I cant stop at 1

Old habits die hard! You have to change the habit of coming home and have that one cookie. Don't buy those cookies any more OR get into another habit...like coming home and going for a walk instead!

I know for me, I used to justify my overindulgence by saying, "I've been so good all day. I deserve these cookies. I'll just eat less tomorrow."
If you're eating them only when you just get home, try substituting another action in place of this habit. Maybe have a healthier choice within reach. Or, write yourself a note & stick it to the cookies.

Sugar to me is like cocaine to a junkie. I can't stop either, that's why I don't start anymore. And I keep that stuff out of my house for that very reason.

I agree. It is hard. The only way I can stop snacking is not to have ANY snack stuff in the house. Give yourself a break and just dont buy them, then you won't have to beat yourself up about not stopping at one. Instead you can congratulate yourself for not going down the snack aisle in the supermarket, not buying the cookies etc - yay, result!

its hard becuase i have kids that like to snack (NOT fair I also like to snack)

anyway I have this argument with my wife. I tell her not to bring it home and she claims They dont need to "Suffer" becuase I lack control.

That's harsh. It's really about so much more than just "lack of control", it's a massive test of strength! Tell her to store them where you can't see them and make sure the kids don't eat them in front of you (go out for a walk!) I didnt want to stop my boyfriend enjoying his snacks so I just made sure I didn't know about them. People close to you have to respect you're trying to change yourself and your health.

its hard becuase i have kids that like to snack (NOT fair I also like to snack)

anyway I have this argument with my wife. I tell her not to bring it home and she claims They dont need to "Suffer" becuase I lack control.

I don't keep anything I like in the house. I do have healthy snacks for us and the kids. If I really have a bad craving, my rule is I have to walk or bike to the store to get it. The store is only a mile and a half, not a big deal, but after a long day and a full tummy after dinner, it usually isn't worth it.

Before taking that 1st bite of cookie, log it. Then decide if you want more for dinner, or if that box of cookies is worth it.

Don't buy crap and you won't have crap at home to binge on.

I was complaining all over MFP last night because I wanted to just sit down with a bag of chips and eat ALL of them, but I don't have it in my house, so I couldn't. Don't have it in the house, it's the easiest way to do it until you can retrain yourself.

Also, eating sugar makes your blood sugar spike and fall, causing you to want more...

If you really want to have that 1 cookie after work (or whatever), then you might want to make individual servings at the begining of the week (month) and that way you don't have the whole box open to you when you go to get one. You have the one or two (or appropriate serving) already packaged and you can walk out of the kitchen.

I kicked my eat the whole box of cookies habit by changing how I snack rather than what I snack on. I used to stand at the counter and eat a cookie, then another, then another, and it took way too long to close the box and put it back in the cupboard. Now I get a plate, take out one (or two) cookie(s), put it on the plate, put the box away, go sit at the table or on the couch, and spend a good 5 minutes slowly eating the cookie, taking small bites, and focusing on how much I'm enjoying each bite. Then, when I'm done, I sit a couple more minutes thinking about how completely satisfying that was.

I'm sure that won't work for everyone, but for me, if I eat sweets too quickly the craving doesn't go away, it just makes it worse. If I eat them slowly and focus on the experience, I can limit myself to a serving size and feel way more satisfied than when I ate half the box at once as fast as I could.