NO ENTHUSIASM WHAT SO EVER!

VictoriaAStone
VictoriaAStone Posts: 54
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!!!

I am so stuck at the moment, I want to loose weight and I quite like exercising but I cant be bothered to do it, Im too unfit that it makes me feel ill when I do exercise. Not only that I am unhappy with the way I look but Im not happy unless I have some sort of food in my hand....

I can be good for a week or so but then I get bored and go back to eating what ever... chocolate, sweets, crisps, take aways the lot.

I want to loose 2 stone but I find it so depressing when you have spent a week exercising, hadly eating and then getting on the scales to find you have lost ONE POUND!!!

Can someone PLEASE help me and give me so motivational tips and some exercise advise!?
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  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    You have to want it. Walk away for a few days and come back.
    Someone once told me " When the student is ready, the teacher will come".
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    You aren't going to lose anything if you don't want it badly enough to work for it.

    I don' t mean to sound rude, but you need to "suck it up" and get started already! You've taken the first step by joining MFP, but you have to do the work to see the results. Do whatever it takes to stick with a healthy eating and exercise routine, get through the first couple of weeks, and I promise you, IF you do it right, you WILL start to see results, and it will get easier.
  • Agree with the above post,,when it is your time you to start you will know, Put a picture of you at your heavy's on the fridge it works for me,,then I think twice before reaching for junk :)
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    If you're just starting out and hard core workouts make you feel worse instead of better, start with something slow.

    Take walks. Increase your mileage and speed gradually. I started out with very short, slow walks and now I run. Don't expect to do now what people who have been exercising for years are doing. Do what you can for now.

    I find exercise -- even just a little -- helps me eat better.
  • russelljclarke
    russelljclarke Posts: 836 Member
    You have to want it. Walk away for a few days and come back.
    Someone once told me " When the student is ready, the teacher will come".
    That's from 'Kung Fu' LOL
  • sjcply
    sjcply Posts: 817 Member

    " When the student is ready, the teacher will come".

    I DITTO THIS! No matter how hard you try if YOU are not ready, you will struggle!
    Can you find some type of reward to help you stay focused! Just take it one day at a time, it is a long process. It is a lifestyle change not a "diet" Just replace healthy choices for bad ones, and if you mess up OH WELL get back on board and keep going!

    Good Luck!!
  • I agree. You have to WANT it, if you don't want it, you will find every excuse not to do it.
    It's as simple as that.

    No one here is going to stroke you and say "it's ok, you'll be fine." They will tell you straight up, if you don't do the work, you won't reap the rewards.

    Losing weight is a lifetime committment and you have to make that committment or else it won't work.

    If fad diets and quick fixes worked, there would be no overweight people in this world.
  • kspirit
    kspirit Posts: 61 Member
    Don't give up! I find if I surround myself with folks who are on the same weight loss journey that it is easier. Also, I read lots of magazines, books on fitness and health to get my mind motivated to stay on the journey. You can do! And remember it's just for today, and than tomorow if you do it again, it all starts to flow. We didn't get this way overnight and we will not get the weight off overnight. It's journey so keep on the path.:smile:
  • When I have no motivation that is when i start to say forget it. When you are truly ready to lose weight you will want it and stick with it. My mom went years with trying to lose weight but she never stuck with any of it and she was 250lbs. She finally found her source of what was making her feel the way she did and BOOM started losing weight after she got closure. Some people use food for lots of things depression, stress, the loss of a loved one. You just need to find what is stopping you and put that to rest and then you will have that motivation. It also helps to have a friend or someone to diet with you!
  • 27strange
    27strange Posts: 837 Member
    Without enthusiasm and without motivation you won't never succeed. You have to have a strong desire of what you want and then you have to achieve it. This is the definition of success. Find your motivation, set some goals, and get to it! MFP is chalk full of supportive people and many who have been in your shoes and have been through it, look to them for encouragement and inspiration. You are capable of it!! Its 90% attitude, 80% healthy diet, 20% move your *kitten*! :-) Best of luck!!! :-)
  • bondavbriwil
    bondavbriwil Posts: 62 Member
    Yea. like everyone else is saying. You just have to want it bad enough. Its a long hard journey. Nothing will be easy and the results will be slow. Just start with something easy like walking and get rid of any junk food in the house. Good Luck!
  • ecaz
    ecaz Posts: 115
    I can relate. I am rapidly losing motivation too, and I have in the past as well. You just have to take a deep breath, get back on the wagon and do the right thing.

    I know what you mean about all that hard work and self discipline you have all week and you are only rewarded with one pound of weight loss....but I want you think about it this way: Not - damn I only lost a pound. Instead - YES - I LOST A POUND THIS WEEK!! I DID A GREAT JOB. Losing one pound per week is what you SHOULD be doing. Slow and steady loss will win the race. Yes it sucks. Yes it is unfair. But it's just the way it is.
  • SailingMike
    SailingMike Posts: 237 Member
    The biggest motivator in my life is knowing that if I do NOT exercise and eat properly I WILL die younger. I work with elderly people and see that the active ones are the happy ones.

