Women 200lb+, Let's Be Diligent This December!!!
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Thank you all for the wonderful posts. I love scrolling through the wall to see how everyone is doing and handling different situations in life. Everyone is so inspiring. It is so good to see how people adjust their focuses on different aspects of healthy living in order to reach their weight loss goals.
Recently I have been thinking a lot about my body image. Sometimes I can look in the mirror and think "Wow, I can really tell I have lost weight", other times (usually pictures) I think "Man, do I have a long way to go". It is so strange how your mind can go both ways so easily. Also, I find it challenging when I do start to see changes in my body that I think I have come so much farther than I have and want to "stop dieting" which isn't what I am doing to start with. I think it is because I have been heavy my whole life that I don't know what being "skinny" or smaller actually feels like in my body. That without the belly and the jiggle in the legs what my body will look and feel like. So it is a matter of just being diligent and knowing that no matter how small I may feel, this is a lifelong way of life and not just a temporary diet. That my body is going to change and adjust and that is GOOD. To get the excess weight off and see what my body should actually look like in a healthy state. This is NOT a diet, it is about always being healthy and the weight is just the excess baggage the unhealthy life has made me carry.
Wishing everyone a wonderful week. I will do my check in tomorrow.7 -
I realized that I had gotten really sloppy on logging, and asked why and realized that it had to do with some food-related trauma, and so I've set my calories to maintenance, am eating what I want within reason, and am just making it a point to log. I don't have to lose pounds this month. I can lose later when this panic subsides. All I need to do is not gain, and I won't if I log and stay under the number. (Given I was pretty comfortable at 1000 calories less, that's going to be easy.)3
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I think it is because I have been heavy my whole life that I don't know what being "skinny" or smaller actually feels like in my body. That without the belly and the jiggle in the legs what my body will look and feel like.
I feel this SO hard. I have no idea what my body looks like at 160 lb (my first GW), because I've never been that size as an adult. I'm 5'2", so all the BMI charts and calculators and everything out there suggest I should weigh anywhere from 110 to 135 lbs - literally unimaginable. I think the last time I weighed that much I was an actual (obese) child. (I also don't think I'm ultimately going to aim that low, though - I want to build muscle, so I might as well lean into my stocky frame and become the dwarven shieldmaiden I was always meant to be.)9 -
Happy Tuesday folks...this is weigh in day for me, on this dreary, wet Tuesday!
I'm 45 and 5' 4"
Highest Weight 250 lbs
Starting Weight June 1, 2020: 242 lbs
Starting Weight December 1, 2020: 186 lbs (down 56)
Current Weight: December 8, 2020: 185 lbs (down 57). I should not be disappointed. But I am lol. I did everything but tap dance naked on the scale this morning!! I have been at 185 since late last week so I thought for sure I would be at 184 today!! Nope. 185.0. Soooo, in my defense, I could have been at 185.9 last week. I never pay attention to the points. So it is probable that I will be 184 by the weekend. We shall see.
Goal weight: 145 lbs
Goal for December: I'm working with an accountability buddy and we are checking in the week before Christmas. I was hoping to be at 180 by then but it is looking like that is a pipe dream at this point! Then I changed it up and decided to hope for 182 by then, which is 60 pounds, even, lost...but even that seems not likely, alas. So I shall take whatever comes.
I hit a major wall yesterday with life in general. I do a LOT for Christmas. We take care of my Mom who has dementia and this is the first Christmas where she is really unable to grasp the holiday; so that's tough. But I put this crazy pressure on myself to make it perfect; to make fudge the way she used to make it; to make gum drop cakes the way my grandmother did, etc etc. Keeping two households going at the best of times is tough...keeping the two of them going plus Christmas led to my hitting the wall. I was like a Tasmanian devil all weekend from early in the morning to late at night. Got up for work yesterday and felt like I'd been run over by a truck. I barely made it through the day...crawled onto the couch and was in bed by 8pm. THIS morning I woke up without an alarm clock (as I'd been to sleep so early!) and got up to run. Then decided my anxiety would be much less if I just had 2 extra hours at home. So I took them. I got my own household pulled together; got some groceries and even made some cookie dough to bake later. And came to work at noon. I feel so well rested and so stress-free. Listen to your bodies, ladies! When it says rest, do it! Or you'll hit the wall like me and have no choice!
