trying to loose weight without family support

Start your own program and make changes that are good for you. Don't preach to them. Offer to make a few meals each week. This is where you can show them healthy eating can be tasty! Good luck! You can do this

/agreed. If they want to lose weight, it's their decision, and it's not your problem to preachto them. Sounds harsh, but really its the best way to go about it without losing sight of your goals- trust me. They will eventually follow by example and you wont even have noticed.

I could NEVER depend on my husband to make good choices even with 2 Type 1 diabetic children in the home. Just because HE wanted ice cream, he didn't think it was bad to bring it in the house,

I've grown accustom to depending on myself and finding my own inner strength both while keeping my family together, and focusing on my health.

Just because you came up with some harebrained scheme to lose weight doesn't mean your family needs to make changes. Of course I'm joking about losing weight being a harebrained scheme, but try to look at it from their perspective. You've all had this pattern of interacting for countless years & food is naturally a part of that pattern, & out of nowhere you decide you want to change your part of the pattern. How easy do you expect that to be, not just for you, but for them?

Not only do you have different dietary needs now, but they have to face the all too obvious fact that you are now ready to face your weight issues head on. It's hard to stay in denial & be around someone like that.

They don't have to change just because you did. And you don't have to judge them if they don't choose what you now choose. If you are truly committed to your new lifestyle, you'll work around any & everything, including your family's lack of engagement in YOUR project.

Don't make it an issue or you'll drive an even bigger wedge between you & your family. I don't go around talking about weight loss or my health unless someone asks. Now, HERE, it's another story...;)

As the others said, just do whatever you plan to do to lose your excess weight & don't worry about them. They don't have to like it, you do. If one or more of them decides to follow your lead, encourage them as much as you can, & continue to love them as much as you can even if they don't. When you accept people as they are, that makes it safe for them to try to change.

Since your family needs to lose weight too, and the holidays will soon be here, maybe, just maybe, they would like a weight loss challenge. A money pot works with most people, at least for 2 or 3 wks. Then they can find their own support system...oh hey, maybe MFP???? If they agree, weigh in with a certain amount of money....then weigh in each week, same time....anyone who gains that week, they have to put another $1 in the pot. They can skip 1 weigh in, but anymore, they have to pay $2. The challenge could last for 9 wks. Just a thought for family togetherness!

That is a good idea, yea they alll need to loose at leaast 10 and my mom should drop like 100 and we all know we are over weight (obese) but the on and off healthy kicks are frustrating my mom might join mfp with me and once she starts loosing i bet evryone will wanna get healthy:) i just need to but out and let them do it.

I haven't met a person yet who successfully got all their excess weight off the very first time they tried. I think we've all waffled before with the on & off stuff, & there was really no way to predict when it would ever "stick." Rather than being frustrated, I'd interpret their on & off as attempts to do what they know they need to do.

I agree that "butting out & letting them do it" is probably best. If they initiate wanting you as a partner or something, then definitely be supportive. I've found that when you tell someone they need to do something, they're less likely to do it because if they do, you'll think it's because you told them to. It's important for people to be able to take credit for their own accomplishments.