    Go to a nursing home and talk to the residents. Who do you want to be?

    As for me, I will exercise. I will eat a proper diet.

    Good Luck.
  • START SLOW ,JUST WALK OR CLEAN OR GO TO THE MALL ANY MOVEMENT BURNS CALORIES. TRY SNACKING ON CARROTS OR FRUIT IT WILL FILL YOU UP. DONT STARVE YOURSELF CAUSE IT NEVER WORKS. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY DONT PUNISH YOURSELF JUST GET BACK ON TRACK AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF YOU WILL GET THERE.! ADD ME IF U LIKE ILL ROUTE YOU ON!
  • I know exactly how you feel. I've struggled with my weight for years. I have always liked working out, but something was always getting in the way, I was just too busy or too embarrassed by the way I look compared to some of the other people at the gym to get myself to go. But I must say that this website has helped me greatly!!!! The best advice I have for you is this, if you don't want to totally change the way you eat, don't. But for a couple of days log religiously about what you eat, and don't skip anything. That is what really made a difference for me. I went to taco bell one day and logged what I ate and almost threw up because of how many calories I ate. I just never saw it so clearly that the reason I am so overweight really is an excess of calories. Because even if I work out a lot, I was still eating too many calories to lose weight. But now I pay attention to what I eat. I've found a lot of snack foods that really do taste good and don't have too many calories for a snack, that really has helped. And honestly I love, love, love soda, So sometimes I'll still have one, I just have to make sure that it doesn't cause me to go way over my calories for the day.
    I hope that this helps! Let me know if there is anything I can do for you!!!!!
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Get rid of the Need to exercise, and want to exercise. In the time being, just get your body moving at a iiesure pace. Something is better than nothing.Have a close friend or signifanct other? make your workouts a liesure walk in the eve. maybe down to the local coffee shop for a spot of tea or joe. As for food...it's not all bad. Enjoy a glass of wine, some chocolate, cheat here nd there, just not everyday. And if you do, DONT STRESS it. When your body stresses, it stores.

    Reconfigure some of what you eat, not all of it, at first. Find simple tasty recipies to make. Then when you have those down, take another chunk and change that.

    Feel free to add me.
  • Mommawarrior
    Mommawarrior Posts: 897 Member
    Some thoughts for you. Please don't be offended, I mean no harm, I am just truthful.
    Only you can control what goes into your mouth and what you do. If you sit around eating, that is on you. If you get up and exercise, that too is on you. You are in control of you. There are no magic feel good words that will help you do what you need to do. Only getting up and doing it. There are no magic feel good words that will help you keep from eating what you shouldn't be eating.

    With that said, I did read a quote one time and I do love it. It says "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels". I do find that to be true so maybe you can remember that, I try too.
    But I also do a lot of research on the food I eat because I have RA and every food choice will affect me, either for good or for bad. But I have to say that you don't have to have RA for that to be true. Everything you eat will affect you in one of those two ways.

    Good luck.
  • I was always told to put the skinniest picture of you on the fridge ... everyone is different though.
  • SLambertAlaska
    SLambertAlaska Posts: 197 Member
    well, there are several "hard core" responses here, and they have their place. But another approach is to start slow and take small steps that you CAN manage. Check in every day even if you don't log. Work on getting enough water. I suggest finding one thing you can add each week. Motivation can be elusive, but if you can feel success in small things you can work your way to being the person you want to be.
    Good luck!
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Motivation amd support for you....in the time that it took me to write my original post...like 20 others hit you up to support you!!!
    AWESOMENESS at its best!
  • Focus on your achievements.....nothing (including food) is more addicting than results.
  • many people, myself included feel ill when they first start exercising. this soon stops as your body gets used to it. your body likes and needs exercise. as you exercise more this will increasingly become your source of happiness as you will feel and look healthier. i'm sure most people here struggle with it but it is the good fight. your well being, mental and physical the prize. you CAN do it. it is never to late to be the person you want to be. doing nothing will decrease you happiness, further impact on your health and weight. step up to the plate with the rest of us, embrace a new chapter in your life and reap the benefits. good luck :)
  • I know exactly how you feel....if you don't mind my saying so,you sound depressed,and if you are an emotional eater it will make you eat more,and that will make you more depressed...I have found that sometimes by changing what we tell ourselves it can help break that cycle. When I am dying for my drug of choice(Dr. Pepper),instead of telling myself how badly I want one and how great it would taste,etc......I try to tell myself how great I am doing,and how I deserve to treat myself to a healthy meal,that I deserve it sooo much more than the junk I have been putting in my body. Also,I understand the lack of enthusiam for excercise...becuase of the severe arthritis in both of my knees I have been forbidden from any weight bearing excercise from my doctor,but have stared to enjoy my physical therapy(water based) by telling myself it is something I deserve instead of something I have to suffer through. May sound silly but it is working for me:) Hope that helps,and you are in my thoughts and prayers!
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    I'd also like to add that you are only 24 years old!! If you get going and start a healthier lifestyle now, you will make your life SO much easier in the future. I am 41, and can tell you that after 30, it gets harder and harder every year to lose weight, so why not put yourself at an advantage and get yourself to your goal weight now, before things get more difficult?

