Would you confront the person who told your secrets?

I don't really have any "secrets," but if I confided in someone and made it clear that I expected them to keep their mouth shut, yes, I would absolutely confront them if they told someone else. I would also never tell them anything important ever again.

As for why, I think it goes along with the "teach people how to treat you" theory. If you just let it go, that person will have even less respect for you than they did before they betrayed you.

I'm kind of an open book. I learned a long time ago that if you have a secret then its inevitable it will come out. So I don't bother with all of that. I keep a tight group of friends, and they know everything about me....from the worst to best of me. Everyone else, need only ask.

I would let them know they hurt me and I would never tell them something in confidence again.

^^^^^^^^^ This is my final answer.

Of course.

I tend to avoid confrontation about things like that, but I would probably just avoid talking to the person at all from there on out. My reason: Why would I want to be friends with someone I couldn't trust? Confrontation gets you nowhere.

Agreed. I would in a heart beat confront. I totally agree with you teach others how to treat you.

But I also would because I think that betrayal really is the most hurtful thing a person could do to another. There is aspects of lying involved. And really most of the time people only tell these kinds of things to people they care about and trust. I would confront because the whole relationship should probably be re-evaluated and also look as self to determine what you missed about the person that would have indicated the person is "that kind of person" Most often when we look back in hindsight we recognize all the "missed" signals that would indicate something like what you described could or would have occured. Sometimes all you can do is try to understand that and move on and learn to not be in that situation again.

I always try to ask myself, what is the lesson that I need to learn from the situation that allows me to move forward with love and peace in my heart.

I don't have what you would call secrets, well maybe I do. But on several occasions I have confided in someone about a certain situation and expressed my feelings. In a matter of a few hours it is all twisted from what I had said. Oh, and this is my loviing siblings that do this to me!

If someone tells me a secret or something in confidence. I don't speak, unless it is going to harm them in some way. If someone starts to tell me some gossip or something that could really hurt someone I care about. I tell them to stop I don't want to know any more. That way there I can't get caught up in any one elses drama.

Life is too short to let others bring me down!!

Hmm. Wondered why this didn't show up in my news feed. Looks like I was deleted as your friend.

Eh.


Back to the topic at hand. If you told someone "Do not tell ANYBODY this...." and then they did, then yes. I would confront. If you told someone in "confidence" in a large group of people.... then no. I might say I'm annoyed with that person, but I'd let it lie.

here's what you do -- you
grab her by her neck, throw her on the wall
Say, "B@TCH don't ever disrespect me, never not at all"

Yes, I would confront. I don't mind confrontation one bit.

depends on the situation.

if i was 15 and told my best friend i had a crush on a boy at school and she told him, i would just face up to the boy in question and wouldn't trust the friend again.

however - these days, if i told someone about marital issues or something i wouldn't share with just anyone, that could create a serious situation and yes i would confront them about it. no raised voices, no drama, no name-calling, just a very direct, blunt conversation about cause and effect. whether or not i would continue to trust this person, or even remain friends with them, would depend on the damage they caused.

My mother. And yes, repeatedly, until I learned NOT to tell her stuff.

Q, hahaha. Poor you.

I can't keep secrets so I just don't expect other people to keep them. I also give fair warning that I cannot keep a juicy secret, or couldn't I managed to not tell my best friend her boy was proposing! *Fist Pump* Anyway, as a non-secret keeper I'd totally understand if someone was like, "yo, you didn't keep my secret, UNCOOL"

I would definately confront them but the best motto is to never tell someone something you would be embarassed to have published on the front page of something. Once its " out there" you lose control of whatever it is you don't want others to know.