And that's my update and rant for the day! hah Much love to you all on your own journeys!7 -
Recently I have been thinking a lot about my body image. Sometimes I can look in the mirror and think "Wow, I can really tell I have lost weight", other times (usually pictures) I think "Man, do I have a long way to go". It is so strange how your mind can go both ways so easily. Also, I find it challenging when I do start to see changes in my body that I think I have come so much farther than I have and want to "stop dieting" which isn't what I am doing to start with. I think it is because I have been heavy my whole life that I don't know what being "skinny" or smaller actually feels like in my body. That without the belly and the jiggle in the legs what my body will look and feel like. So it is a matter of just being diligent and knowing that no matter how small I may feel, this is a lifelong way of life and not just a temporary diet. That my body is going to change and adjust and that is GOOD. To get the excess weight off and see what my body should actually look like in a healthy state. This is NOT a diet, it is about always being healthy and the weight is just the excess baggage the unhealthy life has made me carry.
Oh lord do I feel this right down to my toes! In the past when I have lost weight, I let the flattery get to me...as soon as people noticed, I started rewarding myself with food and I was soon bigger and better than ever. THIS time, I have really tried to shut out the outside voices and do this all for me. And the whole lifestyle change thing...not diet. But, like you, I don't know what my body looks like smaller. I'm already smaller than I was in high school (still a little heavier but smaller). Some days I see myself as smaller and other days I see myself as 242 pounds all over again. I wasn't prepared for this to be an emotional journey as much as a physical one. But I am learning to work through and let go of things that I've been stuffing inside for decades. So on days I feel light? I feel REALLY light, both physically and emotionally. And I'm amazed that I had no idea what a toll this extra baggage was taking on my emotional self. Here's to myfitnesspal friends who help us through the ups and downs of this roller coaster we are lucky to be on...hang tight, my friend...we're in for one helluva ride!7 -
Hi all! I'm new here, but not new to MFP. I started October 19 at my heaviest of 246.2.
10/19: 246.2
11/01: 242.9
12/01: 239.9
My goal for the month is to hit 10lbs lost and mostly maintain for the month with the holiday treats. My Long-term goal weight is 180 (I don't know the last time I saw this number, honestly like 10+ years). I'm being mindful of my calories and my carbs, I'm hovering around 1500-1600 calories and 150g carbs per day.
I get frustrated sometimes that I haven't lost more, but I remind myself that I'm also so close to 10lbs lost, and that's a huge thing in 2 months. I'm heading in the right direction and my clothes are looking better on me!
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Age: 61
Height: 5'2"
Highest: 350 (approx. 2013)
SW: 274 (Sept. 30/20)
GW: 180 (Mar. 31/22)
This month:
Nov. 26: 256.1, DAC 1761
Dec 1: 254.8, DAC: 1720
Dec 8: 254.8, DAC: 1757
Dec 15:
Dec22:
Dec 29:
December goals:
Weight: 250
Daily Average Calories: <1750
Other: saying No, thank you! And getting A1C down to 6 by February (next time I am tested)
Holding steady, so that's good! I am struggling with wanting to have more than I need to eat. Like, I had supper, and was full, really, but still wanted to have something else. Mostly carbs, like chips, which I don't have in the house, or a sandwich and things like that. I am type 2 diabetic, so those are things I need to cut down on, but the other things that I would have instead have too much sodium, and too much fruit puts my sugar too high...sigh... I am trying to plan my meals and it helps, but still there are days!
So it was kind of disheartening to see that I stayed the same, but I worked it out and on average since the end of September (10 weeks), I have lost 2.2 lbs/week, which is better than I thought. That cheered me a little!
