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Does your relationship with your family affect you positivel

ninerbuff
ninerbuff Posts: 49,154 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
For me it VERY positive. I considered my family (both blood and in-laws) to be my best friends as well. We all find time to hang out, laugh, play sports, and of course eat together. I've always been encouraged to "be right" with family even if issues pop up. There is no one that I have a problem with. Does my family need help? What family doesn't? I have relatives who are gamblers, some who are too conservative, and many who are overweight, but we all have one thing in common......................we all get along and don't let personal issues stop us from enjoying each other.

I find that this will also pass on to my daughter since my BIL and SIL's daughter and mine hang out when we're all together. And now with news of more nieces and nephews in the works, I hope that it extends even further!

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  • ehlertmartha
    ehlertmartha Posts: 78 Member
    def neg cause all they do is up me down and make me feel like i am not doing good enough
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    ..., some who are too conservative,..

    impossible...there is no such thing as too conservative. :)

    Edited to add: As for my fitness and weight loss my family interaction affects me a great deal. It all depends on how.
  • Sharon009
    Sharon009 Posts: 327 Member
    Yes, I got all of my closest family members and my closest friend to join mfp and we love it and talk about all the time.
  • mccgivens
    mccgivens Posts: 91
    Use to but don't anymore! If you can't support me, get out of my way. :wink:
  • Brandzilla
    Brandzilla Posts: 51 Member
    My family does pretty good at getting along, but we don't do stuff together unless it's a holiday. Makes me sad. I have kids who's grandpa won't do anything with them and their Aunt is too buys being a social butterfly and hitting they bars than to take time to see us. My in-laws are amazing and do tons of good stuff together, but the live in San Diego. I'm ok though because I feel that my husband I are going to make a family here that does tons of stuff together with our 3 kids and future grandbabies and by then my sister will be older and of calmed down more.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    That's fantastic!! Count your blessings (it sounds like you do) - good family can be hard to find.


    I don't have the best relationship with my families (blood or IL), but we do okay. Basically, we're mostly a "get together at holidays" kind of group. Which keeps me from having any negative influences.
  • stacyfoo
    stacyfoo Posts: 47
    my in-laws are more like family than my actual family. i was adopted and was never allowed to forget it.. not to mention my adoptive father was racist and me being mixed was not a joyful experience. probably more of a reason why i hid myself in books and music. since getting married, i feel like i'm actually a wanted member of a family. sometimes, i still freak a bit and wait for the hateful and mean comments to come, but they never do.
  • maidentl
    maidentl Posts: 3,203 Member
    You're very lucky. Mine would be a very negative influence on me. but as Jerry Seinfeld used to say, I keep a nice "buffer zone."
  • TooFatToFit
    TooFatToFit Posts: 285 Member
    My nuclear family is very tight. There are 4 of us and now that my sister and I are all grown up, we all get along quite well...as long as we don't spend TOO much time together. We spend good time together.

    As far as weight loss goes, we're all to comfortable...too fat, too lazy, too apathetic. I am the one amongst us that feels the most need to change that and break the cycle. My dad has been a lot more active (thank you geocaching) but still loves his fast food and potato chips. I'm hoping to set a good example and make them feel like they can do it to. I love them all and want us all to be around a long, long, healthy time.
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    My mom and I are very close, and I feel that it positive affect on me. My dad and I don't get along in the slightest because we are way to similar.. and he's the reason I lost all the weight I did because I was tired of him telling me how fat and ugly I was.

    My extended family(aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) are all to liberal for my taste and I don't get along with any of them. Their lifestyles are very different from my families lifestyle, and it just causes a huge rift.. so we hardly ever talk to them. When we do see them, I'm pretty much counting the minutes until it's over.
  • BlessedandBeautifulBrown
    BlessedandBeautifulBrown Posts: 464 Member
    I believe all relationship do.. my whole family is crazy.. so yea I am too... but i find even some friends and coworker also.. but it is just so much easier to drop a friend.. lol...
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    My family situation is complicated and should probably be an absolute mess. But, like yours, we all just get along and little spats are settled quickly. My parents divorced when I was little and both remarried and had other kids rather quickly. Weve ALWAYS had holidays/birthdays together - both sides. Im also adopted and found my biological family a couple of years ago. My parents both took them in and they now come and are a part of our family events as well. They really have no reason to be this way - they should hate each other honestly. But Im soooo forever grateful that they chose to do things they way they did.
  • scotslass
    scotslass Posts: 317
    I found it could be 50/50. My mum used to tell me yeh your looking good BUT lol that but always meant a negative afterwards and would take me from cloud 9 smashing back to earth

    x
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    It's... complicated.
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