Irrational Thinking

Okay so I know this is so dumb but I’m more afraid of hurting myself during weightlifting than I am of doing daily things around the house/yard. I haven’t lifted in about 2 years and so obviously returning to weightlifting I’d start off super light, but even that freaks me out for some reason despite the fact that I have two kids that I’m constantly lifting.

How do I get over this thinking?? Because seriously if I don’t get back into it, I become such an all or nothing person and that applies to my diet too so then I eat super bad because I’m not exercising and I’m trying to lose weight not gain.

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  • 88olds
    88olds Posts: 4,534 Member
    When it comes to exercise something is better than nothing. Maybe what has you stuck has to do with all or nothing. I was in my forties when I started weight loss and eventually got to the gym. The first thing I noticed was a bunch of people younger than I was talking about their aches and pains like a pack of old people. Then I noticed the things they were doing in the gym and it all made sense. Lots of training plans are wrecked by injury by trying to do too much. Good form is more important than bumping up the weight or getting two more reps.

    Also rest days are for recovery. Doing a HIIT class isn’t resting. Your concerns don’t sound dumb to me. Seems like you have some self awareness. But just because you went at things all or nothing in the past doesn’t mean you have to do that now. The past doesn’t control the future.



  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,988 Member
    Okay so I know this is so dumb but I’m more afraid of hurting myself during weightlifting than I am of doing daily things around the house/yard. I haven’t lifted in about 2 years and so obviously returning to weightlifting I’d start off super light, but even that freaks me out for some reason despite the fact that I have two kids that I’m constantly lifting.

    How do I get over this thinking?? Because seriously if I don’t get back into it, I become such an all or nothing person and that applies to my diet too so then I eat super bad because I’m not exercising and I’m trying to lose weight not gain.
    Easy. Get a trainer to assess and help you.

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  • allnaturalmama
    allnaturalmama Posts: 12 Member
    88olds wrote: »
    When it comes to exercise something is better than nothing. Maybe what has you stuck has to do with all or nothing. I was in my forties when I started weight loss and eventually got to the gym. The first thing I noticed was a bunch of people younger than I was talking about their aches and pains like a pack of old people. Then I noticed the things they were doing in the gym and it all made sense. Lots of training plans are wrecked by injury by trying to do too much. Good form is more important than bumping up the weight or getting two more reps.

    Also rest days are for recovery. Doing a HIIT class isn’t resting. Your concerns don’t sound dumb to me. Seems like you have some self awareness. But just because you went at things all or nothing in the past doesn’t mean you have to do that now. The past doesn’t control the future.




    I just can’t believe that I feel that something that once made me strong and is supposed to help your body feel good is what is making me think I’ll get injured. It’s sudden intense impact is more likely to cause an injury, not slow and controlled weight lifting.

    I don’t even know where to begin with lifting anymore. In the past, I was focused on powerlifting but now that’s not really my training style so I don’t know how to program workouts.

  • Jthanmyfitnesspal
    Jthanmyfitnesspal Posts: 3,522 Member
    A rephrase of what you said is: You don't like lifting weights, but you do like doing things around the house and yard.

    That's fine. Just do lots of stuff around the yard. Take up some other activities you enjoy. The main thing is to stay active. You don't have to lift weights if you don't want to.

    Best of luck!
  • itsbritneybetch91
    itsbritneybetch91 Posts: 39 Member
    Perhaps start with the weight machines?
  • cmo5333
    cmo5333 Posts: 22 Member
    I am an all or nothing person as well. I also have anxiety and that sounds like you do too (at least when it comes to weights).

    It sounds like you are more afraid of Olympic lifting and/or crossfit as they are the ones more likely to have explosive movements. You do not under any circumstance need to do those kind of exercises in order to be gain muscle or be healthy.

    The best way to get over something that causes you anxiety is to do that thing. It sucks but I know from experience that it's the only way. I have never met anyone who overcame a fear by avoiding what they were afraid of. Do it in small steps if you have to. Just put on your gym clothes, go to the gym parking lot and sit in your car then go home if you need to. Go into the gym and just use a treadmill for 5 minutes and leave if you have to. Use one of the weight machines with very little weight on them and leave if you have to. Use 3 lbs dumbbells to do some bicep curls and leave if you have to. The important part is to do something no matter how small.

    Powerlifting is just a fancy way of saying that you want to lift the most weight possible. The core exercises of powerlifting are the some of the best free weight moves you can do (squat, bench press, and deadlift). The most important thing with any free weight movement is to get the form first. You can start with a Smith machine to get a idea of what each exercise feels like. After that move on to using a bar without any weight. Ideally you could have someone video you from the side so you can see how your form looks (i.e. rounding your back, knee placement in squats, bending your knees too much or not enough, etc.) and work from there. Only start putting on weight plates once your form is what it needs to be.

    I hope this helps. Feel free to add me as a friend if you would like to. Disclaimer though I'm sarcastic and I swear a lot!