And I sure do empathize with those of you that have said they haven't seen themselves at a "normal" weight for their height since they were young. I kind of remember being in jr. high, and at about 130 lbs being thought overweight!3 -
Hello December (and the last month of a bad year - 2021 may not be a switch to flip but a girl can dream)
December 1st Check In
Age: 39 Height: 5'6"
Highest: 272.2 (August 2019)
10/1: 239.4
11/1: 238.0
12/1: 236.7
12/2: 234.1(+1.8lbs from last week / -38.1lbs total loss)
12/09: 232.3 (-1.8lbs / -40.8lbs total)
December Goal: 230lbs
Goals / Plans:
- Log all weekend food
- Keep workouts as a routine
I need to do better with the weekend meals and ensuring that even if it is not a completely healthy meal, that I track the calories and make the best choices possible. That is where I struggle with tracking and watching calories. If I have something that is difficult to track or has WAY too many calories for my day I just don't bother tracking and eating what I want (more mindfully than in the past but still too much). I need to be more diligent to track everything and be completely honest 7 days a week. If I want a "treat" or a meal that is not completely healthy, that is fine, just track it and remember to do a weekly average instead of a day to day struggle.
I am keeping last week's paragraph because it still resonates so well. I need to just keep doing what I am doing and stay diligent on a daily basis to be mindful of my food choices and listen to my body to eat when I am hungry and not when I'm not.4 -
Hi all! Weigh-in Wednesday for me.
Age: 31 (32 on December 28) Height: 5'5"
Highest weight: 320 lbs (end of pregnancy weight, June 2020)
CW: 292 lbs.
12/2: 289.4
1st GW: 220 lbs, so I can change blood thinning meds (had deep vein thrombosis in October).
2nd GW: 180 lbs (weight I was at in high school).
3rd GW: 160 lbs.
Small weight gain this week. I'm not beating myself up about it. I haven't been able to get out much since we're renovating our dining room and I can't leave my very anxious puppy alone with building materials lying around. I will be able to get out of the house next week though (renos should be done). Found a sweet little trail to walk with my daughter. Just hoping it won't be too cold for her.2 -
body image is huge. the self talk can be so defining. I have to be very careful to be as kind to myself as I would to my best friend, so I am monitoring my self talk and not spending a lot of time in front of the mirror until I get my head straight. Kudos to those improving their relationship with their body image, it's something I dream about one day.5
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Weigh-in Wednesday!
Age: 35 Height: 5'6"
Highest weight: 250 lbs (beginning of 2020)
Starting weight: 247 lbs.
10/09: 247
11/01: 235.8
12/01: 232
12/02: 230.8
12/09: 229.2
It's nice seeing that I've lost 20 lbs. this year, so at least SOMETHING good has come of this year. I haven't been walking too much anymore except on the weekend. Last week was a killer for me, I just got in a horrible funk and took a day and a half off of work and still didn't bother to go out walking, even though the weather was beautiful. I'm doing better this week, though I had a terrible anxiety attack last night. When my mental health is in bad shape, it makes being diligent about my eating/physical health way harder. I haven't given in to any urges to binge, but the food I have been eating lately has maybe not been as nutrient-rich as it could be. Fortunately, I have a phone session with my psych today so I'm sure we will address all of this then.
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Hello, I am Sandy Age: 61
Height: 5'3"
Highest: 330 (January 2019)
SW: 292.9 (today 12/9/2020)
GW: 180
I was 214 in January of 2020, then starting in March when I lost my business, I stress ate my way back to 292. I was a child care provider, now I guess I am retired. I get up every day and tell myself, food is NOT fixing this and I need to be on program. I know I can do it, I did it. Now enough kicking myself and time to get back down, so when the world opens up I can enjoy it again. I need people by my side... right now I am lost and alone.
