Facebook birthday

borichfan2
borichfan2 Posts: 8 Member
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If somone who is a family member on your facebook friends wished everyone else in the family a happy birthday except you, & you know they saw it was your birthday, you seen they been on facebook that day, they just ignored your birthday, how would you feel about it? Would you let it upset you? Or Would you wonder maybe if they even liked you since they posted happy birthday to everyone else in the family except you? If they keep doing it every year, would you even consider unfriending them for it?

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  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    I would ask first if you wished them a happy birthday on their special day. If you have, then you have reason to be disappointed. If you did not, then that could be why you got no mention.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Hmmm, yeh I'd be hurt but ideally let it pass and get on with life. We can't give our power of emotions over to others, whether it's due to an oversight or deliberate actions.
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    Happy birthday 🥳

    Feel better?🤪

    Personally... Grew out of birthday stuff long time ago..
  • Moijo2022
    Moijo2022 Posts: 35 Member
    I’d ignore it, they’re the one with the problem , not you 👍
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I don't let social media dictate my feelings. I'm also too old to worry about someone wishing me a happy birthday or not.
  • 88AViva
    88AViva Posts: 499 Member
    I don't remember most people's birthdays anymore, I forgot my own this year. At this point I think being adults and all, birthdays arent a special thing and nobody cares if you forget theirs because they are likely to forget yours. Although I try my best to put in the effort for the people who do the same for me, just so they don't feel like I don't care about them 🙂
  • borichfan2
    borichfan2 Posts: 8 Member
    snowflake954 wrote: »
    I would ask first if you wished them a happy birthday on their special day. If you have, then you have reason to be disappointed. If you did not, then that could be why you got no mention.

    Yes i did wish her a happy birthday on facebook.
  • borichfan2
    borichfan2 Posts: 8 Member
    litha_ wrote: »
    Depends on how close the family member is. If they’re close, I would hope they’d call me up instead. wishing a hbd online seems somewhat impersonal if they’re a close family member. If they aren’t close, I wouldn’t worry about it. I don’t have Facebook though.

    We not close but she not close to the other family members either
  • borichfan2
    borichfan2 Posts: 8 Member
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    I don't let social media dictate my feelings. I'm also too old to worry about someone wishing me a happy birthday or not.

    I don't usually make a fuss about it, but when I see they wishing everyone else in the family happy Birthday but me, it it is disappointing.
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,732 Member
    People say you can't control other people...just your reaction.

    I don't celebrate my birthday but if it mattered to me, honestly, I'd be hurt and then pissed off. Wishing everyone but you a happy birthday when you wished them one? That's just rude.
  • Alinouveau2
    Alinouveau2 Posts: 6,412 Member
    I'd assume they saw the notice it was my birthday and clear it thinking I'll deal with that later then they forgot. Cause that's what I do all the time. Or they thought they had. Really I wouldn't care
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,103 Member
    I don't think we can even count on Facebook showing us a birthday reminder for a person, unless we regularly communicate with them on Facebook. The algorithms can work in mysterious ways.

    Personally, I wouldn't let something like that get under my skin . . . but I have to admit, I'm somewhat random in whose birthdays I post about on FB, depending on whether I logged in on that day, how busy my schedule is, how close we are, and a bunch of other factors. Highly, highly unlikely I'd remember the birthday if FB didn't remind me, unless it was someone super close to me (i.e., we'd talked about their birthday recently, or they were immediate family whose birthday I'd celebrated in various ways for years, etc.).

    Whether someone wished me a happy birthday on FB is not how I gauge their friendship quality, either.

    I'm a huge believer in the idea that we're not so much disturbed by the things that happen, but by our attitudes toward those things, in a lot of cases. In that sense, I'd let it go even if kind of "WTFlip?" about it as first reaction. Stewing about it hurts only me: Waste of my time.

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