I could really use your help

804mailbox
804mailbox Posts: 1 Member
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Hi everyone, I’m newish here. With the help of my fitness pal in the past i went from 270 down to 225. However, since then I’ve gotten up to 307 lbs.

Like many I’ve watched my 600 lb love and wondered, “how the hell does that even happen?” But I’m seeing it happen to me. I remember in high school hitting 200 was a crazy moment to me and i remember being mocked for my weight.
But there’s no way i can get in the clothes i use to wear.

I’ve just really lost self control. I struggle with balance. I’ve always felt the need to jump in head first. So i keep trying crash diets which i know won’t work. I know the right answers in my mind and i know what i need to do as a whole. I just feel unable to even listen to myself anymore.

I don’t know what I’ the end goal is of this post. I just would appreciate anyone’s help please.

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  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,817 Member
    I don't know what to tell you, except that I'm cheering for you, and sending virtual ((granny hugs)).

    Have considered a short course of therapy, perhaps cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)? (If you're watching 600 pound life, that's one of the tools they use, too, right?). I haven't used it myself, but I've seen others here recommend the book "The Beck Diet Solution" as a source for self-help CBT.

    I've also seen folks recommend particular podcasts they found helpful in this regard . . . I don't remember the details, but if no one shows up on this thread with comments about those, you might find some by searching in the Community for podcast threads.

    Life balance is hard for most everyone, it just manifests differently in individuals. There's no stigma in using therapy, or shouldn't be. We use personal trainers when we need help with exercise programs, registered dietitians when we need help with nutritional issues . . . it should be no different to use a therapist if thought patterns are the issue, y'know? (I've used a psychotherapist myself, for a non-eating issue. It was helpful.)

    You can find a path through this, truly, I'm sure. Patience, and just keep trying things that seem sensible, learning from anything that doesn't turn out ideally, keep going, don't give up . . . you can do this. Even though I'm a total stranger, I'm cheering for you, like I said!
  • neanderthin
    neanderthin Posts: 10,309 Member
    It's a tough one for sure, and your not alone, the vast majority of the country is in the same boat. Your simply going to have to make better food choices and ones that would resemble real food (whole food), that generally have fewer calories. This may be obvious but remove any highly palatable ultra processed foods from your home and try to reduce that consumption when eating out. This adjustment will reap rewards that you can see over time and who knows, maybe that could motivate you going forward. good luck.
  • Une_Poire
    Une_Poire Posts: 58 Member
    I can relate to the nothing fits frustration - you don't want to buy larger clothes when your desire is to lose weight, but you beat yourself up every time you struggle to get dressed!
    And I think its very human to know what we need to do and yet find it hard to do it, and to seek quick fixes instead. You are definitely not alone!
    Ann mentioned the Beck Diet Solution already. Another good book that also addresses the mindset aspect of weight management is The Shift by Gary Foster. He's associated with WW but the book applies to any weight loss effort
  • aliawim
    aliawim Posts: 7 Member
    Have you tried drinking water? That's how I'm starting, especially since right now there's all kinds of holiday treats hanging around everywhere. So I'm not fighting it, just adding water, gatorade, etc and hoping that will fill me up before I eat (at least that's my current strategy.
    Also, don't beat yourself up. There are plenty of us who have gained weight and are trying to find a way to drop the weight. Ask and we will be sure to give you the encouragement you need. We are here for you and cheering you on because we know you can do this.

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