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Hello, I'm new here. My Dec. plan is to log in everyday ,start drinking water and exercise 1 or 2 times a week. I'm 74yrs.young and need to lose weight. today's weight -250. Height-5'3.5
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Hi ladies, just read yr posts, sending out hugs to all of you dealing with the grind of life and coping with trying to exercise and lose weight plus this frenzy of Dec.. Plus it's been 2020!!! I've had a horrible week, a friend died of covid related complications she was only 48,and her youngest child is 5. I've been taking parcels to the hospital and phoning daily, it was a shock as I thought she would be fine. The nurse said they suspect hypertension. I have 7 friends battling at home in quarantine, I'm stressed and absolutely depressed. Today I felt drained, I was supposed to run but honestly I didn't have any energy so I went for a long walk. Normally I would be self medicating with food, I'm trying very hard not to!! Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day!12
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Oh my goodness @changeforeverlj, I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. Good on you for getting that walk in - the best you can do is the best you can do. Fingers crossed for your quarantined friends, and I hope you stay healthy too.2
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so sorry to hear about your friend @changeforeverlj you must be heartbroken. We are just now starting to get covid cases in my local area (i live in rural Maine) and it is so frightening. Kudos to you to walk off some of that stress. Be kind to yourself, it's been a terrible year. hugs.2
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So sorry to hear that @changeforeverlj , such a tough time, sending you hugs xxx1
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sandy_in_sandy_land wrote: »Hello, I am Sandy Age: 61
Height: 5'3"
Highest: 330 (January 2019)
SW: 292.9 (today 12/9/2020)
GW: 180
I was 214 in January of 2020, then starting in March when I lost my business, I stress ate my way back to 292. I was a child care provider, now I guess I am retired. I get up every day and tell myself, food is NOT fixing this and I need to be on program. I know I can do it, I did it. Now enough kicking myself and time to get back down, so when the world opens up I can enjoy it again. I need people by my side... right now I am lost and alone.
You are not alone anymore dear. This group is a wonderful community to lean on. When I start struggling or the voices get too loud I vent random some on here and realize everyone else has the same problems and it helps so much. Hang in there.3 -
@changeforeverlj Hugs and love. You are right food will not fix this, self love and care will. If you need extra rest, then rest. As with all things, this too shall pass.2
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Weigh in Wednesday
Highest weight: 435 (11/1/18)--lost 50 lbs. by the end of 2018 but got off track and gained back almost 31 lbs.
SW: 415.8 (4/17/19)
11/30: 184.4
12/2: 183.4
12/9: 180.8
12/16:
12/23:
12/30:
12/31:
Dec. GW: anywhere under 185 would be a win
GW: 160 (then reevaluate)
Weekly exercise goals (better than last week but still not totally back to normal):
- exercise bike 5 times per week - 5/5 (but only 30 minutes each time instead of 60)
- strength training 2 times per week - 2/2 (increased reps or weight on several exercises)
- chair yoga 4 times per week - 4/4
- steps onto aerobic step platform twice a day at least 3 times per week - 3/3
As I mentioned last week, my dad tested positive for Covid-19. He started feeling bad just over 2 weeks ago. According to my mom, he finally has started to slowly show a bit of improvement. It sounds like it will be a very long, slow recovery. My mom hasn't been tested but she doesn't sound too good when I talk to her on the phone. She sounds exhausted all the time. It's been hard not being able to go help them but they don't want me there right now. According to the nurse calling each day to check on my dad, unless my mom gets a "negative" test, she needs to quarantine until 12/18. That's still a long time, especially considering how she sounds on the phone. I was tested Sunday and got a "negative" result today so I guess that's something.
@changeforeverlj So sorry to hear about your friend. Hugs to you and her family.
Hope you all are well.4 -
Hi Ladies, thank you so much for your kind words and support, they boost me xoxo.
@MuttiNM Your poor family are dealing with so much x I hope your dad continues to improve, keep reminding your mom to rest, she is obviously soldiering on and forgetting to look after herself! From what I see with some of my friend's the quarantine can also have a mental affect on their health and well being. That's good news about your negative test, keep safe x
I survived my low point without reaching out to food. This morning I was feeling good enough to run and ran for an hour (with a ten minute walk after 40 min) I feel better mentally and physically. Today is my first day of my 10th month of intermittent fasting, calorie counting and exercise. Shedding the weight has done alot for me physically and mentally. I suffered with bad heel pain, thats gone completely! I cope better with stress, sleep better, make better choices. I still have a way to go, the last bit is very, very slow, but I'm ok with that. I'm already researching maintenance. To date I've lost 35.1kgs/77.22 lbs, I seem to be going up and down at the moment daily because I have recorded a bigger loss, but today it was up but still I'm so happy!
