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I hope this isn't just another attempt.

RichardAllenWayne

First of all my name is Richard, I'm 34 years old and weigh in at about 440lbs at 6'3. I really need to succeed at losing weight this time around. I have recently been diagnosed with type II diabetes and a fatty liver to go along with my high blood pressure. I'm really kinda lost at this point in my life and need some help. I work in an office where I almost never have to get up out of my chair. I have a beautiful wife and daughter and I can only imagine how my weight is affecting them. I want to be healthy, I want to be able to take a shower without getting out of breath, hell I want to be able to talk without getting out of breath. This is day one, I am needing advice on what to do or what not to do. I am very bad at going in 100% and getting burned out in a couple of weeks. I feel like I have no energy to do much and was wondering if some sort of vitamins would help with that at all with of course some physical activity. One of the biggest problems with my eating is I don't like many vegetables and that hurts when trying to plan a meal. Any advice from you guys would be greatly appreciated. Someone just tell me there is a light at the end of this tunnel and I'll make it.

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ridiculous59

You haven't failed. You just haven't found a good enough reason to lose weight. Yet. Why do you want to lose weight? In your profile there are two girls in the background. Are they your daughter's? Nieces? If so, is that why you want to lose weight? So that you will have more healthy days to spend with them? You have a big smile on your face in the picture. Do you want to lose weight so that you'll have more fun days doing things and being active? Do you have knee or hip pain that might be relieved if you lost weight? Whatever it is, find your reason and make that your daily focus.

My husband has several health issues. He has one of those flippy pill cases with the days of the week for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. One day it just hit me.....that would be my future if I didn't buckle down and lose weight. And all of a sudden losing weight became quite simple. Not always easy, but definitely simple. I just needed to burn more calories than I ate. I wanted to be healthy. That was my goal. If, in 5 or 10 years, I find myself diagnosed with some type of ailment, I want to be able to say "I tried my best". I never want to say "I wonder if I could have prevented this if I'd eaten better and moved more."

It took me 3 years to lose 90 pounds. I lost the weight, but I also enjoyed life. I celebrated holidays. I took vacations. I had that piece of birthday cake and glass of wine. And then I'd get right back at it. Some people might need to be stricter with their food or they completely fall off the rails. That wasn't me though. But where I had to be disciplined was with my exercise. Yes, I started out slowly, but over time I saw improvement and that positive reinforcement kept me going.

People have given you lots of good, practical advice, and here's mine: Figure out why it is you want to lose weight and make that your daily mantra. "It's for my health". Or "I want to go horseback riding." Whatever it is, just find your reason. And then take it 10 pounds at a time.

We're all cheering for you.

CastleOfIce

RichardAllenWayne wrote: »

Guess what.... I failed. Well I'm back at it lol. Didn't want to start a new post so figured I'd just reply to this one. Need some accountability buddies.

Your situation sounds a lot like mine, and I too have failed more times than I can count. But guess what, we're still here, trying again, and we just gotta keep trying until it sticks.

PAV8888

Yo, Call-ziez, have you ever dropped by the larger losers sub group?

Not a bad place to hang out in... the OP too might find it interesting and some of the very thoughtful posts by Novus there which largely parallel your thought process; and mine while we're at it, or the other way around... who knows!

@callsitlikeiseeit

callsitlikeiseeit

PAV8888 wrote: »

Yo, Call-ziez, have you ever dropped by the larger losers sub group?

Not a bad place to hang out in... the OP too might find it interesting and some of the very thoughtful posts by Novus there which largely parallel your thought process; and mine while we're at it, or the other way around... who knows!

@callsitlikeiseeit

i have not i dont think.

sometimes i have the patience to be in the forums and sometimes i dont. when i dont, im usually absent for long stretches of time LOL

suzleigh1

I’m really new at all of this but wanted to throw out since I didn’t see anyone else discussing… my insurance paid for a nutritionist. The work has been all on me, but it was nice getting a shove in the right direction.

mjglantz

RichardAllenWayne wrote: »

Guess what.... I failed. Well I'm back at it lol. Didn't want to start a new post so figured I'd just reply to this one. Need some accountability buddies.

As others have said the key is you came back. When I started in 2011 I didn't have as much to lose but realized that I had to start. I finally accepted that I had to make changes that would stick for life so I started small. Made only one or two small changes each week and as those became a habit I added more. It took over two years to lose 85 lbs and I've never looked back.

MrsG1994

There is a light at the end of this tunnel and you will make it! Have you thought about addressing your issues behind gaining weight/overeating? I think you can change your diet forever once you fall in love with taking care of yourself. I would start with learning meditation and possibly talk therapy. You know what to do. You just have to figure out how to get yourself to do it. To do that, it would be helpful to find out why you are treating yourself so badly. It really is an inside job. You can do it!!! ♥️