Down in Dumps Up in Weight

OMG, I joined 2019 I was 209 lbs... NOW!!!!!244 :'(
I definitely need to kick my *kitten* in gear. I am not surprised because my BF kept telling me I was gaining but I was in denial. I set a goal that I would not eat any junk food starting Nov.1,2023. So on Halloween I ate a bag of kraft caramels, a bag of salt and vinegar hickory sticks(dollarama bag), 2 dairy milk, a peanut butter cup, and 2 bags of licorice pals...
My last junk meal. I weighed myself this past Saturday and will only weigh myself on Saturdays.
I have set goals like this before and have succeeded and failed, mostly the no chocolate no candy goal, but as of today I have not eaten any candy or chocolate or chips since Nov. 1.
My goal is to for the next 3 months not to have any of those poisonous foods. I know its not poison but I really have to buck up and do it,, BECAUSE I know I CAN DO IT!! I quit smoking, I cut way way way down on drinking to only once a month, quit hard drugs, quit being a *kitten*(i think)
I turned 59 in July and I want to make it to 60

Wish me luck and glad to be back

Bonnie5000

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daygirl5000

oops posted wrong category please move if you can

MampyNoMore

I'm rooting for you! You will do it! This time of year is so hard, and lots of us tend to just say "Oh well, I'll get serious in the new year!" Well done on getting serious NOW! Imagine how far along you'll be and how great you'll feel a year from now. It's such a struggle, but well worth it.

AnnPT77

@daygirl5000 , if you want your post moved, click on "flag" underneath it, then "report", then click the "other" selection, and put in a note saying this is your post and saying what category you want it moved into. The flag will get the moderators' attention, and they're usually willing to do things like this. (It might take a little time - they're volunteers, and busy!

Sparkuvu

Wishing you motivation to get back in the swing and to Just Do It! Been on the back slide myself, and finally moving back the right way. We can do it!
Maybe it would help to do some deep thought about how you went from your starting to today. Really zero in. And then think, what little things can I change that will prevent me falling back into ________, that I have identified as a cause of my gain. Can I decide to do _____ every time I'm tempted to _______. If head voices are a problem (big one for me--just this time, oh it won't hurt, oh I've already blown it anyway, on & on) plan an answer and stick to it! Hth!

HealthyGinny

Good luck, you can do it! Take it one day at a time.

lacylucy1935

Wow! Congrads to you!!!

You need to give yourself credit, you have overcome some of the hardest things that can be. One step at a time, and you are right, that crap is very bad for you in all ways. Start by praising yourself for YOU and what you have done. Then walk proud and focus on a new you. I am 60 and finally comfortable with myself, could lose a few more but staying in check to not gain. Prayers to you and best of luck. You got this, give yourself some time too!!

mjglantz

You can do it. Slow and steady. It's the holiday season and that can be tough. If you commit to some small sustainable changes you'll do great and as those become habits, you can build on them. And find some time to move every day.

ksharrell48

I echo the sentiments of all above. I'm 60 and have bounced all over the scale over the past 30 years but have finally found my groove (I think/hope, lol) All the best to you!!

daygirl5000

LOST 4LBS IN 10 DAYS.....YAY me

thankyou everyone....mwah

kraft024

What's helped me is not giving up the things I like. Find a treat that you crave but where you can still exercise self-control. For me that is peanut butter chocolate ice cream. Just one half of one of those little tubs is 580 calories. But I can save up for it, on workout days mostly, and enjoy it at night. It helps this be something sustainable, a routine that I can keep up indefinitely. Good luck to you!

aswanfletcher

Good luck

Rushko

Good luck on your journey but I would be careful with goals like never eating junk food again. When you draw a solid line like that and ever cross it things can fall completely apart. I'm a fan of "bend but don't break." The beauty of calorie counting is you can have literally anything you want as long as it adds up. Which for me is why it works vs any other diet or system. If I feel like a candy bar, I'll eat one! Just the only difference to before is that I only have the 1 instead of 3...and then 2 more later. Just the act of counting daily reminds me to think "do I really need this" before eating because I know then it means I won't be able to enjoy my dinner as much, or whatever else that day. And on the rare occasions the answer is "yes" I let myself eat more, if I'm that hungry, because I'd rather not get down on myself and still know that I'm winning most days at least, rather than feel like I've failed, get down on myself, and possibly give up for one mistake.

So long story short be careful with "nevers" and "always." For me what makes this work is not having to have rules like that. I've done the "never again" thing with drinking. And it works! For a while. It worked for me for several years in fact, but inevitably there comes a time where you think "ok just one" or "maybe I'll try again and moderate" and it completely falls apart. So I don't want to make that same mistake again with eating.

