How do you not be "that weird guy/girl"?
xxthoroughbred
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I recently started a new job and one of the big social aspects of it is food. It's great and I can usually do well with lunches and dinners with coworkers, as I like to treat myself and am not extremely strict anymore, but there's also a designated treat table that is often filled with goodies. I hate to turn people down because I feel like I'm being rude. I'm also skinny...I'm not trying to lose weight anymore, but I don't gorge myself on unhealthy foods because I want a healthy lifestyle and I like the way I look. I feel like people look at me turning up my nose and perceive me as being a stuck up girl who thinks of herself as "holier than thou." How do you avoid this? Can you avoid this? I really don't want to give people the wrong impression of me so early on, but I'm also not going to give up my health!
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just tell them you dont like to much unhealthy food as its unhealthy
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What about contributing some healthy treats to the treat table?0
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If someone asks, just say "I used to be very unhealthy, I will treat myself once in a while- but one thing leads to another. Thanks but no thanks! Maybe next time"0
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Can you say you're in training for something? Or too much fatty sweet food gives you gas, so you avoid it :P0
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I have this happen to me sometimes too. Could you say something like "sorry, i already had a cookie earlier," even if it's not the truth? I will be curious to see other responses because I'm wondering about the same thing!0
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Tell them you're training for a run or something.0
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That IS a tough one!
Maybe try, "No thanks, I'm just not hungry right now." Or maybe you could say, "Sure I'll take a brownie" and then only eat a fourth or half of it?
Sometimes I think there is no way around people's judgmental looks. When you're being healthy and when you look good, others feel guilty and shamed when they make an unhealthy choice. And when that happens, the natural tendency is to shift their discomfort back on you with a rude look. Does that make sense? If possible, just try to ignore their looks because you know you're the one making healthy choices and you worked hard to get where you are.0 -
What about contributing some healthy treats to the treat table?
This is a nice idea.0 -
I think that a simple, "no thanks" is fine. If someone takes offense to that, they're the weird guy/girl!0
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maybe just by being honest with them, about your weight struggles and what you went through. who knows you might have something in common with them, they might even ask you for tips or advice and youll be the go to fitness girl at work.0
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I tell people I'm trying to cut back on sugar for my teeth ;-)
You could also develop an "allergy" to whatever the treats most consist of - my husband does this with tomatoes .... gluten is a good one...
Or bring your own special treat
Or just tell them you are saving to splurge on x day (with x being a day you don't see them!)...0 -
Be polite and NEVER judgmental. Do not comment on other people's choices or say anything negative about food or their weight. Compliment people of all weights on something about themselves that you like so that they don't feel judged poorly by you.
Good for you, just realize that other people make their own choices and it's not wise or fair to look down on them for that.0 -
"Oh, I just ate, I'm so full"... or something like that maybe?
For me it's easy, I have lots of food allergies so I always have an excuse if I need one.0 -
Tell the truth...simple as that. Say, "thank you but I do not wish to have any of that unhealthy food".0
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Please do not feel weird. You are watching out for yourself. A few years ago I started a job which had many celebrations. I did well at first, but then I gave in. After two years of doing lunch, birthday parties, and other celebrations, I gained 25 pounds. I am still trying to lose it. Do not give in. You will regret it. Take a veggie or fruit tray. You can enjoy your own snacks0
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People think I'm weird no matter what I eat. I just add being a weird eater to the massive pile of other weird.0
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Binge and purge? Just kidding - just don't eat it. I'm sure they won't notice, it's just more for them.0
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this is a really good blog about that. includes tips
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/lanaholt/view/free-food-is-not-really-free-don-t-sabotage-your-diet-1476430 -
People stopped pushing food on me once I said. Oh, I'm training for a race. It was instant "ohhhh, ok." Then actively telling me not to eat a donut.0
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Since I changed my diet to healthier food it tears up my stomach to eat too much fat or sugar. I tell people that too much fat or sugar upsets my stomach. If you feel really pressured, just get something ... take it to your desk then toss it when no one is looking.0
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I always say that it'll mess up my blood sugar. They assume I'm diabetic or something and leave me alone.0
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Maybe just a short answer along the lines of - I have really struggled with my weight, and if I start I'll eat too many, but thanks!! Or, I've struggled with my weight, so I keep Saturday (or whatever day you're not at work) as my one treat day so I don't go overboard.
In the end, do what's best for you :-)0 -
I also like to tell them that I'm just so stuffed from the awesome lunch that I simply don't have room for another bite.0
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Pretend to be allergic to all kinds of crap.
That's how I got my mother-in-law to stop feeding me tomatoes. (I don't like them)0 -
To avoid holier then though. Say u don't like sweets that much. No thank u is sufficient though. I would think maybe u aren't hungry. What ever the reason it's not rude more for the person that wants them.0
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Don't say you don't want their "unhealthy" food, it always sounds so rude.
Simply say you aren't hungry, you don't care for XYZ, or tell them to bugger off and leave you and your eating habits alone.0 -
Just be honest. I find it fun to be different but I am just weird that way LOL0
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Nothing can be weirder than the girl with the gallon jug of water on her desk.... trust me I know...0
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If someone asks, just say "I used to be very unhealthy, I will treat myself once in a while- but one thing leads to another. Thanks but no thanks! Maybe next time"
This - be honest. You were larger once and now you are maintaining. Just let them know.0 -
how about 'i'm trying to stay away from ___________ (fill in the blank)' they will understand...0
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