eating disorder and my daughter?

justanotherteenagemom
justanotherteenagemom Posts: 63 Member
edited October 3 in Chit-Chat
i've struggled with eating disorders just about all my life.my fiance brought to my attention that if i keep doing what i'm doing, as our daughter gets older she'll see the road i've chosen and decide to follow it. i don't want that. i don't want her to go through the hell i've gone through.

i'm scared. real scared.

:/

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  • voluptas63
    voluptas63 Posts: 602 Member
    Today is the day to get help and make it better. Good luck.
  • GibsonDarlin
    GibsonDarlin Posts: 202 Member
    One day at a time, one foot in front of the other, one meal at a time.......you can do it!
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    how much does she see you obsess with food?


    have you been getting help?
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Go get help before she's old enough to realize what's going on. And do your best. We're here for you. =)
  • potluck965
    potluck965 Posts: 529 Member
    If you cannot handle it yourself, get professional help. Your daughter will pick up a lot and follow in your footsteps if you cannot control your problems and she will start seeing things at a much earlier age than you might imagine. You are right to be concerned about her perceptions.
  • Kaimana94
    Kaimana94 Posts: 165 Member
    Agree get help. If not for you, for her.
  • sunyg
    sunyg Posts: 229
    As a Mom to 10 year old and a 13 year old girl, this is very true. Especially with my 13 year old. She knows I am trying to lose my baby weight and we have had discussions on her having a "small" tummy. So I have to be super careful.

    Girls watch EVERYTHING their Mom's do especially as they get older. I know it is a struggle, but what a great reason to finally get healthy! So your daughter knows the right way to do things! It won't happen tomorrow but just take it a day at a time. If it doesn't work today retry tomorrow and before you know it you will have several day that were awesome! Just keep trying and do not give up. YOU and your daughter are worth it.
  • Ashleypeterson37
    Ashleypeterson37 Posts: 347 Member
    I had to face that same reality. I have an almost 3 year old daughter. My husband said the same thing to me when she was a year old. Getting help is the next step. You CAN do this. It's a hard road but one that is VERY worth it for both you and your daughter.
  • sweetiepie31612
    sweetiepie31612 Posts: 240 Member
    My sister suffers from depression and has become bulimic as a result of her self loathing. ONe of her biggest fears is that her depression and bad decisions will be passed down to her children. She's gotten help though. She see's a therapist and is on medication and she has gotten herself healthy and happy. I suggest the same to you and wish you the best of luck!
  • DimplesInProgress
    DimplesInProgress Posts: 149 Member
    Having struggled with eating disorders myself, here is the only advice I can offer. Decide to make a change. And commit to it. Tell your mate you have decided to eat and live a healthy lifestyle. Being on MFP is a great start. Stay away from pro ana/mia sites. Just don't go there. Block theme or have your mate bloke them and put a password on them if you need. And do your best to explain to your daughter that mommy is not very good at eating healthy. But that you are practicing at it. Just like shes not very good at (math, science, ballet, soccer, etc.) and she has to practice at it. sorry if thats not much help. But just COMMIT and stick with a steady eating plan.
  • quietlywinning
    quietlywinning Posts: 889 Member
    My kids were the reason I overcame the eating disorder and decided to learn healthy eating habits. It's worth it. You can do this! Help is available.
  • countrydarling1
    countrydarling1 Posts: 386 Member
    My daughter is 7 & a chuncky little girl & she worries about getting fat, she has already started tryin to eat out of boredum & it kills my heart! that is on major reason in taking the step to get me healthy, so that she doesnt growup & have the same problems i struggle with.
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