Mother is extremely pushy about eating

UnlimitedSufferingForever
UnlimitedSufferingForever Posts: 1 Member
in Motivation and Support
I live at home (I'm 19) and every time I start dieting and counting calories, she (my mother) tries to guilt me into eating. It usually comes in the form of making or buying a massive amount of food and shaming me for being wasteful.

Instance: Last week I wanted to do intermittent fasting for just one day, and upon telling her this, and that I'll only be having dinner, she orders roughly $100 of food no later than about 1pm. And then yells at me for wasting her money, about how it's going cold, about how ungrateful I am when I do not eat any of it. She eats not a bite herself. And then it all gets thrown out. We're not rich by any metric, but she'll willingly throw away hundreds of dollars per week on takeout and groceries that neither of us eat.

I have no idea what to do. She has done this my entire life. Every week she bakes a batch of 50+ cookies, buys gallons of ice-cream, makes several massive feasts. Neither of us eat a bite of it.

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  • lulalacroix
    lulalacroix Posts: 1,082 Member
    Have you sat down with your mother and had a serious conversation with her about your needs? If not, this may be the time. I would probably let her know about your goals and explain to her that these behaviors hinder your success.

    If this doesn't work, then you'll have to find a way to not let her control your situation. She can buy all the take out and make all the cookies, but you don't have to consume them.

    For me I have learned that when people are pushy, I tend to not give them any of my focus after the initial conversation. Some people enjoy drama, I don't. Has actually worked well for me.

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