ahhh!!! Im going insane..help!

HayleyDavison1
HayleyDavison1 Posts: 38 Member
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
A collegue of mine is a slim size 10, 9 stone 2 and roughly 5ft 7..Nice & healthy, right?!
Well she is claiming her doctor says she has to loose half a stone by her next oppointment - NEXT MONTH!
First of all, she doesnt need to loose half a stone .. second of all a doctor surely wouldnt tell someone with such a slim frame to loose so much weight in the first place, let alone in such a short time!

So I have tried being calm with her, showing her her BMI online etc, told her how she couldnt loose the weight in a healthy way in that time scale. Then she just gets me really stressed & I end up really angry and shouting!

I try & try to be nice and helpful, because I really dont want her to end up with an eating disorder - she barely eats anything anyway & tells me she does an hour of exercise everynight. I know its really not my business but with her sat just talking about every single calorie and how shes fat and the doctor will shout at her...I cant take it any longer!!

Someone try & calm me down please? :)

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  • Laftrb
    Laftrb Posts: 1
    :smile: Wow you sound like a great friend with alot of patience for your friend. Please be proud of yourself and the time you have put into your friend. Don't give up on your friend. Try another doctor also.:bigsmile:

    Keep you chin up and be strong for yourself and your friend.

    Laughter N Smiles:flowerforyou:
  • gel91
    gel91 Posts: 309
    Live and let live, some people are beyond help.


    She is probably looking for a reason to lose some weight but not feel bad if she fails (if it is made up) if her bmi is healthy unless she has any kind of up coming operation I can't see a doc telling her to lose weight.

    You tried, leave her too it and don't get stressed out!
  • HayleyDavison1
    HayleyDavison1 Posts: 38 Member
    Thank you guys :) I did say to swap doctors because something must be wrong with the one she currently see's! But yeah you are right, Iv done my bit by telling her the healthy options..if she doesnt listen its her own fault! I just cant stand any longer her yapping on when Im trying to loose weight in a healthy way, I dont feel like I can talk about my own weight loss with her & Im deffinatly not getting any support from her, which sucks because she's someone i have to spend 40 odd hours a week with! Least I have good old MFP to get me through each day :) Thank you all again :) xx
  • gel91
    gel91 Posts: 309
    Thank you guys :) I did say to swap doctors because something must be wrong with the one she currently see's! But yeah you are right, Iv done my bit by telling her the healthy options..if she doesnt listen its her own fault! I just cant stand any longer her yapping on when Im trying to loose weight in a healthy way, I dont feel like I can talk about my own weight loss with her & Im deffinatly not getting any support from her, which sucks because she's someone i have to spend 40 odd hours a week with! Least I have good old MFP to get me through each day :) Thank you all again :) xx

    It's a shame she can't return the suppot you give her! Some people ain't worth the time IMO and there are plenty of people like that, i'm sure alot of people are guilty of saying there going to diet and never doing it or doing it in the wrong ways, but the difference is most of those people don't drag others down with them.

    I think you've done and are doing the right thing leaving her to it! You've tried, she ignored - what more can you do?!

    Glad you worked it out! :)
  • rachel871
    rachel871 Posts: 113 Member
    Live and let live, some people are beyond help.

    This... You can offer advice, you can't make someone take it! Just carry on with your own weight loss and leave her to hers.. We all have different opinions on what is the right way to lose weight... She'll figure it out for herself in the end...!

    Deep breaths ;) xx
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