Very Frustrated 'Obese' Chick

Make mini goals for yourself, It helps to make you reach them quicker and you feel great when doing so!! I know ive been where you are too and I still have those days but im determined and focused and this site is awesome! Its nice knowing your not alone in doing this..

i have over a hundred pounds to lose and i make small goals. and it seems easier that way and not so overwhelming. and my hubby makes me feel sexy even if i think i am not. he is also supported me throught the years. keep ur head high girl dont give up. and stay positive. u can do this. dont fret. it is hard but u can do it.

Every day is a new day to get it right. Don't think about all the weight you have to lose, think more about one day at a time. Small steps. Keep moving forward....every day. Success breeds success

Don't do any of it due to how you look. Do it because of how you feel, or want to feel. For me it was more about health than anything else. I am a type 2 diabetic and basically it comes down to not wanting to lose a foot or a leg or my eyesight because I've let myself go. You have to find your own inner reasons for this to work. I wish you many successes.

Friend any of us, we are all here for support both giving and receiving.

You are in the right place! I am so glad that you have a loving and supportive husband, you are truly blessed. One of the best things I heard on MFP and I've heard alot of great motivating suff here! Don't have a goal weight, have a Goal Life - you want to be healthy, not just lose weight. You are not on a Diet, you are making a change to a healthier lifestyle.

Set a few small behavior goals, and stick to them.

Daily excercise
Tracking all food intake
Drinking water instead of cokes, juice, milk beer, etc....

You can do it - and I'll be happy to be your friend, send me a request.

Susan

Oh bless you. I feel exactly the same at the moment, and am frustrated because I can't seem to get to the bottom of the WHY - the real reason I eat too much, and I'm sure if I identified that and dealt with it I would be successful - I just need a hand to find that out.

I'm considering hypnotherapy - do you think that might work for you?

Add me! :flowerforyou:

Play with this until you find what works. Understand that you will have days where you will need a break from it all. Set small goals, and try to master 1 thing at a time. Many people can't cut calories, give up soda, hit the gym, and log each and every bite of food they eat all at once and stick to it all. So phase the bad stuff out slowly. It will make it easier to stick with your plan and make this a lifestyle.

Hang in there and lean on everyone here for support. We all go through it from time to time.

Hi sweet fatruthy,

What has helped me along on my journey is to be confident that my eating right and exercise will keep me healthy FIRST and the weight loss will be a byproduct of that. I focus on loving myself--not necessarily accepting my obese body and loving that--but accepting that I am where I am, it's not going to happen overnight, and one day, after day after day of making good decisions, I will be at a place where my outsides match my insides. It sounds like there is a lot of guilt coming from you, a lot of emotional baggage. If you have the money, may I suggest counselling? If you have the money, may I suggest a personal trainer? My personal trainer gets me to the gym once a week, every week, because I pay for it and eventually that once a week turned into twice, three times...now I work out 4-5 times a week (once with my trainer, 3-4 times on my own). I enjoy the classes at my (all female) gym. I enjoy getting the positive energy from my trainer, and beating the negativity out of myself. I'm a little competitive anyway, so that helps. If you can't afford those things, it may be a little more difficult to get motivated to do so, but grab hold of that drive and fly. There's a poster of Neil-Patrick Harris and it says,"When I'm sad, I stop being sad and be AWESOME instead. True Story." You must fight your negative self and conquer it with your positive self. Unfortunately, there is no magical *thing* that anyone can say or do for you; it must come from within. I know, I've been battling myself for over 10 years. There needs to be a switch that takes place, something you ignite within your strong self that says you're worth all the health you can give to yourself and your physical body will reward you. When you start to feel better emotionally and physically from eating better and exercising, your transformation takes over and it is more difficult to make poor decisions. When you do, your body pays attention--make your mind pay attention to what your body does! Yes you can. You can do it. You can, you can, you can. I don't know you but I know that you can. Keep coming on here, get out of your comfort zone, step into your fit zone. You can do it. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you don't want it badly enough. I know you do. Habits, lifestyle are difficult to change. Make that change every chance you get. Don't get mad at yourself for slipping up. Enjoy your breaks, but damn it, get back up the very next opportunity you have, each and every time. Fight for yourself. You can do it.

Pretty good advice here, from what I'm reading. And it's cool that you're open to it. I'll add my $.02; keep what you like and roll your eyes and mutter under your breath about everything else.

If you want to succeed, you pretty much HAVE to forgive yourself for past failures. You can't change anything anyway, right? I encourage you to stop wasting energy on that. Chances are, you're gonna blow it once in a while in the future, too. If that happens, getcherself up, dust yourself off, and get back at it.

I also suggest you work real hard to improve your self-image. I get it that you're pissed right now. OK. So use that as a motivator. In my experience, it's really hard to want to do good stuff for something or someone you don't like much. I suspect your self image will improve greatly as you lose pounds, but still. Learn to love yourself as you are now if you can ... it'll just get better as you go along. No, really. It will.

Did you *really* lose 17 lbs. in 3 weeks? If so, it's probably not too surprising those pounds didn't stay off. Consider changing your expectations to lose 1-2 pounds a week *max*. Slow but sure is healthy and sustainable but much more than that isn't, far as I'm concerned. Just my opinion.

I encourage you to get your head around the fact that we're not talking diet here. For long-term success, you probably need to make some long-term (as in lifelong) changes. Best part is, as you eat healthier and shop healthier and cook healthier and exercise, your entire family will benefit. That's a pretty powerful motivator.

Like others have said, small goals = lots of small successes. Focusing on the big number can be overwhelming, so I don't go there. But I'm doin' the happy dance every time I lose 5 lbs.

Finally, drink water. Lots of water. There are different schools of thought about how much is enough/too much. For me, right now, 15-20 8 oz. glasses a day works. Start with eight 8 oz. glasses a day like MFP suggests, if you can, then experiment a bit to see what works best for you.

Welcome to MFP. Let's go.

Edited to add this:
See that note from PixarDad about changing your username? I vote yes.

YES!!! Love it. Forward we go.

Ruth I just got teary reading this post and am delighted to see you have changed yr username!

Someone said something about 'loving yourself' and altho that may be hard, I really think it's a crucial element of moving forward. In addition to the basics (taking care of yr diet and exercising)....this might sound silly, but I want to encourage you to get yourself a good body moisteriser, and pamper yourself daily with a good slather after your shower (legs, arms etc!). I'm serious here! lol.... While you are doing this, try to think positive affirmations...things such as "I am grateful for my strong body....I am moving towards better health...I am improving my body with nourishing food...' etc etc. Whatever feels right for you. Take care of what you have now....By nurturing yourself, you will gradually discover that you are beautiful...and have a lot to be grateful for - just keep working at it! You have lots of support here.