its dumb but im scared to tell my boyfriend im dieting????

I didn't tell mine right away...probably a month or so. I'm not sure why. I guess maybe because if I failed I didn't have to admit it!

He's also a total foodie that eats garbage for every meal...as in literally eats out/fast food EVERY meal and never gains. He just "doesn't get" what it's like for some of us.

I had him pick up Supreme 90 for me from the store a month later so he knew after that. Now he's telling everyone how I'm getting fit and losing weight. But in the beginning....I didn't tell anyone. It was my private journey at first.

Instead of looking at it as a "Diet".....Make a lifestyle change. Diets end but when you change to eating healthy and exercising....it's something you do throughout your life. I would just tell him your making these permanent changes in your life and need help. Tell him that you would prefer to cook meals at home. There are TONS of delicious and healthy recipes out there.

These girls are too quick.

I was gonna say this. 'Diet' always sounds bad, negative and brings about crummy feelings.

Stress you wanna live healthier and make better choices.

On the plus side, mention you could save money (on eating out) , learn some new things, and spend some more time togther. Setting aside a night to cook a new kinda meal is a pretty fun way to spend an evening. Maybe it'll bring you two closer and strengthen the relationship.

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The moment I realized diet as a four-letter word things improved. I was brought up in a household that third and fourths were expected at a meal. My mother did not eat well (otherwise a wonderful woman) but she lost her life to sarcoidosis(kidney failure) She drank to much diet cola and ate what she wanted. She ended up with diabetes.I was around Pennsylvania Dutch,Italians, Cajuns,Mexicans, and many other people that cooked fat laden foods. I lived next door to eight different fast food restaurants and tried them all daily. The gatherings I went to were smorgasboards from all over the world. I desired to be a marine biologist but was told I was not college material so instead I worked various jobs around food and chemicalsand three years ago became a sales rep where food is everywhere.I was very active in sports and loved to hike and travel. But several tradgedies occured in a short period of time that I did not handle well. My health changed and I was not as active because of nagging allergies and diagnosed asthma.One day after marrying my wonderful wife she found a book called the Riverkeepers that made me think about why I felt so sick. I started looking into things out of curiosity,I stopped drinking soda (nine years now) Still not enough to change things. Then I stopped eating refined sugar,then saturated fat,then meat(I went back to lean meats) All the while dieting thinking this is the way but I kept not losing weight for any amountof time. Finally I realized I needed to change me and to set goals, to let go of stress and the old reels of film that kept me from being me. Now I am in College and have a 3.80 GPA and I don't live to eat. I eat healthy and avoid the splurges that lead back to addiction. I live life for life and not what others may see on the outside. Bottom line is I changed my lifestyle overeating and undereating are both signs of other problems that need resolving. Do this for yourself for your health for you and do it properly don't starve yourself of nutrients. Fast food is not food it is filler in the form of food. Good luck and enjoy life in health!

i need to though because he likes to go out to eat and i always have a hard time with ordering a salad at a restaurant.

You might want to check out the webpages of some of those restaurants if you haven't already (And if they have one). Many times I've found that the salad is not the lowest calorie/healthiest item on the menu.