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paisleydaisy347
paisleydaisy347 Posts: 1 Member
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Hello all, I've just downloaded the app and beginning this journey with my fiance before our wedding. I'm excited but don't know what to expect. Does anyone have any suggestions on what you did to keep motivated?

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  • mtaratoot
    mtaratoot Posts: 14,259 Member
    Don't rely on motivation. It will leave you cold at the end of a dark alley. Instead, work on building good habits that you can rely on for the rest of your life.

    Think about brushing your teeth - you probably do that. Are you MOTIVATED to do it? Yeah. Me neither. But it's important, so it's a habit. What about going to work in the morning. The motivation is just not to get fired for not showing up but that's kind of weird motivation. Kind of like the motivation of not meeting your goals if you don't develop good habits around food, nutrition, and fitness.

    So skip the motivation and work on habits!
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,223 Member
    Ideal advice from @mtaratoot.

    I get that you want to be slimmer for your wedding, but wouldn't it also be nice to stay at a healthy weight forever? That's about habits. No way I can stay "motivated" for the whole rest of life, and I want to be at a healthy weight permanently. (So far, I'm in year 7+ at a healthy weight after about a year of loss, and 30+ years before that of overweight/obesity and decades of poor health markers that were starting to come home to roost in the form of actual poor health.)

    "Lose weight fast" does require motivation, willpower, discipline and other things I'm pretty bad at.

    I hope you have some months to go before your wedding. It's sadly common here to see people want to lose many tens of pounds/kilos before a wedding that's coming up sooner. If they succeed - far from a sure thing - they're likely to arrive at the wedding depleted, looking haggard, maybe thinning hair and brittle nails, maybe worse, rather than being glowing, attractive, and vivacious. The latter positive outcome depends on slower loss, good nutrition, and healthy, sustainable, ideally fun exercise.

    Give it some thought: How about aiming for a long, healthy happy married life together at a healthy weight, active and eating nutritiously. If you plan to have a family, that will ease conception and pregnancy, plus bring children into a home where healthy living is modeled by the grown-ups routinely. That would be good, seems like?

    No matter what you decide, I wish you much success, both with your weight loss goals and your marriage!
  • mlconstant5
    mlconstant5 Posts: 43 Member
    edited February 6
    Congratulations on the engagement and welcome to the MFP community!

    While your motivation is strong, write down your goal(s) and your ‘why(s)’. Because motivation is a rollercoaster where we have good days and off days. Like mentioned above, motivation can leave and that’s when reading what’s important to you can help remind you what you’re working towards.

    At least, this is what I am doing to keep going. I also make small daily goals to achieve for “small wins” that add up at the end of each week/month/ect and in doing so, building habits.

    -Mel

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