I messed up. Can I fix it?
Losingthedamnweight
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I was so on point with my calories today and I was totally fine. And then my wife suggested getting Dairy Queen over and over and I caved and ate like 1500 calories. Ahhhh
It’s like 6pm. Do you think I could just mark it as tomorrows meal and pretend like it never happened? And just eat a light dinner tomorrow to be at my calorie budget. Or does that not make sense?
It’s like 6pm. Do you think I could just mark it as tomorrows meal and pretend like it never happened? And just eat a light dinner tomorrow to be at my calorie budget. Or does that not make sense?
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The easiest way to fix this in my opinion would just be to treat tomorrow as a new day, and to stay within your planned budget then.
Track what you ate today, accept the overage, and start fresh tomorrow.
The trying to make up for it tomorrow could start you down a tough path of feeling restricted and deprived and potentially over-eating again. I have no idea what kind of deficit you're taking, but if it's on the larger side then the DQ won't be a deal breaker for weight loss over the week. On the flip side, if you tried to treat it as a tomorrow meal then you'd be left with very little calories for the rest of the day and that's when I think the cycle of over-eating could continue.
These situations are tough, but just remember - they're a part of the journey! How you talk to yourself about these things could be a huge difference maker so rather than focusing on the "mess up" I'd think about what you can learn from it and then focus on making tomorrow a great day!27 -
Don't stress out. What counts is your trend over weeks and months. Likely you'll be over more days than you are under, and still lose weight.5
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Lose the wife, lose the weight.Losingthedamnweight wrote: »I was so on point with my calories today and I was totally fine. And then my wife suggested getting Dairy Queen over and over and I caved and ate like 1500 calories. Ahhhh
It’s like 6pm. Do you think I could just mark it as tomorrows meal and pretend like it never happened? And just eat a light dinner tomorrow to be at my calorie budget. Or does that not make sense?
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There is absolutely no reason or benefit in logging it for tomorrow. It just means you'll be extra hungry day after tomorrow, and more likely to go over then.
Log it, forget it, move on from it. Those days happen.
...and don't blame the wife Arc2arc. She made a suggestion, she didn't force him there at gunpoint and forcefeed him.25 -
wunderkindking wrote: »There is absolutely no reason or benefit in logging it for tomorrow. It just means you'll be extra hungry day after tomorrow, and more likely to go over then.
Log it, forget it, move on from it. Those days happen.
...and don't blame the wife Arc2arc. She made a suggestion, she didn't force him there at gunpoint and forcefeed him.
It was a joke.13 -
Treat it as a learning experience! Dairy Queen isn’t going out of business and your wife isn’t going to stop liking them. Some things you could do next time: eat your planned meal while she eats hers, eat most of a planned meal and a small treat such as fries or a shake from DQ, look at the menu beforehand and figure out what you can afford to eat, plan to eat at maintenance calories for one day a week so you and your wife can have fast food without guilt, go for an extra long run, bank some calories from other days, and make 1500 calories of DQ fit within your budget.
In the meantime, 3500 calories is about a pound, so 1500 calories over budget - assuming all of the DQ is added on top of the rest of your day’s calories - is about half a pound. Not the end of the world, it won’t cause you to stop losing weight or regain everything you have lost. If it were me - I am super obsessive about balancing my calorie budget - I would probably mark today as a maintenance day then do some extra exercise over the next week, but you absolutely will not die if you just log it and go on with tomorrow as if it never happened! As others have said, don’t try to restrict too much to make up for it, or you will risk losing it.12 -
Agree with everyone else--forget it and go on. However, I'd have a chat with your wife. If she craves DQ every once in a while, ask her if you could both plan for it ahead of time and then you could fit it into your day. When she feels that craving coming on she should let you know. Good luck.8
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its a day.
no biggie.
tomorrow is a new day.
carry on.
In the future... if you GO get DQ... you dont have to opt for a 1500 calorie splurge. get a small something. a kid size something. learning how to account for life and unplanned stuff is part of this. you may still be over, but being over 300 calories is more 'manageable' than 1500.18 -
Perhaps if you regarded your calorie budget as a weekly goal it might not seem so dramatic?
I'd far less worry about going over budget one day or one week as opposed to eating so much when you "caved" as you put it - maybe you are restricting too hard and learning to fit in a more moderate sized treat would be more sustainable?8 -
Lose the wife, lose the weight.Losingthedamnweight wrote: »I was so on point with my calories today and I was totally fine. And then my wife suggested getting Dairy Queen over and over and I caved and ate like 1500 calories. Ahhhh
It’s like 6pm. Do you think I could just mark it as tomorrows meal and pretend like it never happened? And just eat a light dinner tomorrow to be at my calorie budget. Or does that not make sense?