    I only wish I could go back to 24 years old and know what I know now. I'd be hitting the gym and eating a lot better every day, and wouldn't have had the struggles I had with my weight (which was mostly during my 30's).
  • little steps....that's all it takes. I'm basically the same as you! Love to eat and it makes me feel good. I've been doing this for a couple of weeks now and already feel much better! I suggest to set yourself 2 rules this week....#1 is just to log on here everyday and record what you eat. #2 just try to make better choices on what you're eating. Go shopping if need be to get some healthy food alternatives in your pantry! As for exercise....just move more! You don't have to run a mile a day or do 20 push-ups....just get up and move for 20 minutes a day. If you like to clean....just vaccuum for 20 minutes (and it'll make you feel good that your house looks nice too). I try to just walk when I can. AND I'm taking it slowly. I know that I can walk faster but I want to just enjoy my activity so that I keep doing it!
  • stubbysticks
    stubbysticks Posts: 1,275 Member
    You don't have to like it, you just have to do it. And when it becomes worth it to you to put forth that effort to lose at a healthy rate, then you'll do it. If whatever eating plan you're following has you feeling deprived, then you're either on the wrong plan, or you're doing it wrong. Take the time to figure out WHAT isn't working for you & make changes. Or don't, & keep feeling like crap. I'm following a plan that never leaves me hungry...in fact, some days I have trouble finishing everything I'm supposed to eat. And I eat foods that I love; the healthy ones whenever I want, & the not-as-healthy ones in moderation.

    That's an even bigger thing...the feeling like crap. Forget the scale. How are you ever going to stop feeling the way you do if you don't change your bad habits? Don't con yourself into thinking it will be easier later, because the exact opposite is true.

    You can do it, but it can't & won't happen until you decide it will. Until you do, hopefully you'll keep hanging around here to draw motivation from the many success stories on this site.
  • meeperoon
    meeperoon Posts: 270 Member
    Ok this is going to sound cruel but...

    Go and look in the mirror.

    Go and get someone to take a photo of you.

    Do you like what you see?

    If the answer is yes then carry on the way you are.

    If you dont, well YOU need to do something about it. I have learned. There is no magic pill, there is no easy way there is no way on earth you can eat everything you want whenever you want and still lose weight.

    Something has to give. Ive tried and given up, tried and given up and well im trying again but this time there's no going back I cant be this size anymore, I cant live with being this tired angry and upset every time I try on clothes and they don't fit the way I want them to.

    MFP will give you the amount you need to eat without exercise (I was given 1200 and I'm losing 1-2lbs a week with hardly any exercise) and if you want to exercise extra so be it, but we cant force you. You have to make this decision.

    Choose foods which you like to eat but eat them in moderation, cut your portion sizes down (mine have been halved!) and drink water if you feel like snacking, everytime you go to the fridge for a snack, get a glass and fill it with water.

    Choose exercise you like, dancing, walking, computer games (kinect and wii if your lucky enough to have them) and do little bits, it doesnt have to be huge, a little exercise is some exercise.

    It wont be easy but your body will adjust and it will stop wanting the bad stuff and appreciate the good stuff, your energy levels will improve and you will want to do more exercise.

    But at the end of the day its all worth it. Every pound is worth it and one step close to where you need and want to be. Only you can make the decision to change!
  • mndamon
    mndamon Posts: 549 Member
    I put up a "before" pic of me about 2 years ago and then all of the receipts for the amount of $ I spent on my home gym up on my bedroom mirror. Every time I walk by it I want to go work out.
  • kimbim60
    kimbim60 Posts: 59 Member
    I think you have to start with some type of exercise you REALLY like doing and work your way up to harder things from there. I started with swimming laps to doing deep water aquacise classes and now I weight lift 3 times a week and do zumba classes 6 times a week. Hope you find something you really enjoy doing, it makes it so much more fun and before you know it , your just hooked on the endorphins you get from exercising.
  • The worst thing to do is focus on how many pounds you need to lose. Focus on how much better you'll feel each and every day. It's amazing how just 1 week of eating better foods can make you feel. Before I came on this site....I was eating too large of portions! Which in turn makes you feel sluggish and depressed...which in turn makes you eat! Being overweight is a vicious cycle but you CAN OVERCOME IT! Look at all the support here...it's amazing!
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