Sett2023

Rushko wrote: »

Good luck on your journey but I would be careful with goals like never eating junk food again. When you draw a solid line like that and ever cross it things can fall completely apart. I'm a fan of "bend but don't break." The beauty of calorie counting is you can have literally anything you want as long as it adds up. Which for me is why it works vs any other diet or system. If I feel like a candy bar, I'll eat one! Just the only difference to before is that I only have the 1 instead of 3...and then 2 more later. Just the act of counting daily reminds me to think "do I really need this" before eating because I know then it means I won't be able to enjoy my dinner as much, or whatever else that day. And on the rare occasions the answer is "yes" I let myself eat more, if I'm that hungry, because I'd rather not get down on myself and still know that I'm winning most days at least, rather than feel like I've failed, get down on myself, and possibly give up for one mistake.

So long story short be careful with "nevers" and "always."

Amen to this! Me too, that's the only way it works.
I tried both ways, and yes, without my treats I lost more more quickly, but I regained all and also some more, 'cause it's not an enjoyable way of living, and it's tooo sad to apply it, sooner or later you give up.
With my normal eating slightly readdressed (and I underline: slightly), I lost more slowly, but never regained (more than 10 years so far).
Now i've decided to lost some other kilos, and I'm doing it very slowly again (other 7 kilos in 9 months, so far), and it's very easy, 'cause I do not renounce anything. I still have my croissant for every breakfast, my weekly pizza and my weekly hamburger + fries, and my beloved pasta 4 or 5 days/week, and so on.
The difference is, for instance, that when I eat pasta it's half plate pasta and the other half vegetables and proteins; the pizza 9 times of 10 is with vegetables; fries are the little or medium container, and I eat also a big bunch of lettuce and tomatoes; and the morning croissant is giant but it's one (and not two or tree... simply, I don't buy the box at supermarket, or I'd eat them all in a day, but I eat it at cafè. And, since the cafè is about 1500 steps from home, I also "gain" 3000 steps moving ;-) )
Also, I discovered that the "plate diet" is more more satisfying - at least, for me - than other ways of eating: mixing all the nutrients in the same meal (both for lunch and dinner) satisfies me for more hours, so I have no craves and no hunger (I before ate one meal proteins + vegetables and the other one carbs).
And I'm really making no efforts, so I know I can do this for all life, 'cause at the bottom it's my usual eating, simply better balanced/mixed.

Edit for adding: I'm perimenopausal. And it's absolutely not a problem, I nonetheless lose without effort.

cordalesmom

you can do this!!!

antigone414

You've got this! I do too!

september192023

You have already done the hardest part in recognizing it's time for change. Good for you! You also came to MFP seeking support in this change. Let those two facts motivate you into the new year. We are all rooting for you and wish you well in this new adventure - KEEP GOING!

MissDork

i definitely feel you. I ran off the rails during covid, being trapped at home (I'm on immune suppressants) and the man I love got tired of waiting for me and dated someone else. I was so lonely and tired and down on myself. I entered covid at 250 and ended it at 302.

BUT I know that if I just log my calories before I put food in my mouth, it helps me make better choices. I don't forbid anything to myself, just tell myself if it's in budget I can eat it (to be fair, things like chips and dip, I just don't keep in the house because I KNOW 28grams of chips and 2tbs of dip is not where I would stop LOL).

We can do this!
Progress, not perfection.
Habit, not motivation.

adavidhartmann

Try walking 10l steps each am 1st thing. Health and weight loss may achieve.

adavidhartmann

10k

vodarsgirl1

You're doing great! Stay strong. I found what works for me is to only have what the serving size is that is listed on the package. Allowing a treat periodically, but only the one serving size. That rule really works with anything. I wish you continued success.

donnataub

We’ve all been there. Here are a few tips that are helping me.
1. I plan all my meals and snacks for the day, then I keep busy. It’s so much easier to stick to my diet when I don’t have to make decisions on food throughout the day. I am a disaster waiting to happen when I feel hungry and say, “HMMMMM, what should I eat?” It is kind of like going food shopping on an empty stomach. You know you are going to go over budget on extra items.
2. I love candy also. I put mini candy bars in the freezer, and I take two when I get a craving. Denying myself candy will just make me crave it more.
3. Find ways to increase your exercise . ( Park at the far end of the parking lot. Carry groceries into the house from the car one at a time, NOT in bags. Throw the dirty laundry on the floor and bend to pick each item up to put in the washer. Etc)
4. Each hour brings a new start. A mistake should not ruin your day. Forgive yourself ,Let it give a new resolve.
Best Wishes.