Is it weird...
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as the 30 year old, i would say no0
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but if my daughter was the 20 year old trying to date a 30 year old i would say yes0
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Nah, I don't think so. Unless it was my daughter.0
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Or what Bigbear said.0
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Its better if it's 21/30 but no
As an OLD MAN, I've dated as young as 25 but I tend to stay 15 years or less lately
Age ain't nothing ut a number, and a way to make great cheese and wine0 -
not really, if you both have alot in common0
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depends on the maturity level of the people you're talking about...
i've dated guys my own age, 10'ish years younger, and 10'ish years older....in the end they were all a bunch of *kitten*
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I agree with the posters above. lol
I'm guessing you met someone? Go for it. You're a smart girl. Age is just a number. If you're happy don't worry what anyone else says or what it might "look" like.
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I don't think so. I think even if they're 10 years older, if you feel like you want to be with them and they make you happy, then do it.0
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Well, as the mother of a 21 year old daughter (yes, I had her when I was 8) I would say it's a case by case thing. She dated one 28 yo who was an *kitten*. But then she dated another guy who was 29 and was a fantastic person, but they just didn't "hit it off". Nothing to do with their ages, just didn't have that spark. So it all depends on the maturity of the 20 yo girl and the 30 year old guy.0
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Nope! age isnt nothing but a #! I dated a 42 year old at the age of 22...we were mentally the same age....lol0
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depends on the maturity level of the people you're talking about...
i've dated guys my own age, 10'ish years younger, and 10'ish years older....in the end they were all a bunch of *kitten*
age is just a number
lmbo u go girl.0 -
I agree that it depends on maturity and where you are in your lives.0
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I think it depends on the people.
I've dated guys who were younger than me (was 33, he was 23) and guys who were older (33 to 40). Obviously neither one worked out - but, it wasn't their AGE that was a problem... it was just them.
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Depends, are you the 20 yo or is he? I'd say yes if it's you, no if it's him. This is based upon the GENERAL maturity level of women vs men at 20. That said, if you and he are OK with it and you have no issues GO FOR IT.0
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There is a VAST difference in maturity level between a 20yo and a 30yo.0
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nope! Im 36 and my husband is 49. There is something to say about being with someone older. My husband has way more life experiences and he is not only my husband but a great source of wisdom. Plus, the maturity thing. It was an issue when i was in my 20s but now not so much. He obviously loves me the way I am cause he's still married to me and vice versa.
P.S. i love this topic. i could go on and on about it.0 -
I met my ex when she was 18 (she told me she was 21...big clue here). I was 30. She was beautiful, intelligent, mature, reserved...and for the most part acted like she was in her late 20's. We were a perfect match immediately. 4mos later she moved in, shortly after that she told me she was pregnant...and 18.
Uhh...what?!
The best I can figure, she was terrified I was going to leave her when I found out her age...and knowing my beliefs on family, locked me in the best way she knew how. It worked...I loved her after all...and we spent the next two years pretty freakin happy. We had another son...and all was good.
Then, like a light switch...it ALL changed...and I've spent the last four years being cheated on, left, lied to, used, and all in all...wishing I were in hell instead.
The moral of the story? Don't make promises to the guy if you do date him. It's very easy to change your mind in your early 20's...and you'll both end up very, very hurt if you're not careful.
Anyhow, other than that, have fun! You're young, and its a time to make mistakes, and learn from them.
Just don't make them too big lol
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depends on the maturity level of the people you're talking about...
i've dated guys my own age, 10'ish years younger, and 10'ish years older....in the end they were all a bunch of *kitten*
age is just a number
Age is just a number. You will find some guys that are older than us do not act differently than guys our own age. However, some are really mature and you feel content. BUT if this guy is one of your profs, DO NOT date him. It makes for a bad academic break-up!0 -
I am 22 and my husband of 5 years is 35, we have a relationship that is better than most couples I know, we honestly don't even remember the age difference until rude people point it out, lol.
To me, as long as we agree on religion, how to raise our kids, ethis, morals, values, can support eachothers dreams, and for us personally politics, lol, it will be fine. Keep in mind, men are more than 10 years behind women, joking...kinda0 -
I met my ex when she was 18 (she told me she was 21...big clue here). I was 30. She was beautiful, intelligent, mature, reserved...and for the most part acted like she was in her late 20's. We were a perfect match immediately. 4mos later she moved in, shortly after that she told me she was pregnant...and 18.
Uhh...what?!
The best I can figure, she was terrified I was going to leave her when I found out her age...and knowing my beliefs on family, locked me in the best way she knew how. It worked...I loved her after all...and we spent the next two years pretty freakin happy. We had another son...and all was good.
Then, like a light switch...it ALL changed...and I've spent the last four years being cheated on, left, lied to, used, and all in all...wishing I were in hell instead.
The moral of the story? Don't make promises to the guy if you do date him. It's very easy to change your mind in your early 20's...and you'll both end up very, very hurt if you're not careful.
Anyhow, other than that, have fun! You're young, and its a time to make mistakes, and learn from them.
Just don't make them too big lol.
Now that I'm home and can type on a PC...I'd like to clarify and say...I do believe it can work, even with larger age gaps...but it takes two exceptional people (particularly the younger of the couple), and you've got a lot going against you from the start. It's always something of a teacher/student relationship...as one young lady above said, he will have far more life experience than you do. Use it to your advantage, and not as a source of resentment (my ex HATED...and LOVED that I was almost always right...'sigh!)...and you'll do wonderfully.
Either way hun...good luck if you go through with it.0 -
Um.............. yes. My neighbor is in her 40's and her (newly married) husband is in his 20's. She signs all her text messages "Eric's Cougar" and it totally creeps my the *F* out!0
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Um.............. yes. My neighbor is in her 40's and her (newly married) husband is in his 20's. She signs all her text messages "Eric's Cougar" and it totally creeps my the *F* out!
Oh man...that's just wrong on soooo many levels lol!0 -
Since 20 year old can't drink legally, it'd be weird. But I met my husband when he was 29 and I was 21 (at a bar)...0
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you can if your not from the USA. Most other countrys are 18Since 20 year old can't drink legally, it'd be weird. But I met my husband when he was 29 and I was 21 (at a bar)...0 -
My sister in-law's 20 and her husband is 29. They make a GREAT couple. He treats her like a queen. I also dated a guy when I was 17 he was 26. He called me jail bait. Luckily I was a good girl. So I did nothing he'd get put in jail for. Or at least that I'd admit to. Lol.0
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In the right context it can go both ways of weird and not depending on the people and the level of maturity and level of overly making a deal about it themselvs, my mom is 45 and just married a 25 year old 2 months ago.0
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I don't think it is weird. My husband is 9.5 years older than me. We started dating when I was 18 and he was 27. Now I am 31 and he is 40 and we are still super happy. Everyone is different. Do what feels right for you.0
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depends on the maturity level of the people you're talking about...
i've dated guys my own age, 10'ish years younger, and 10'ish years older....in the end they were all a bunch of *kitten*
age is just a number
can i take you on a date!? =D0 -
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!depends on the maturity level of the people you're talking about...
i've dated guys my own age, 10'ish years younger, and 10'ish years older....in the end they were all a bunch of *kitten*
age is just a number
can i take you on a date!? =D0
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