posts: 574 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
Does anyone not really like the attention they have gotten from the opposite sex since losing weight or getting in shape?

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  • martinh78
    martinh78 Posts: 601
    I wish...
  • TDGee
    TDGee Posts: 2,209 Member
    Your restraining order to me was enough attention, thank you.
  • NewVonnie
    NewVonnie Posts: 683 Member
    Wouldnt know..yet anyway...someday would be good..:ohwell:
  • Black_Swan
    Black_Swan Posts: 770 Member
    I actually like the attention, but only from cute guys (haha).

    But I know that some people really do not like it - I can imagine someone can feel really uncomfortable and shy!
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    While I've only lost 2lbs, and no one has noticed in "real life' yet, I'm pretty flattered by the attention my profile pics get here! It's nice to hear compliments from time to time, even if it is from a stranger who doesn't know you!
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    I'd be lying if I said I didn't like some positive attention from the guys. But, in all honesty, hearing praises about my updates from another gal (my husband and trainer, too) makes me feel that much better than some random guy who would probably just say anything for the sake of saying something in hopes of getting some....
  • MsRobin_TheSequel
    MsRobin_TheSequel Posts: 127 Member
    Wouldn't say I don't like it but it makes me uncomfortable. I just don't see what they seem to be seeing and I can't help but wonder if they're just trying to be nice.
  • Amysgetnfit
    Amysgetnfit Posts: 231
    you mean people are supposed to notice??
    damn!
  • jamiesgotagun
    jamiesgotagun Posts: 670 Member
    Love it, seriously who wouldn't love a little extra attention!!!
  • 1FineFaye84
    1FineFaye84 Posts: 46 Member
    I haven't lost the weight yet so I cannot really comment on any changes in that way. HOWEVER, I can tell you that when I GAINED the weight I definitely noticed a big change in how people reacted to me. It really hurt! :(
  • JulieBoBoo
    JulieBoBoo Posts: 642
    I find it confusing honestly. It hasn't happened often. I'm still well over 200lbs and am old enough that I won't turn most heads so men who do flirt with me are more subtle about it so sometimes it's not until I've walked away that I realize I was being flirted with (or my friend tells me "Dude, that guys was totally flirting with you!").

    What freaks me out more is the fact that I'm noticing the opposite sex more. That's very strange and a more than a little offputting. The good news is that it also translates to noticing my husband more too and finding him hotter than ever.
  • frugalmomsrock
    frugalmomsrock Posts: 1,123
    What I like is my husband telling me all the time how great I look. It was also flattering to hear that the deacons (my husband and father being two of them) were all talking about me while doing the treasury after the offering last week. lol One of the older deacons said, "who's that pretty lady you're sitting with? I've seen your wife, and that sure doesn't look like her." :)

    I haven't really gained any other attention from men. I'd be pleased to leave it that way...
  • LaDiablesse
    LaDiablesse Posts: 862 Member
    It's a bit uncomfortable for me. I always question in my mind why they are saying whatever it is they are saying. I don't know how I'm supposed to react or respond to it...so I just say Thank You when it's appropriate. When I received the nickname "Sugar Britches"...I responded with..Thank you? :smile:
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    Nope, doesn't/hasn't/won't bother me. I'm kind of an attention *kitten*.
  • RocketsGirl75
    RocketsGirl75 Posts: 648
    I am gonna go with nope....all good here.
  • ajk828
    ajk828 Posts: 335
    sometimes all of the drool really starts to gross me out, but overall....who doesn't like to have their ego inflated?
  • charityateet
    charityateet Posts: 574 Member
    Just asking because....well, I don't think I'm wearing more revealing clothes or anything - more than not I'm covering up my tatas because they aren't so big anymore......but, maybe my jeans look better? I don't know.
    I have always gotten flirted with before, I think I had a "pretty face" lol - but now, it's more of the staring at my hiney......and I can just feel it when I walk away.......

    I don't know if it bothers me or not - it's just wierd.....someone liking me for my body instead of my mind lol!
  • LeeKetty1176
    LeeKetty1176 Posts: 881 Member
    yep
  • baisleac
    baisleac Posts: 2,019 Member
    Haven't noticed.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    I truly believe that in a lot of cases, it's not necessarily that you are better looking that is getting the attention. Lots and lots of people get fit and gain confidence, and anyone will tell you that confidence is sexy and people are drawn to it. Maybe if you think about it that way it won't feel so uncomfortable - they're not oogling your body, they're oogling your confidence. *some times. Other times, people are just into checking you out.
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    Depends, who is hitting on me? When I lost weight, and moved home guys from my HS class were giving me attention I never got. I wanted to kick them in the balls, but then again I didn't ever want their attention. Now. .. . if some creepy guys in like staring me down I get umcomfortable. But I had a pretty darn good looking guy stop me and tell me I was stunning one day and asked if he could by me lunch. I can imagine I blushed a little, I told him I appreciated the offer but I was taken and held up my hand. He said "lucky man" and that was that. If something like happens. . . HELL YES I like the attention.
  • IamRoJ
    IamRoJ Posts: 530 Member
    Still trying to get used to not being invisible, but I LOVE IT!!!! So, yeah...I still am surprised by it, but it sure as hell is a great motivation to keep going!
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    To an extent. During adolescence and childhood just before adolescence, I had a few really negative incidents with inappropriate attention from grown men, and it has affected the way I receive attention now. Like I still feel it's often inappropriate, even when other people might consider it to be fun or harmless. I don't say anything about it 'cause I know there's a chance they're just being friendly, I just usually won't respond to it. Then I get the ol' "You ain't all that anyway!" afterward. *shrug*
  • kdouglas11
    kdouglas11 Posts: 185 Member
    I like it... especially when my husband notices the other man's looks and attentions... it makes me laugh... and then we laugh together and have great sex... it's the best, LOL..
  • KayakAngel
    KayakAngel Posts: 397 Member
    Love attention from men, but did not enjoy having a man in a Jeep follow me from the gas station to the lake (about 15 miles) and start talking to me. I'm really glad my paddle buddies were already there, and the guy drove off when the others came over to talk to me. So I'm gonna say I love attention from men that I already know. Strangers are often creepy.
  • AngelsKisses75
    AngelsKisses75 Posts: 595 Member
    I think there is unwelcome attention and welcomed attention in any given situation.

    Sometimes it seems like maybe they wouldn't have noticed me a few months a go, but I kinda get that is my issue not so much theirs. So either way I try to look at it as a compliment.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I've been liking it for the most part. I finally got to dance with several guys at the bar the other day...when I've gone out before, nobody's ever flirted with me or tried to dance with me. So now I feel more girly I guess :) But then there's the creepers...
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    it is weird going from invisible to noticed. Not gonna lie.... I love it. I dont always know what to do with it. But Im gonna figure it out. :laugh:
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