I can't keep my mouth shut!
brittany33107
Posts: 38
So I have been just having a really hard time with telling EVERYONE that I'm losing weight! As soon as it comes out of my mouth, I tell my self "why did you say that?!" EVERYDAY I text my husband and tell him how much weight i've lost from the day before even when it's only "0.1 lbs". I was even posting on facebook every week for a while about how much I'd lost that week. I have been trying to cut it back to only posting with each 10lb loss. I tell my mother-in-law, everytime I see her, how how much I've lost and I know she must be getting a little bitter cause she is struggling with her own weight. Everyday I tell my husband while looking in the mirror "wow.. I don't know what you think but I'm looking really good!" hahaha... I just get so excited when I see the numbers fall on the scale, I can't help myself but tell everyone! Does anyone else have this problem?
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Uh, no. I am the complete opposite!0
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I only tell my husband. I don't tell anyone else. I don't even like it when people notice.0
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I do tell my husband every day too. I get really excited. I also tell a few friends or coworkers but not the actual number just how much is gone.0
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I don't broadcast it. If someone asks, then I will boast about my success, otherwise I keep quiet.0
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Would it be more gratifying if you got the compliments without telling them? I know it's hard not to get excited about your progress but in my opinion someone out of the blue telling me they've noticed the changes is more rewarding. But that's just me, if it makes you happy to announce your progress by all means tell the world, key is to do what makes you happy and continue your great progress...0
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I don't say anything, but I do like it when people notice.0
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I get excited too, but I just AW it all over MFP, because at least everyone here 'gets' it.0
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Well...I didn't tell EVERYONE but like you, I had a really hard time keeping my mouth shut, especially at first. I sort of felt like if I told people I would feel more accountable. But like you, I think people, while happy for you, really don't want to hear it. Even if it is something SO positive, it may make them feel badly about their own weight or ability to set and reach goals. Or they might just think you/we are self-centered. So anyway....I pretty much stopped. There are a few people that are really close to me that I tell now, and only when I hit a miles stone (like 5 pounds). Still, I totally understand how you feel....and CONGRATS on the great job so far!! Keep it up whether you decide to keep sharing or not!!0
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when I lose weight, its not really something for me to get excited about and/or share with everyone else as they usually just want to bash my head in or forcefeed me a sammich.0
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I struggle with that too. I'll tell my husband if I have a great loss or when I have a good workout, but usually he doesn't notice. I get up at 5am and workout and he doesn't notice me gone. He may see my water bottle in the sink and ask if I worked out, then he looks surprised that I did. I am trying to not need others' approval anymore. I am doing this for me and it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. He is the only person I told I was trying to run a marathon next year besides my mom and sister.0
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Nope. Don't feel the need to boost my own ego. I know my accomplishments and that's good enough for me.0
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I do this as well. Having the positive encouragement helps me stay on track. I even gain new work out buddies. I feel like if people can boast about how perfect their life is, how awesome their children are and how wonderful their marriage is, I am entitled to some boasting! Mwah hahaha!0
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I'm totally the opposite. People ask me how much I've lost and I say I don't like to say. I'm a very private person. I think eventually, when I get to goal I might say, but it's very uncomfortable to me when people ask.0
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I don't broadcast it. If someone asks, then I will boast about my success, otherwise I keep quiet.
Same here. Remember that many people struggle with their weight and they may take your daily 0.1 pound loss update the wrong way and in turn start to resent you. I have to be honest, even if I NEVER had weight issues, I would find it annoying if a Facebook friend of mine posted loads of weight updates ALL.THE.TIME. That's kind of obnoxious. A girl I went to high school with updates Facebook every day with crap about her kid's baseball league and their games. It is pretty annoying and I have now blocked her updates from my news feed. Don't be *that* person!
I was the opposite way and told no one. It felt really good when people started noticing on their own.0 -
Nope, I don't have that problem, my parents taught me to be humble and not to be a braggart unless someone calls me out or ask about my accomplishments.0
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I haven't actually said to anyone not on MFP. I think when I get closer to my goal I may, but just now I find it hard to say how much I have lost, and how much I have still to go, cos that would mean me admitting how out of control my life got to people that know me.
I am the same with everything though, no-one knew I was on anti depressants, no-one knew when my marriage was in trouble and so on, I keep a lot of 'stuff' inside and prefer it that way.0 -
I don't broadcast it. People are noticing but unless someone comments I don't say anything about it. Well, except for my husband. I share with him all the time and our kids obviously hear all of it. My 17 year old is my P90X buddy too so we keep each other motivated.0
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I don't broadcast it. If someone asks, then I will boast about my success, otherwise I keep quiet.