Lol. Did no one else laugh at this??
And to the OP, don't stress out about it; just don't let it be a trend. That's when it's harder(but not impossible) to regain forward momentum.10 -
wunderkindking wrote: »There is absolutely no reason or benefit in logging it for tomorrow. It just means you'll be extra hungry day after tomorrow, and more likely to go over then.
Log it, forget it, move on from it. Those days happen.
...and don't blame the wife Arc2arc. She made a suggestion, she didn't force him there at gunpoint and forcefeed him.
It was a joke.
Some people have a hard time with laughter.
Ok disagreeable people, give it all ya got.6 -
wunderkindking wrote: »There is absolutely no reason or benefit in logging it for tomorrow. It just means you'll be extra hungry day after tomorrow, and more likely to go over then.
Log it, forget it, move on from it. Those days happen.
...and don't blame the wife Arc2arc. She made a suggestion, she didn't force him there at gunpoint and forcefeed him.
It was a joke.
Some people have a hard time with laughter.
Ok disagreeable people, give it all ya got.
i didnt even read the comments so i missed that LOL1 -
Sorry. I'd just gotten some creepy guy I auto-added (then removed after this) sending me messages of fairly explicit nature. I was not in the best frame of mind reading through the threads.11
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I'm also in the "log it, learn from it, make an improved plan, then let it go" camp. If that whole process takes longer than around 10 minutes, it's too long. Others have given you ideas for what the new plan could look like.
The majority of our days determine the majority of our progress. You're in the process of learning new strategies for eating and activity, so that you can reach a healthy weight and stay there long term. Productive learning inherently involves mistakes and corrections. It'll be fine: One day is a drop in the ocean.
On top of that, angst, guilt, self-recrimination, and other emotional drama burn no extra calories, and usually feel icky. Thankfully, they're optional.
Log, learn and go on. 🙂
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What you eat in a single day will have very, very little impact in terms of your long-term results.
Whether you log it for that day, the next day, or 10 years later will have no impact. It's what you do averaged out over time that will dictate what happens to your body.
As everyone else has said, what's important is building sustainable habits, so establishing systems with your spouse where their eating doesn't have to negatively impact your eating. Having a plan for when you are faced with foods that trigger you to binge, and perhaps examining what's happening with your body and your mental state that is triggering binging behaviour.
You didn't mess up anything, you learned something about yourself. Instead of shaming yourself, try to learn from it and find kind, self supporting ways to better support the kind of eating behaviours you want to engage in.3 -
in the grand scheme of things, this really isn't a big deal.5
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Lose the wife, lose the weight.Losingthedamnweight wrote: »I was so on point with my calories today and I was totally fine. And then my wife suggested getting Dairy Queen over and over and I caved and ate like 1500 calories. Ahhhh
It’s like 6pm. Do you think I could just mark it as tomorrows meal and pretend like it never happened? And just eat a light dinner tomorrow to be at my calorie budget. Or does that not make sense?
Lol. Did no one else laugh at this??
And to the OP, don't stress out about it; just don't let it be a trend. That's when it's harder(but not impossible) to regain forward momentum.
We say it enough to women about men. It's only fair! 😀5 -
Two approaches:
1. Sometimes I focus on my weekly average calories more than daily goals. Traveling and eating large on the weekend? Okay, those calories are "spent", so I've got to be under goal for the next several days.
2. Ask, "what can I learn here?" Sometimes this is the harder but more valuable approach to my journey? Could I have found a kind way in that moment to say "no" - like "thanks- but let's plan to go on Thursday when I can budget for it"? Could I have said yes and made different choices so I wouldn't feel so guilty now? Was it the food or the companionship I was needing at that moment and could I have suggested a different way to meet my need for companionship?
Thinking through other choices and mentally practicing has helped me become more aware of how my thoughts affect my feelings that affect my actions, and has expanded my toolkit of ways to take care of myself without hurting the other person3 -
I went to dairy Queen three times in October.
One time my day was over budget the other two times my day ended on budget.
Funnily enough the two ~550 Cal small Blizzard days were the ones on budget and the ~320 to 350 dipped cone day was the one that went over! 🤔
On the Blizzard days I had dinner a bit later and skipped my usual after dinner snack.
I do run a high budget though5 -
Can always to a bit of exercise to offset it a little at least. That is what I am doing when I have a beer !
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i wouldnt worry about it. everyone is entitled to a treat day. relax you didnt undo progress in one day. enjoy and get back to it tomorrow.0
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