Staying hot for your husband! Thoughts?

sosonlove
sosonlove Posts: 1 Member
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
Although, I am newly married, (we have already had 2 kids aged 3 and almost 2), as a woman, I want to first look good for myself and be healthy for my kids, but another big part of staying fit, feeling good and looking good is for my husband! I know marriage is until death do us part, but I do think it's a woman's job to stay looking good, feeling sexy and confident for their man. Men are visual. VERY visual, even if you don't want to believe it, so I think it's important to take care of yourself, feel healthy, be confident and remind your man why he fell in love with you in the first place. Some women may feel like their husband should take them as they are, and good husbands who are in love will, but I feel when women are confident their husband will take notice and it will just add to love he already has for his wife.

My goals are set high when it comes to staying in shape (for the rest of my life), and I can definitely say that my husband plays a big part as to why I do it! What are you thoughts on this?

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  • Birder150
    Birder150 Posts: 677 Member
    A man may still *love* his wife if she let's herself go but he will not find her as sexually attractive.
    If the sex life suffers, his emotional connection to her will also suffer.

    I think it's important for both partners to keep themselves attractive to their spouses. It shows love and respect.

    There is a great book ... His Needs Her Needs by Willard F. Harley that explains the top 10 emotional needs of men and women.
    Finding your spouse attractive is one of the top 5 emotional needs for most men.
  • Alycra
    Alycra Posts: 88 Member
    I think it is important to do your best to be attractive to your mate. I think this goes both ways, but for reasons you cited, I think it carries a little more weight when I woman works at it.
  • Whatareherthings711
    Whatareherthings711 Posts: 316 Member
    I think that's an awesome motivator to stay fit. I feel like if I told a guy, I was keeping in check for him, it'd be pretty damn sexy. Congrats on your beautiful family. Enjoy being and staying hot! ;)
  • Ruchell
    Ruchell Posts: 236 Member
    I completely agree! My husband and I had to have this VERY hard conversation last winter when my weight was starting to get out of hand. It was my wake up call. We have been together since I was 18, so I am far from the cheerleading/dancer that caught his attention, but I still owe it to him to be the best version of myself now. I was very hurt hearing from him how much he loved me but how my weight gain (and my subsequent lack of confidence) was affecting our relationship. Then I asked myself how I'd feel if he'd put on 60 lbs. I would love him still, but I wouldn't see him as attractive as I did before.
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