Night binges

I am looking for support and hopefully some tips from people that have experienced the same .
I have always struggled with binge eating but with being active I was able to bounce back to healthy weight.
Last 4 years have been particularly bad when I started experiencing issues with my spine which subsequently led to having to use a walker and quitting my job at 41.

I have finally had surgery 4 months ago and been cleared to start gently swimming 1x a week and do exercises but I still can't stop myself from binging.
I know how to prepare healthy food track calories and yet I got in a habit of secretly eating at night and feeling horrendous in the morning.

Can anyone give me tips on how to start overcoming this ?
I could eat healthy all day and then ruin it all at night .
I feel horrid because I can walk now ,I can start swimming which I love and I'm still sabotaging myself.
I am now classed as obese for my 5.2 height at 42 years old .

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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    edited August 2022
    I'm really sorry for the traumatic life events you have had. Truly.

    I used food as a friend and as a comfort, too.

    I had to do a lot of work to find alternate, mindful ways of coping with my emotions.

    Have you considered talking to someone for a few sessions? Cognitive Behavior Therapy is really helpful, or there are a lot of websites and books about CBT.

    I'm really glad you're swimming - that's going to help you a lot! You're safe and on the mend now.
  • briscogun
    briscogun Posts: 1,138 Member
    edited August 2022
    Sorry for all your troubles, but sounds like you’re on the path to better days.

    I’m no clinician or doctor or specialist, but it sounds like one of two things, maybe a combination of both? First, are you restricting your calories too much during the day so that you’re starving at the end of the day and eating anything? Or second, it could be that it’s just a habit now and your brain is just sending late night signals that it’s time to plow through the junk food? Maybe both?

    Habits are REALLY hard to break. When I quit smoking, the nicotine was out in about 3 days, but the HABIT clawed at me for months! Every time I finished a meal, brain screamed at me “GO SMOKE!”. Every time I had a drink: “GO SMOKE!”. It took many weeks and months to break it. Might be something similar? Habits are a *kitten* to break.

    Maybe start switching up your routines? Take a late evening walk? Don’t buy any treats that’ll be tempting? Do a quick yoga video or some stretching when the mood hits? Or eat some healthy snacks before the late night cravings even hit?

    They say it takes 3 weeks to break or start a habit, so it’ll be a while, but if you can get through all the stuff you’ve mentioned above you can do this!
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,744 Member
    Good advice has been given so far, especially about changing habits. Habits CAN be changed. Yes, it's difficult at first, but well worth it.

    Also, you may want to keep reminding yourself that your newly repaired spine will recover better and will be better in the long run if your body has less weight to carry.

    Super that you can now start to be active again! Generally, the more active you are the less likely you'll want to over-do nighttime eating if the calories aren't actually needed.
  • MatthewQuinn209
    MatthewQuinn209 Posts: 7 Member
    I almost feel like your talking about me here, mainly because i believe i might be having some spine issues. But besides that, the nightly binges. I am horrible about wanting to eat like 2-3,000 calories worth of Ice Cream and Sweets late at night. For the most part my diet wasent overall to bad, if i didnt eat that much dang ice cream daily.

    I started tracking everything i eat, and swapped the ice cream for a huge bowl of yogurt, with fruit + some sort of chocolate. Its sweet, hits the spot. And i eat this huge bowl right before i need to go to bed. I fall asleep full, and sleep through the night. I dont even want the ice cream anymore.
  • Seasonal_One
    Seasonal_One Posts: 49 Member
    Some people go to bed early. The later they stay up, the more tempted they are. The other thought, don't keep tempting food in the house.
  • JaysFan82
    JaysFan82 Posts: 853 Member
    You can do it! I smoke a ton of weed so the munchies are a constant thing lol. Just gameplan your day. Log all your meals the night before so you know how much room you have for snacks. It's helped me with that issue. I'm down 93 pounds since February. And if the cravings are REALLY bad, go find something to do .
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,333 Member
    I don't binge eat.. but I am a nibbler. ha. My husband calls me that. How I tackle that is I never have sweets, ice cream or cookies and junk food in my home. I just nibbled two crumbles of low fat feta cheese. That's the worst I/ve got in my fridge and I can't pack on the pounds doing that.
    So.. perhaps purge your home of the food you binge on.
  • skellyc74
    skellyc74 Posts: 30 Member
    I would say to try and work a nice evening treat into your daily calories. Unfortunately some self control and will power needs to be exercised also. It doesn't have to be all or nothing though. You've had a tough few months go easy on yourself. I find once I'm exercising my mood improves and It lifts me out of the funk and my diet improves. Start small and set small goals for yourself. Set yourself an evening routine so it could be watch a certain program at x time, have your evening snack at x time. Then bed at x time. Do it for a week or 2 and you will slowly start to feel more in control. Good luck.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,622 Member
    Good advice above, so this is additional, not disagreement.