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Almost the end of my second week and am seeing seeing the results. My jeans are fitting a bit better and also going down on the scale. I have found logging the food helpful.
Slow and steady wins the race but find myself working hard on realistic expectations. I am harder on myself then anyone could be. I want to try an normalize food, move away form the emotional eating and embrace food as it is not that is is somehow alive and has control over me. I am 60 in May and have dieted for 50 years. I have lost then gained then lost and have had my weight be a part of my own dialogue for far too long as a measurement of my own value.
Can any one else relate?
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@VickyEltonGreen
You are SOOOO not alone. I am 39 and have dieted for 29 years. My weight has been up and down, but until now (which is still a continuing battle) I haven't really focused on real lifestyle changes in my head. The food is such a small part of all of this, it is the brain that needs to change. I have had such arguments with myself mentally there are times that I feel like I should have been committed (lol). The voices of "Eat this, all of it" and "You aren't allowed to eat anything" have been so loud and all consuming at times it is hard to think of anything else. I really am trying to teach myself to move the emotions off of food and onto exercise. And I don't mean body building, etc, but going to a walk, lifting my small 2lb weights to get my arms strong, just stretching even helps. I have my good days and my bad but it does seem to help quiet all the voices in my head.
The biggest thing this community has helped me realize is I AM NOT ALONE, and either are you. I use it to vent my frustrations, let out some of the random thoughts rolling in my head about whatever. You can do this, one minute, one hour, one day, one week at a time.5 -
Oh I am right there with you! I was "good" yesterday I should be 10 pounds down this morning... what did I do wrong? or the days I slip and beat my self up calling myself names for sometimes days for my weakness. I am working hard on those two things, they have got me no where.6
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@ness8484 Welcome aboard! I hope you find this group and wonderful as I have!!
@MaxCat1000 2.2 pounds a week for months? That is amazing!! That whole idea of boring old consistency was one that took a while to click in my brain...but it is what makes the scale go down!!
@KMC55 Weekends are my downfall too! We got this...I have vacation coming up at the end of next week. So hoping I can plan to be MORE on point with this journey and not less so! It's a little scary but...we got this, right?!
@archiv88 We all get little upticks in weight. You have the right mindset and your scale will be going down in no time!
@azalea4175 I could have written your words about self talk. Right there with ya, working on that. My best friend reminds me that I wouldn't say that stuff to her. It's a battle.
@JAC581 Look at you into the 220s!! You are finishing 2020 strong, girlfriend!!
@sandy_in_sandy_land I am sorry about your business. 2020 has been such a difficult one for so many. Welcome to this group. I have found such a warm and supportive community here and I truly hope you feel the same. And I gotta tell you, I laughed out loud at the "I was good yesterday, I should be 10 lbs down this morning"...because I can SO relate!!
@changeforeverlj I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your friend. Watching the numbers pour in, it is easy to forget that these are real lives; real families; real losses. It is tragic hearing of a young mother losing this battle and I am so sorry you are grieving. And 7 more friends in quarantine? My goodness that is a difficult thing to navigate. I'm so happy you fell in love with running...it is such a stress reliever and I hope it is helping you cope in this very difficult time (by the way, wahooo for an hour's run!! You DID it!!!)
@MuttiNM 180!!! That is wonderful!! I'm glad your Dad is feeling a bit better and I hope your Mom gets to rest as well. So hard to be apart from them, I can only imagine. You are tough as nails to be sticking to your journey through this stress. That is an incredible accomplishment in and of itself.
@VickyEltonGreen I can relate!!! Emotional eating queen right here!! Just ask my stash of ginger cookies from yesterday...oh wait, they're all gone, so we can't. Welcome to the group!5 -
Hello newbie here. The comradery is enlightening and everyone is very helpful to one another.
