In need of friends who understand!!!

Hi and welcome to a great support system. Mfp has helped me so much I am constantly learning about my journey since I started in June. I have found many friends here that are my motivation when needed and even a Woohoo when needed. I too have a husband who is clueless since he is thin he just doesnt understand i cant eat the way we used to.....so feel free to add me and we can support each other

Welcome to MFP. This is a great place for support.

I have some of the same issues. A hubby in better shape, doing well for a while and then back to being bad. It's tough - but this site can help. Realize that one bad meal doesn't have to mean the rest of the day is bad. And then - if it is - the next day can be back to healthy choices.

The counting is the most important part. If you have to - leave your diary private - and track every single thing that goes in your mouth. Once you see how all the little things add up - it makes it easier to make smarter choices. At least that's how it has worked for me. I had a rotten day yesterday for sure. But today - I am back to smarter choices.

Just don't give up. YOU have control!

Totally understand where your coming from and am with you all the way, been fighting this battle since my late teens. HAving a husband, children and friends that are all slender or what I would call ok, they just dont get it! Feel free to add me as a friend and deffo track everyday, MFP & community is just fab. Best of luck x

I was where you were in January and the support on this site made all the difference.

Feel free to friend me and we'll support one another through this!

Welcome!

Hi and Welcome! You will love MFP and the support here...it's wonderful! I am the same way, as I have had weight issues all my life... Lost, gained, lost, gained, etc...blah! My husband can eat whatever he wants and not gain any weight!

Just remember to take things one day at time.. If you fall off the wagon, get up and get back on!... That's what I'm doing and I know I will one day get to my goal because I've been there before and I am determined to be there again!... Don't get me wrong some days are really hard, but I don't give up!...It's not an option!

Good luck and feel free to add me, if you like!

Hi amber and welcome,

You are at the right place we have all faced some or most of the issues you described. I do understand when on my side of the fence others don't know where I am coming fromm in 2006 I had a gastric bypass lost 185#'s never got to goal weight but am happy to have lost what I did. Now back to the drawing board, I want to get to my goal weight and now I gotta do it just like everyone else, I call it being Fit and Free. When I have questions I bring it to the team here, I get real answers and suggestions from genuine folks here that are doing or have done what I am trying to do. This site opens your eyes for a lot of things we learn a lot and when applied the results are fantastic....
I did send you a friend request...Melva

Amber I am in your shoes. My boyfriend is in shape and has never been overweight. Although he is supportive of me losing weight, he doesn't fully understand why. He is not the one who turns heads and gets laughs because of his size. He doesn't have to worry if he can fit in a plastic lawn chair and if it will hold him. and other things like those ect....I know we can both reach our goals! I am sending you a friends request

Welcome! MFP is such an amazing support. I too have struggled with weight for some time and have had my trails and tribulations with the scale. My husband is also super fit. He has never struggled with his weight and eats whatever he wants. It's so annoying LOL. Feel free to add me. We can do it. Just understand that weight loss and maintenance is just like anything else, you will hit rocky moments.

Amber, I was the same way 8 years ago when I hit my rock bottom with my weight and compulsive overeating. I could not stick to a diet for more than 2 days in a row because I wanted to eat and period. Even if I lost weight, I gained it right away. The longest I could be on a diet was 2 months of time. At that point I realized I needed help with my emotional issues and sought counselor for help and enrolled in a group therapy later on. Once you realize you have deeper issues to resolve (in my case food addiction to junk food and sugar and family and social life problems), your urge to eat will disappear. You need to stop thinking of going on a diet and need to adopt living a healthy lifestyle by being moderately physically active every day, eating enough (I used to starve myself!) foods that will fill you up. All in all, it's just finding a way of eating that is balanced and most importantly works for you. The first step would be learning as much as you can about nutrition and exercise and then applying it to your life gradually.

I understand as well, I have sent you a friend request so we can support each other with our journeys. Im loving some of the posts you have had back, sounds like a great bunch of people may send some more friend requests out

I understand completely how you feel, joining MFP is the best thing you could have done. The message boards are so supportive, that if you feel like giving up or eating junk, make a post and watch the replies roll in. Everyone here is going through, or has been through, the same thing and we are all here for each other, whether it's to talk you out of giving up or congratulating you when you are doing well. Good luck on your journey xx :flowerforyou:

I know exactly what you mean when it comes to dieting, for a few days then quitting. It is really hard. Im really busy, and quick food is usually fatty non healthy food. also, healthy food is way more expensive than junk food. I know what you mean. Like you said, If you can't do it for yourself, then think of you daughter, she needs her mother to see her grow up, and teach her everything she needs to know about this big beautiful world. You are going to stumble, maybe even fall, but get back up and try harder! Dont let anything, or anyone get you down, you just keep pushing and think of your baby the whole time. I wish you the best of luck on this long, hard, yet exciting journey!

Hi,
I have always been slim (well according to the BMI underweight but that is not the most reliable method!)
But I understand what it feels like to feel fat. I put on 3 kg and suddenly the body that I thought was gorgeous is now ugly to me. The little roll of fat when I turn to the side makes me angry at myself. That my tummy is no longer flat annoys me.
Yet I realise I still need to love my body as its doing everything it needs to-keeping me alive, staying active (I work out 7 days a week) and makes my fiancee very happy.
So embrace your body, even if you don't like it right now, enjoy it for what it can do for you.
But change it. I don't accept that the 3kg I put on will stay on-I will lose it, as I have done before, get back to my usual weight-but not hate myself til I get to that 52/53kg!