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musicmint
musicmint Posts: 469
edited October 2 in Introduce Yourself
There is someone I have known for 6 years now. He asked me to my prom in high school. We are in college and I still like him. Should I just move on since we never dated?

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  • moushtie
    moushtie Posts: 371 Member
    Have you actually tried telling him you're interested? Longing from afar isn't going to get you anywhere. Go and tell him you like him, then go from there, depending what his reponse is.
  • adjones5
    adjones5 Posts: 938 Member
    If you like him and he likes you go for it but if you its one sided then move on so you don't get hurt
  • dayzeerock
    dayzeerock Posts: 918 Member
    Yes.
  • Genem30
    Genem30 Posts: 431 Member
    I don't even know what MPF is, and...what?

    Does he know you like him, or is he oblivious like most men to the advances of women who have historically been "just friends"?

    Need more data to give you an answer that'll probably be wrong anyway.
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    I told him I liked him once and he said that he really enjoys our friendship...
    But why did he ask me to MY prom?????? 6 years and I'm still not over this jerk of a flirt
  • MrsCon40
    MrsCon40 Posts: 2,351 Member
    Six years you've been carrying a torch?

    Yes, move on. 5 years ago if possible.
  • Sherbog
    Sherbog Posts: 1,072 Member
    Heck give him a call. You can do it! I would never tell a date that I liked them until the relationship had time to grow and develope. Just give him a call.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Move on.

    FFS.
  • BellySoonGone
    BellySoonGone Posts: 150
    Get over it - geez..
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    Six years you've been carrying a torch?

    Yes, move on. 5 years ago if possible.

    You're right! lol I like that term hahaha
  • Genem30
    Genem30 Posts: 431 Member
    I told him I liked him once and he said that he really enjoys our friendship...
    But why did he ask me to MY prom?????? 6 years and I'm still not over this jerk of a flirt

    Was it a "Neither of us have a date so we should go hang out at the prom together, you wanna?" or was it a date?

    I went to my junior prom with a female friend, but it wasn't a "gettin' busy in the backseat later yo!" kind of date, it was just 2 people hanging out together due to a lack of actual dates.
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    I told him I liked him once and he said that he really enjoys our friendship...
    But why did he ask me to MY prom?????? 6 years and I'm still not over this jerk of a flirt

    Was it a "Neither of us have a date so we should go hang out at the prom together, you wanna?" or was it a date?

    I went to my junior prom with a female friend, but it wasn't a "gettin' busy in the backseat later yo!" kind of date, it was just 2 people hanging out together due to a lack of actual dates.

    He was already out of highschool and he said "I can be your escort"
    No...we just slow danced like once at prom. I think the conclusion is he's a jerk of a flirt.
  • kandrews24
    kandrews24 Posts: 610 Member
    OMG you poor thing. Maybe a short email or text whereby you say "hey, do you still only like me as a friend or is there a chance of more?" If he never responds let it go. If you get an answer then great. You probably already have your answer though right . . . six years and he didn't make a move. That is an answer. BUT, I know how you feel and if you feel this strongly for this long, I agree it is worth one last shot. What do you have to lose?!?
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    At this point it's an unhealthy obsession for you. Get a puppy and call it a day.
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    OMG you poor thing. Maybe a short email or text whereby you say "hey, do you still only like me as a friend or is there a chance of more?" If he never responds let it go. If you get an answer then great. You probably already have your answer though right . . . six years and he didn't make a move. That is an answer. BUT, I know how you feel and if you feel this strongly for this long, I agree it is worth one last shot. What do you have to lose?!?

    Your dignity.
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    I told him I liked him once and he said that he really enjoys our friendship...
    But why did he ask me to MY prom?????? 6 years and I'm still not over this jerk of a flirt

    Was it a "Neither of us have a date so we should go hang out at the prom together, you wanna?" or was it a date?

    I went to my junior prom with a female friend, but it wasn't a "gettin' busy in the backseat later yo!" kind of date, it was just 2 people hanging out together due to a lack of actual dates.