Same here. Remember that many people struggle with their weight and they may take your daily 0.1 pound loss update the wrong way and in turn start to resent you. I have to be honest, even if I NEVER had weight issues, I would find it annoying if a Facebook friend of mine posted loads of weight updates ALL.THE.TIME. That's kind of obnoxious. A girl I went to high school with updates Facebook every day with crap about her kid's baseball league and their games. It is pretty annoying and I have now blocked her updates from my news feed. Don't be *that* person!
I was the opposite way and told no one. It felt really good when people started noticing on their own.
I agree. I like when people notice themselves but I can still get shy when they ask me how much weight I've lost or how I've done it. I don't even think I realized how much weight I had lost until everybody else started noticing.0 -
I don't broadcast it. If someone asks, then I will boast about my success, otherwise I keep quiet.0
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I don't say anything unless people ask, and I'd prefer it people didn't notice (at least not yet). I'm still not where I want to be, where I consider "healthy", but people around me see how I eat and how I exercise and tell me I'm too think, or that I'm whithering away.
STFU!!! I am not, you're just fat and stupid and lazy!!!! Don't complain about my habits because you can't keep your hands out of the refrigerator.
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I will tell my husband, but really trying not to talk about my weight. I have a great support system, but have yakked about my weight enough over the years it's become monotonous. If people start noticing that the lbs are coming off and ask, then I will tell them.0
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I think it's all in the way you say it. You should be proud and super excited but at the same time sensitive to the issues your friends/family are having too.
I'm with Kortney, MFP is a great place to toot your horn!
Your husband and mother-in-law are probably also happy for you just try not to rub it in. My husband and I have been working at this together and it is soooooo much better to be on the same team, however I have ben making more progress than him. I tend to anounce every SV and NSV to him as well but yesterday I asked him if it makes him feel bad and if I'm being insensitive. He said no, he's very proud of me and it makes him want to work harder.
Try and pay them a compliment about their work while celebrating your own victories.0 -
Some people may get encouraged and want to joing MFP. So maybe I would limit who I told. I would not of known about this site if it weren't for my cousin and a friend of mine posting on FB. So maybe not daily, but maybe twice a month or monthly. I get excited too and keeping my mouth shut is hard also, but I don't want people to say if I fail, I thought you were losing weight. I don't think its about bragging, I think its the excitement of losing weight. I tell my husband but we share everything together, I don't feel like its bragging at all. He encourages me and tells me how well Im doing.0
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Girl I was the same way!!! I used to talk about it all the time and now I just bring it up if someone asks lol I only posted on FB if it was a big milestone but I do still tell my husband almost every pound lmao! As you lose more you'll probably get more used to it and everyone will bring it up to you before you get the chance to say anything! :bigsmile:0
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I sort of talk about it alot. Usually some one asks first and then we talk about how I'm doing it. It's sort of hard not to talk about since it has become such a focal point of my existance. Especially since I have friends or family that were concerned with my weight, trying to lose weight, or are fit themselves. I try not to bore anyone with it, but it seems to be a good topic as any to talk about.0
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Pfft it's what hubbies are for! To admire us, grant our every wish and hang on our every word!
As for the MIL, you're probably HER motivation lol.
Why shouldn't you feel proud of yourself? :happy:0 -
i only tell my mom (and her friend, since she found out). ^^
i don't tell anyone else although i would like too. Unfortunately, i often get the opposite of support when i share that i am dieting.
Apparently, to a lot of people, since I look "fine" I shouldn't try and improve myself.0 -
Thanks for the input, guys! I loved reading everyone's comments!0
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I do this as well. Having the positive encouragement helps me stay on track. I even gain new work out buddies. I feel like if people can boast about how perfect their life is, how awesome their children are and how wonderful their marriage is, I am entitled to some boasting! Mwah hahaha!
LOVED this one!0 -
I don't broadcast it. If someone asks, then I will boast about my success, otherwise I keep quiet.
Same here. Remember that many people struggle with their weight and they may take your daily 0.1 pound loss update the wrong way and in turn start to resent you. I have to be honest, even if I NEVER had weight issues, I would find it annoying if a Facebook friend of mine posted loads of weight updates ALL.THE.TIME. That's kind of obnoxious. A girl I went to high school with updates Facebook every day with crap about her kid's baseball league and their games. It is pretty annoying and I have now blocked her updates from my news feed. Don't be *that* person!
I was the opposite way and told no one. It felt really good when people started noticing on their own.
Gotcha! However, I was only posting once a week. NOT daily!0
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