    Habits: It's usually easier to break an undesired habit by replacing it with a new one, vs. trying to willpower through stopping. In the case of an eating habit, some options would be some mild exercise (walk around the block, yoga . . . ) or some hobby (ideally one that requires clean hands, such as needlework, sketching, playing a musical instrument, etc.; or that creates dirty hands, like painting, carpentry, gardening, etc.).

    Night eating specifically: Others have given good advice about the psychological side of this. I want to point out a physical side: As the day goes on, fatigue increases. As fatigue increases, it would be normal for the body to seek energy. Food is energy, and cravings are a form of seeking. Consider whether you can improve your sleep quality/quantity, or improve non-food stress management (because stress increases fatigue).

    Eating habits, specifically: Over-restricting was mentioned as a possible pitfall. In addition, for me, timing of eating was important. I need a solid breakfast with adequate protein, then protein through the day, and some volume (usually veggies/fruit) in the day someplace, or all be more crave-y in the evening. That exact formula might not be the right one for you, but experimenting with when you eat, the relative size of meals, or the nutrient mix, may help reduce your night cravings. Getting overall good nutrition can also help, because sometimes if we're short on something(s) nutritionally, cravings result . . . and the cravings aren't always for the needed nutrient.

    For me, it took a couple of weeks or so - even once on a good routine - for my body to stop complaining that it wanted to return to old patterns. That part, I had to willpower through. It's kind of like dog training, y'know? Don't reward the undesired behavior, hold strong for a reasonable time, things can fall into place. (You may've already done that - your specific timeline on this point isn't obvious to me.)
  • happyfrog12
    happyfrog12 Posts: 6 Member
    Hi there,

    Sorry if any of this is similar to what other's have posted. Cravings at night are common, so my best advice to reduce those cravings is to eat more throughout the day. Having a large breakfast is imperative; it will impact your hunger levels throughout the day. If you, like myself, have a sweet tooth at night, I would eat fruit throughout the day so your body gets the simple sugars it needs and thereby helps to eliminate cravings later.

    Lastly, try not to worry about what happened in the past; I know that you can do this now!

    I hope this helps,

    HF12
  • csplatt
    csplatt Posts: 1,206 Member
    I buy these little bite size dark chocolate dove ice creams. They are 70 calories each. What if you planned ahead to have something like that, maybe even a few of them, before bed? Go ahead and log it as a part of your caloric allowances?
  • breannbear
    breannbear Posts: 2 Member
    edited August 2022
    SO, not a lot of people know this, but MOST of the time binges stem from restriction. I am not saying that counting calories and tracking is bad, but I mean that dieting can be harmful for many. It leads to food scarcity, biological hunger, etc.

    It is actually not your fault- it is how your brain is wired. There is so much to binge eating.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,622 Member
    edited August 2022
    breannbear wrote: »
    SO, not a lot of people know this, but MOST of the time binges stem from restriction. I am not saying that counting calories and tracking is bad, but I mean that dieting can be harmful for many. It leads to food scarcity, biological hunger, etc.

    It is actually not your fault- it is how your brain is wired. There is so much to binge eating.

    If you have great info from your success that will help others, why not share it right out in public here in a post, where it can help lots of people? The "email me" approach can make people suspicious that you're selling something or the like, and I'm sure you wouldn't want that.
  • mgalsf12
    mgalsf12 Posts: 350 Member
    In my experience, binging happens when I am not eating enough. Eat healthy foods, lots of veggies and fruits, be sure to eat enough fiber and protein. I haven't seriously binged in years, just sometimes eat too much of something sweet or salty crunchy. One day at a time, log everything, and don't beat yourself up if you fall down, just get up and do better the next day.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    Add me to the list of people wondering if "I could eat healthy all day" means you are actually undereating.

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    That said, I do have an issue with eating at night which is triggered by stress. (I only had an overly aggressive weight loss goal for half a day in 2012, lol.)

    I'd gotten my night time eating under control with the help of a therapist and CBT and ACT. Now I'm in a toxic family situation, the night time eating is back, and I lost my therapist last month :cry: I'm starting with a new one Monday, but don't have high hopes until I move out.

    With the health challenges and job loss you've endured, I highly recommend therapy. I love that remote access has been expanded thanks to COVID. It makes therapy so much more convenient.
  • xrj22
    xrj22 Posts: 218 Member
    My quick tricks are either brushing teeth or eating a grapefruit at the time that binge cravings tend to come on. Either of those leave me not wanting to eat for a while.
  • loriweaverhawkins
    loriweaverhawkins Posts: 1 Member
    This is my biggest issue as well, as I am often up late at night working I am finally getting it under control. Number one is simple: stop the impulse to buy your favorite binge foods so they are not in the house. Second thing is change your sleep pattern so you go to bed earlier and stay asleep.