Family

Oh boy... I have a saying, "If it's not one thing...it's my Mother". Enough said.

~Hugs~

I would say look i am trying and thats the best i can do!

Yes - my mother in law. She seems to do it unconsciously - and it always sounds as though it wasn't meant to hurt, but it kind of does. She comments on the weight of others constantly too and this drives me crazy. She always notices first if someone has lost or gained weight. With her I find that a very frank, honest reply helps. Just because something is the truth, it doesn't mean that it needs to be stated - so I try to remind her of this by calmly letting her know that I do not appreciate those remarks. For example, if she were to have made the same comment that your aunt made, I would look her straight in the eyes and say "ouch - that hurt." For her, this would let her know that she has tainted something that I am proud of. I know that this approach is not appropriate for everyone, but for me and her it works.

My mother is always on my case about my weight but if she calls and I am exercising she tells me I am waisting my time.

and she's wasting her breath hang up on her.

My mother is always on my case about my weight but if she calls and I am exercising she tells me I am waisting my time.

and she's wasting her breath hang up on her.

haha I like you!!

If you want to win the fat-war..laugh..and don't make any excuses to kick it every day, you are in charge of you..not anyone else on this earth..GOOD LUCK..WORK HARD!

YUP.

In a span of 4 days, I had not one, but FIVE family members comment on my weight. I was by no means over weight at all, but between my parents, my sister, and my grandma, they all had a different way of calling me "chubby." The fifth person to comment was my aunt, who had traveled all the way across the country to see me that week. When I opened the door to greet her, I did NOT get a "Hello! It's been years since I've seen you! I missed you so much!", rather I got a "Oh wow. You've really put on a lot of weight. Let's draw up a diet plan for you."

Now that I've lost the weight they told me to lose, every time I see them they ask me stupid questions like "are you still eating?"

OMG weiner dog racing ticker I love it and I really want to go to one, closest ones in WV though..........I will go, oh yes I will go.

As much as I love my dad, he has pressured me, pushed me, embarrassed me (beyond belief), when it comes to my weight. Here's to hoping he doesn't say anything innappropriate when I see him tonight. I'm going for a beer or two afterwards and I can see myself being sad/upset again and drinking way too much and then getting the munchies and stopping for donuts on my way home... eeeeeeeeeek!

Not that I would ever use it (and I would love to when my mom gets mean) but you could always reply with "You're right, I am fat and need to lose weight but your a ***** and I can diet"

I usually say it in my head and it makes me smile :laugh:

Absolutely agree.:flowerforyou:

my aunt has always felt the need to comment on my weight (and everything else in my life)- i deal with it when i'm in her presence by fiddling with my phone (she complained to my parents, but i told them why i was doing it and they understood), and by avoiding her/not calling her back.

I like to calmly turn it around to them – “What are you hoping to accomplish by saying that?”

Depending on the reply (willingness to look at their own bad) and how much else I wanted to invest in the relationship, would determine my next response, if any. That maybe the last thing she hears from me for years.

I do not care whose DNA you have, if you are not a person in growth and actively trying to be positive, then you get none of my time or thought, my life is short too.

Even if it is true (at a point in time you were not caring for yourself) her remark has icky intent and depending on her tone delivering it? Why lash at you and throw it in your face? Seems like your accomplishment and turnaround may not fit her family role plan? What little throne of hers do you threaten by being successful?

I am an Aunt of (3). I have a 20 yr old niece over 220#. I was obese as a child and in my 30’s changed from 340# -- 168# @ 5’8”and 44. I know weight comes with all kinds of hurt and I’ve only broached the subject when she has mentioned negative impacts of her weight.

When I have talked to her, I’ve said I love her and cannot imagine her life, beauty, gifts and generous love being extinguished prematurely from this struggle. We share the same struggles plus some awful genetics. I’ve told her it can be conquered, list a bunch of her achievements big to silly and even say “SEE! This S*** has no chance against you on the warpath”. Concluding with, I’d be honored to be her cheerleader, helper and unfailing advocate when she decides to focus on it.

Until then? And at this moment, I focus on all her positives and easily see her with the eyes of love and wonder that I had when she took her first breath.

My reason to say this is :flowerforyou: we all got icky people in our world, but we all deserve better. You were not put on this planet to be their whipping post. Go seek loving, positive people and put the icky ones in your past.

Emmydoodles83 would be sought after as the executor of my estate if I needed one. Wow.