Here are my stats:
68 years old - 5' 2" (so the Dr. says, I swear I was 5' 4")
CW: 260.8
SW: 320
GW: 145 (I can't wait to get to ONEDERLAND)
On 7/16/20 I made an appointment with an Orthopedic Surgeon for possible knee replacements. After the examination and x-rays, he told me that he would not do the surgeries until I lost 100 lbs. That knocked the wind out of my sails. Of course, I was determined to call his bluff. I told him I'd see him back in the spring. 5 months later I am proud to say I have lost 60 lbs., and made my 2nd appointment to see him on 4/14/21. Hopefully he will tell me that with the weight loss I don't need the surgery, but we'll see. So glad to be here.
Goals for the rest of December 2020 are:
1. Learn to be more kinder and forgiving of myself.
2. Continue tracking and journaling on MFP and my daily journal.
3. Move more (I have begun using the recumbent bike at the local YMCA for 20 minutes 5 days a week). I have arthritis in my knees and ankles, so hardcore aerobic exercises are out of the picture.
4. Get more water into my system.
5. Continue on following the MFP nutritional goals and Intermittent fasting 16:8. It is working for me!7 -
My weight was not an issue before I was 35 (for almost 15 years). Then it was because of me not paying attention during life changes, marriage changes, stress, commuting longer, grad school, injuries...before I knew it, I was 80 lbs above my normal weight. I'm about 45 lbs above my normal weight now.
Scale has been OK this week, going the right direction. The thanksgiving plus up is now back down to where I was the week before Thanksgiving. Need to continue to stay focused. Been stressful at work, I'm a manager and this week was delivering performance reviews....nuff said.5 -
Weigh-in day!
Weigh Ins (lbs):
11/13 (Initial): 252.8
11/20: 250.4
11/27: 250.6
12/4: 250.6
12/11: 248.0! YAS BIH!
12/18:
12/25:
I don't think that's actually 4.8 lbs of fat lost - maybe half of that, at best (I have my goals set to 1/2 lb loss per week). The rest is probably water. But hey! I'll ride this high as long as I can! The next two weeks are going to be tough, because Christmas, although working from home two days a week gives me 40% fewer opportunities to be tempted by doughnuts or whatever treat someone brought in (and turning down treats has gotten easier every time I do it). The downside of that is that I have 40% more opportunities to raid my own fridge throughout the day, but I also have been consistently forgetting to buy snacks at the grocery for the last few weeks, so there's no spoils to be had, LOL.
@IsETHome oof, performance reviews right before the holidays? That's rough. My workplace does them in January and July. (it's based on hire date, we don't have reviews every six months, that would be wild - hires between 1/1 and 6/30 get reviewed in July, hires between 7/1 and 12/31 get reviewed in January)2 -
Weigh-in Time!
Progress (lbs)
12/4: 278 (Starting)
12/11: 276.4
Notes:
I've been transitioning over to a vegan diet for the past few days, which has been interesting. Right now, I'm still working on getting all of the non-vegan food eaten and replaced with the goal of having everything in place to go full vegan in January. I've also started on finals (my first two are today!) and I'm hoping that I do okay on them, because my will to study has been a bit lacking.
Good luck, everyone!5 -
Age 49, Height 5'11"
Highest weight: 225.6lbs (8/28/19)
Lowest weight: 165lbs
CW: 221.4
12/1: 221.4
12/8: 223.0
12/15 (halfway mark assessment):
12/22:
12/29:
Scale is going up but I'm not surprised and I feel okay about it because life is returning to normal after the last two months, which have been bonkers. Normally I make about 2/3 of my total revenue for the year in the last three months of the year, which is crazy enough (I'm an illustrator and I sell gift-y merch with my designs on them). This year I happened to draw something in November that went viral and was shared 100,000+ times on Twitter. In that one month I had 4x more sales than I had in all of the last two YEARS combined. And I couldn't hire anyone to help because my studio is so small that it wasn't possible to get anyone in there and maintain Covid protocols. Between the two of us, my sister and I made and shipped over 5,000 mugs!
I close my shop on Monday and will be taking off at least a month to recharge. I can't wait.
My goal is still to get back into the habit of logging my food. And I'm so excited to be home and not living in the Airstream! I'm going to make so many fresh salads and delicious soups that simmer all day!!
💜 Message to myself: discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most 💜4
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