    He also tried to buy me things before lol
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    sounds like you got stuck in the "friend" zone. I would say probably best not to text, because if he already said he enjoys the friendship, chances are lost likely that's all he enjoys..... You never know, though. One day, when you are engaged to someone else, he could track you down and tell you he's been secretly madly in love with you for years.... but, do you really want to wait another 6 years to find out?
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    sounds like you got stuck in the "friend" zone. I would say probably best not to text, because if he already said he enjoys the friendship, chances are lost likely that's all he enjoys..... You never know, though. One day, when you are engaged to someone else, he could track you down and tell you he's been secretly madly in love with you for years.... but, do you really want to wait another 6 years to find out?

    I thought I stopped waiting for him...I dont call him or anything but that stupid boy's on my mind too much
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    OMG you poor thing. Maybe a short email or text whereby you say "hey, do you still only like me as a friend or is there a chance of more?" If he never responds let it go. If you get an answer then great. You probably already have your answer though right . . . six years and he didn't make a move. That is an answer. BUT, I know how you feel and if you feel this strongly for this long, I agree it is worth one last shot. What do you have to lose?!?

    Your dignity.

    ^^^ Your Dignity for the win. Move on. If he freaks out and you find out he likes you at least you know you made the right choice bc he never had the balls to ask you out.
  • MrsCon40
    MrsCon40 Posts: 2,351 Member
    sounds like you got stuck in the "friend" zone. I would say probably best not to text, because if he already said he enjoys the friendship, chances are lost likely that's all he enjoys..... You never know, though. One day, when you are engaged to someone else, he could track you down and tell you he's been secretly madly in love with you for years.... but, do you really want to wait another 6 years to find out?

    I thought I stopped waiting for him...I dont call him or anything but that stupid boy's on my mind too much

    The best way to get over a boy is to get under a new one.

    You're welcome

    :flowerforyou:
  • sunnbeam
    sunnbeam Posts: 25 Member
    As someone who has wasted lots of time on guys who weren't worth it, believe me, move on. If he was interested, he would have let you know. Especially when you informed him of your feelings. He straight up gave you his answer when he said he liked you as a friend. By wasting time dwelling on him, look at all the other opportunities you're missing. There could be a nice guy at your college who you aren't paying attention to because you're thinking about a guy who isn't interested. If he's flirting with you, then he's being mean and not considering your feelings. Always remember: men do like a chase. And maybe pick up a copy of what I referred to as "my dating Bible": He's Just Not That Into You. It really does speak a lot of truths.
  • afwg1979
    afwg1979 Posts: 170 Member
    If both of you are free to pursue a possible relationship, go for it! Friendship first.
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    As someone who has wasted lots of time on guys who weren't worth it, believe me, move on. If he was interested, he would have let you know. Especially when you informed him of your feelings. He straight up gave you his answer when he said he liked you as a friend. By wasting time dwelling on him, look at all the other opportunities you're missing. There could be a nice guy at your college who you aren't paying attention to because you're thinking about a guy who isn't interested. If he's flirting with you, then he's being mean and not considering your feelings. Always remember: men do like a chase. And maybe pick up a copy of what I referred to as "my dating Bible": He's Just Not That Into You. It really does speak a lot of truths.

    :laugh: yeah I need to marry my homework lol I love the career I'm pursuing
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    Heck give him a call. You can do it! I would never tell a date that I liked them until the relationship had time to grow and develope. Just give him a call.

    forget that!!! I'm traditional all the way :noway:
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    Move on? No. Start collecting stray cats while you're still young. The more the better. Also, never ever under any circumstance, throw out old news papers.
  • otr12
    otr12 Posts: 632 Member
    I had one of these situations when I was younger. I eventually married another man and the first guy killed himself.
  • birdlover97111
    birdlover97111 Posts: 346 Member
    At this point it's an unhealthy obsession for you. Get a puppy and call it a day.

    GREAT advice....
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    I had one of these situations when I was younger. I eventually married another man and the first guy killed himself.

    wow....seriously??? I guess it's always a good thing to wait then.
  • otr12
    otr12 Posts: 632 Member
    I had one of these situations when I was younger. I eventually married another man and the first guy killed himself.

    wow....seriously??? I guess it's always a good thing to wait then.

    Wait for what? If you have feelings for someone let them know. He may feel the same way about you. Either it works, or you get a clear indication that it's time to move on. But don't let years of your life, or his, go by just wondering.
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